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I''m planning on contacting my eye doctor to get contacts for our wedding (no pun intended). I''ve tried contacts twice in my life and both times I wanted to scratch my eyes out every night. My eyes just couldn''t get used to them. My eye doctor told me the last time I gave up wearing them (about 10 years ago) that contacts were pretty much made for a certain shaped eye, which I don''t have.

I was talking to a friend not too long ago and she commented on how I''d look different without my glasses. I''ve worn them since I was in fourth grade, and they really are my eyes. I can''t see a thing without them. My friend was saying that if everyone is used to seeing me with my glasses every day, all day, that I should just go with it.

I can''t help but thinking that it would be somewhat dorky if I kept them on though.

What''s your opinion on wearing glasses for your wedding?
 
I usually wear glasses and I''ve never worn contacts before. HOWEVER! I plan to get contacts months before and MAKE myself get used to them. Personally, for me, I think glasses ruin my look. But, they may not ruin your look! You also want to look like yourself on your wedding day. I wear mine a lot, but I also take them off whenever I can.
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I''ve never worn glasses so I can''t speak from first hand experience.

If glasses are part of your style, such as retro frames that everyone knows you for, then glasses are nice for the wedding. If they are truly just something that you need to see, not part of your style, then maybe try contact and see how they work for you. I do tend to think that glasses make it harder to get good photos or to see part of your facial expression in photos, but that may be my own lack of knowledge about glasses.
 
Date: 5/15/2008 6:35:36 PM
Author: Addy
I''ve never worn glasses so I can''t speak from first hand experience.


If glasses are part of your style, such as retro frames that everyone knows you for, then glasses are nice for the wedding. If they are truly just something that you need to see, not part of your style, then maybe try contact and see how they work for you. I do tend to think that glasses make it harder to get good photos or to see part of your facial expression in photos, but that may be my own lack of knowledge about glasses.
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No you''re right, it is hard to see your eyes a lot. The angle has to be just right to avoid any glare or anything. Some glasses have anti-glare stuff but I''ve never had it actually work.
 
Zoe, if the last time you tried contacts was 10 years ago, don't let fear of them not working for you scare you off. A LOT has changed since then, and contacts are much nicer to eyes than they used to be. Also, since most soft lenses are sold as disposables, there isn't a huge investment required to try them. In fact, other than the additional exam fee, it should be FREE to try them, because they always give you a trial pair so the doc can make sure the prescription is right for you. Sometimes it takes a few tries, in which case they give you more free pairs until they get it right. THEN you order a supply of contacts that you pay for yourself. If you just cannot for the life of you find contacts that work for you, you just don't buy any.

Now, as for contacts vs glasses for the wedding, it's hard for me to judge without knowing you. If you went today and found you could wear contacts comfortably, would you choose them over glasses for yourself? I agree that glasses can sometimes make it hard for pictures, though anti-reflective coatings certainly help. What style of frames do you wear?

ETA: I used to wear gas permeable contacts back in the day before soft contacts were any good for astigmatisms. GPs are the modern "hard" contact, and definitely take a while to get used to. You can only wear them for an hour at a time at first and then work up. It's MISERY. Eventually my eyes said no more and wouldn't tolerate the GPs, so I made the switch to soft. I couldn't tell if I even had the contact in the first time I put one in. The difference is amazing.
 
As a long time contact wearer (I''m legally blind without ''em) I can tell you that they have made AMAZING advances with the technology of contact lenses in the last ten years. So i would definitely, definitely go try a few of the newer varieties out!

It is really life changing to have peripheral vision, especially for us super-blind-o''s.
 
I agree with the others that amazing strides have been made with contact comfort in the last 10 years, so I''m confident that you will be able to wear them if you want to.

Whether you SHOULD wear contacts for your wedding is a whole other question though. I would say yes because it''s so hard to avoid teh glare on glasses in wedding photos, but only if it doesn''t drastically change what you look like.

It is such a personal thing. I''ve known people who barely look different when they don''t wear their glasses. A friend of mine got glasses for the first time last week, and I didn''t even notice because they didn''t change her overall look. But then I''ve known other people who look totally different if they don''t wear/start to wear glasses. You want to look like yourself for your wedding, but if you can still do that without glasses, then by all means, go with contacts!
 
Date: 5/15/2008 6:43:11 PM
It is really life changing to have peripheral vision, especially for us super-blind-o's.
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I couldn't agree more on this. I just had an eye appointment this past Tuesday to get new contacts and decided to look at maybe getting new backup glasses. Even w/ my contacts in, just the feeling of having a restricting window of usable sight drove me CRAZY. The guy helping me kept handing me frames with small lenses as are all the rage these days, and I was like "I'm supposed to SEE out of these??"

Zoe, even if it has nothing to do w/ the wedding, I would suggest giving contacts another try!
 
Why is that, btw? Prescription glasses are tiny and sunglasses are huge.
 
About 90% of the time I wear my glasses (black, white and yellow DKNYs) that I bought for style, and now wear for convenience. But when I want to dress up and look nice-I'll wear contacts. I don't do this because they are uncomfortable, I do it because I feel like I look funny without makeup when I don't wear glasses, and I'm too lazy to my makeup everyday. Plus, I go through them slower when I don't wear them everyday (6 month supply will last me about a year).

I agree, I would try them out since you haven't in ten years. I just got a new brand, because my old one was discontinued, and there is an AMAZING difference between just those two. And that's been about 2/3 years.

No harm in trying the first free pair right?

ETA: I've worn glasses since I was in 2nd grade, and had to get contacts in 6th grade because I was playing tennis and volleyball and they'd either get smashed with volleyballs or slide off my face with tennis.
 
Wow, this thread moved quicker than I thought it would. Thanks everyone! Ladyciel, that''s really good info to have! I think I''ll probably just do the trial and not order any afterwards.

I''d actually love to get Lasik but I''m not a candidate for it since my prescription changes occasionally. I''m also so used to my glasses that although they''re not the greatest fashion statement, I wouldn''t feel like me without them.

If I feel brave enough I may post a comparison photo -- with glasses and without.
 
Date: 5/15/2008 6:54:09 PM
Author: Addy
Why is that, btw? Prescription glasses are tiny and sunglasses are huge.
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Not always. My prescription sunglasses are just magnetic -- the sunglass part that you see through sits on top of same part of the regular glasses frame, if that makes sense. It''s like two layers to the seeing portion of the glasses. They''re the same size.
 
Zoe, I have been contemplating the same issue as of recent and just like you tried them about 10 years ago and found contacts very difficult. However, I have made an appt for them for the wedding with many of the same reasons listed here. 1.- it is so hard to get a good picture with glasses on 2.- you spend all of this money on makup, etc. and you can not really see the pretty eyes with the glasses on 3.- personally, although some would say they find it hard to "imagine" me without glasses, I really don''t care for wearing them and do not make any kind of fashion statement with them. So - for me - contacts it is on wedding day. Good luck with your decision!
 
Glasses or no glasses? I was going to vote glasses...''cause drinking out of the bottle is a little tacky ya know
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Can I ask a question? Sorry for semi-thread jack: how much do contacts run approximately?
 
Depending on name brand or generic they can run about $500 for a year''s supply.

Like a previous poster said, it should be possible to try contacts for free. I''ve been wearing them for 11 years and they are SO much different. My BF has very small eyes and he used to not be able to wear them and has made the switch in the last year or so. Talk to your doctor and try them. If glasses are your ''thing'' I would maybe not change for the wedding. Or you could do contacts during the ceremony and glasses during the reception. It''s ultimately about how you feel but I say try it, there''s nothing to lose!!
 
Date: 5/15/2008 8:14:18 PM
Author: purrfectpear
Glasses or no glasses? I was going to vote glasses...''cause drinking out of the bottle is a little tacky ya know
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I don''t know if this makes a difference but I also don''t wear makup. None. Never have. I used to play around with it but I couldn''t stand how it felt. Eye makeup, especially, used to irritate my eyes so much, even hypo-allergenic stuff. I will suck it up and have it applied for the wedding but as soon as the reception ends, I''m taking it all off.
 
Date: 5/15/2008 8:48:18 PM
Author: Blair138
Depending on name brand or generic they can run about $500 for a year''s supply.


Like a previous poster said, it should be possible to try contacts for free. I''ve been wearing them for 11 years and they are SO much different. My BF has very small eyes and he used to not be able to wear them and has made the switch in the last year or so. Talk to your doctor and try them. If glasses are your ''thing'' I would maybe not change for the wedding. Or you could do contacts during the ceremony and glasses during the reception. It''s ultimately about how you feel but I say try it, there''s nothing to lose!!
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Thank you!
 
I have worn glasses since I was very little, and also have tried contacts couple of times. I really couldn''t stand them. My cornea also isn''t of totally normal shape (i have mild astigmatism) and my eyes just get so irritated with contacts.

So what I did in the end is, I didn''t wear my glasses OR contacts for the wedding... just wore nothing and all went well. I`m not sure how strong your glasses are, but mine are -2 in both eyes. Sure, I didn''t see 100%, but photos look great and I enjoyed my wedding because my eyes were not irritating me.

Zoe, just make sure you enjoy your special day. You don''t need to put in contacts, or put on make-up, if you know it`ll make you feel uncomfortable, just because it`s the ''norm''. You want to be as relaxed and as comfortable as possible, so that you can remember every moment, rather than being preoccupied with scratchy eyes and skin.
 
They don''t have to be that expensive. I have a CRAZY prescription, with astigmatism and really high numbers, both of which can raise the cost of contacts, and I get mine for about $90/year

I wear one month disposables, and I buy them from an online store. I think it''s called ''Contact Lens'' King'' or something like that. They run $22 for a box of 6. So x 4.
 
Date: 5/15/2008 6:54:09 PM
Author: Addy
Why is that, btw? Prescription glasses are tiny and sunglasses are huge.
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Partially because the larger the lenses, the thicker you usually have to go. Even with a small prescription. I, however, like the smaller lenses because I have a really strong prescription. Even then, mine are thick at the edges.

I have worn glasses since third grade, and contacts since ninth. I currently use a daily contact, as I develop protein buildup pretty quickly, and have dry eye. I love them! I second the part about peripheral vision, its what I like the least about wearing my glasses.

I would strongly suggest to just try them, you never know, you might just like them!
 
I started wearing contacts in 9th grade and I wore them pretty much every day up until this year. Now I wear glasses most days, because I''ve realized how dangerous it is to wear contacts all day every day, and I finally got a pair of glasses that I like.

I still wear contacts on weekends, to go out, and I will definitely wear them for the wedding. With enough trial and error, you should be able to find a pair of contacts that is comfortable for you.
 
i don''t wear glasses normally, but my FI does, and they are a huge part of who he is (they are big and geeky). he is extremely insecure without them and i don''t think he would even think about not wearing them on our wedding day. they are part of his identity. I once was going through some pictures with my mom and he had his glasses off (someone had stolen them to try them on) and my mom didn''t realize it was him until 4 or 5 pictures into them!

so i would have to say that if they are part of your identity, why shed that for your wedding? but if you would prefer to not have to wear them, definitely consider contacts again. either way i''m sure you''ll be beautiful!
 
Hi Zoe,

I wear glasses on a daily basis...I feel they are part of who I am, as well. I do tend to *hide* behind them and just feel better with them on.

However, I have tried several times to wear my glasses in pictures, and I just can''t stand the way they look. There is always a glare, you can''t see my eyes, and it just makes the photos look horrible.

I have tried hard contacts and soft contacts, and neither make me happy! I now use the soft ones whenever I go out dancing (nothing like having your glasses knocked off your face, let me tell you!) and for special occasions when I know there will be pictures taken. I have extremely dry eyes, and the more I wear them, the better I get used to them. If it''s windy or dry, I have a harder time, but the benefits are much better than the alternative of not being able to see at all! My prescription is -3 in each eye, so I can''t see a thing without glasses or contacts, and I''d hate to miss my wedding!

So, with that said, I think you need to at least give them a try, and do so with enough time to practice getting them in and out of your eyes yourself. I STILL have trouble with the dang things, and I laugh at how proud of myself I am when I finally DO manage to get them in!

Also, I have Kaiser for my medical, and I only pay about $20 or so for 2+ years as I have money toward glasses or contacts, so I put it all towards contacts and go to Sam''s Club or Costco to get my glasses at about 1/4 of the cost!

Hope that helps!
 
I wear contacts all the time and I have a mild astigmatism and no issues here, it just takes a little getting used to to pop them in and out :D.

The ones I wear are Acuvue oasis they are SUPER breathable disposable contacts and they feel great :D no issues here at all :D.

My tip is to make sure if you decide to wear them always drop some contact lens solution into the contact it helps keep your eyes uber hydrated - I have dry eyes :D:D.

I suggest trying them 10 years is a long time in the world of technological advances :D
 
I am just planning to wear my glasses for the pre-ceremony to sign the ketubah, etc and then go glasses-less! I get stage fright so having everyone be nice and fuzzy will help.
 
Zoe- I''ve worn glasses all my life. A couple of months before the wedding I wanted to switch to contacts so I would have time to get used to them. I didn''t want all my wedding pics to potentially have light reflecting off glasses; no matter how good the anti-reflecting coating is, still seems to happen. Plus I didn''t want to see everthing blurry. I did that for my friend''s wedding when I was a BM. I didn''t wear them during the ceremony or pictures. I could not really see coming down the aisle.

I was the type that said I''d never be keen on the idea of putting something in my eye to see where I''m going. Once I got used to them I don''t even feel them now. I have an astigmatism, so the lenses really have to conform to my eyes.

Bonus- no fogging up from cold outside and warm inside, no misty rain annoyances and finding better sunglasses... perscription sunglasses were never dark enough for me.
 
Date: 5/15/2008 6:55:32 PM
Author: FrekeChild
About 90% of the time I wear my glasses (black, white and yellow DKNYs) that I bought for style, and now wear for convenience. But when I want to dress up and look nice-I''ll wear contacts. I don''t do this because they are uncomfortable, I do it because I feel like I look funny without makeup when I don''t wear glasses, and I''m too lazy to my makeup everyday. Plus, I go through them slower when I don''t wear them everyday (6 month supply will last me about a year).

I agree, I would try them out since you haven''t in ten years. I just got a new brand, because my old one was discontinued, and there is an AMAZING difference between just those two. And that''s been about 2/3 years.

No harm in trying the first free pair right?

ETA: I''ve worn glasses since I was in 2nd grade, and had to get contacts in 6th grade because I was playing tennis and volleyball and they''d either get smashed with volleyballs or slide off my face with tennis.
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Okay, kinda off topic, but, Freke, I could''ve written the exact same thing minus getting contacts in 6th grade. I had to wait til sophomore year in hs. I never wear eye makeup with my glasses cause I''m too lazy, but I feel like I don''t need to because my black framed glasses are enough.

Zoe, I definitely recommend trying contacts. Take some pictures of yourself in the dress with your glasses and some with your contacts and decide from there.
 
Date: 5/15/2008 8:21:06 PM
Author: SarahLovesJS
Can I ask a question? Sorry for semi-thread jack: how much do contacts run approximately?
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Mine have never been more than $100 for a year''s supply of disposable (monthly) lenses. I wore the gas permeable for a while in college due to an astigmatism, but they were VERY expensive, so of course, I lost one. ha. I NEVER lose the disposable lenses! Anyway, they do make disposable lenses for astigmatism purposes, but I just use regular ones now... and luckily my eyes are EXACTLY the SAME Rx so I don''t have to pay much attention to the left/right thing. Works great if I do tear one because I don''t run out of one eye first.
 
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