girls,if a male co-worker try to flirt with you..

[Dancing Fire]

how would you respond?

 

[FrekeChild]

Depends on the coworker, the level in the workplace he and I are at, what kind of workplace it is and how much I like my job.

 

[justginger]

I work in a very laid back place - even management goes out and drinks with the youngsters. Our Christmas parties are an outrageously good time. I think some of it has to do with the laid back culture of Australia because I personally never heard of this sort of work atmosphere when I was growing up in the Midwest.

Anyway, my workmates and I flirt all the time. All of us with everyone. Nothing highly inappropriate, everything's for a laugh. DH works in the same department; we're both happy with how it goes. I think a few double entendres and wiggled eyebrows in a group setting make for a fun, happy workplace.

One on one flirting? Doesn't happen. If it did, I'd laugh and reference DH in some way.

 

[Tuckins1]

Casual flirting is fine. A smile, a jaunty retort (assuming that I am on friendly terms with said person.) I did have a male coworker who was SO creepy... He would talk about oral sex, sex, etc... ALL THE TIME!! When I was pregnant, he came into my classroom when I was alone. He began telling me how he loved to have sex with pregnant women because you couldn't get them pregnant again! Then he described (in WAY too much detail) how he once had a relationship with a woman who was pregnant... He didn't really like her or want to date her long term- he just wanted to have unprotected sex with her repeatedly. He was not with her when she had the baby. He was repugnant.

 

[JewelFreak]

OMG, Tuckins! That is reportable. Disgusting & sick.

I can't imagine a co-worker flirting with an old bat like me, but they did when I was a young bat.

If they were cute, I flirted back. What the heck, life's too short. Keep it within boundaries but have fun.

 

[aviastar]

That entirely depends on how you define 'flirting'...

I had a manager at a restaurant once that was very flirty (except we all knew that if you flirted back he would, um, be happy to take a quick break with you ). He was running some discount on the computer for me one night and reached out and stroked my face. I slapped him in his face. We laughed about it later, he knew he deserved it. But he never touched me again either

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

Punch him in the groin and run away screaming bloody murder.

 

[JewelFreak]

That entirely depends on how you define 'flirting'...

I had a manager at a restaurant once that was very flirty (except we all knew that if you flirted back he would, um, be happy to take a quick break with you ). He was running some discount on the computer for me one night and reached out and stroked my face. I slapped him in his face. We laughed about it later, he knew he deserved it. But he never touched me again either

I don't call that flirting. That's a pass. Or worse. To me, flirting doesn't involve touching. At all. Nor meeting alone outside work. As I said, "within boundaries."

In a volunteer thing I did in NYC, an after-work deal for a political campaign, my "supervisor" told me long stories, standing waaay too close to me, got badly on my nerves. When he asked if I'd come into his office & massage his back, I had urgent business elsewhere. And I never returned. Ugly turkey, too, yuck.

--- Laurie

 

[Dancing Fire]

OMG, Tuckins! That is reportable. Disgusting & sick.

I can't imagine a co-worker flirting with an old bat like me, but they did when I was a young bat.

If they were cute, I flirted back. What the heck, life's too short. Keep it within boundaries but have fun.

 

[Rockdiamond]

Casual flirting is fine. A smile, a jaunty retort (assuming that I am on friendly terms with said person.) I did have a male coworker who was SO creepy... He would talk about oral sex, sex, etc... ALL THE TIME!! When I was pregnant, he came into my classroom when I was alone. He began telling me how he loved to have sex with pregnant women because you couldn't get them pregnant again! Then he described (in WAY too much detail) how he once had a relationship with a woman who was pregnant... He didn't really like her or want to date her long term- he just wanted to have unprotected sex with her repeatedly. He was not with her when she had the baby. He was repugnant.

This really creeps me out!!
If that was my wife, I'd seriously want to have a "talk" with that "gentleman"

Besides how creepy it is, someone can surely loose a job for that type of speech, if it's a bother to the recipient......

 

[FrekeChild]

In a professional kitchen...well, anything goes. Anthony Bourdain wasn't kidding when he compared it to working with a band of pirates! So I have thick skin and have learned a lot of obnoxious retorts for that kind of talk.

 

[aviastar]

In a professional kitchen...well, anything goes. Anthony Bourdain wasn't kidding when he compared it to working with a band of pirates! So I have thick skin and have learned a lot of obnoxious retorts for that kind of talk.

Yup, I agree. Touching my face was actually really mild, but I don't like being touched, so I put a stop to it. Only way to deal is to roll with it and give as good as you get.

 

[HollyS]

As a former HR Director, I'd say flirting is against company policy - - almost without exception.

But, as we all know, if we WANT the guy to flirt, it's okay.

 

[TravelingGal]

As a former HR Director, I'd say flirting is against company policy - - almost without exception.

But, as we all know, if we WANT the guy to flirt, it's okay.

LOL, true.

I'd give the guy the cold shoulder...but somehow that seems to make it worse as all of the sudden you're a challenge.

 

[04diamond<3]

Punch him in the groin and run away screaming bloody murder.

HUGE +1!!!

Tuckins - that is absolutely REPULSIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Talk about kicking someone in the package! YUCK!!!

HollyS - I am actually in school and would like to be an HR Director, and I would absolutely stick with the policy! DH works in a company with nearly all females and I've seen some of them so I always wonder...

 

[missy]

As a former HR Director, I'd say flirting is against company policy - - almost without exception.

But, as we all know, if we WANT the guy to flirt, it's okay.

LOL, true.

I'd give the guy the cold shoulder...but somehow that seems to make it worse as all of the sudden you're a challenge.

Very true. However, after an unpleasant experience involving a flirtatious colleague of my dh's I would absolutely ignore any flirting from anyone other than my dh. When you are married flirting is just not the same as when both parties are single and it absolutely feels like a betrayal of trust. No matter how flattering.

 

[texaskj]

In a professional kitchen...well, anything goes. Anthony Bourdain wasn't kidding when he compared it to working with a band of pirates! So I have thick skin and have learned a lot of obnoxious retorts for that kind of talk.

Newspapers are the same, or should I say used to be the same. We've shed so many people and don't have that many 20-somethings anymore. The sports department used to be like a cross between Peyton Place, Dallas and a **** flick. It could get exhausting remembering who was sleeping with who, who used to sleep with who, who was divorced from who, who was siblings with who...you get my drift. But sometimes you have to know that information to get things accomplished.

And there's a difference between flirting and sexual harassment. I ended up marrying one of the guys who flirted with me and divorced him 15 years later. A photographer who was really good at getting right up to the line with sexual harassment, but never going over? I flopped one of his photos on a fashion page. I got in a bunch of trouble for it, but he never bothered me again.

 

[04diamond<3]

In a professional kitchen...well, anything goes. Anthony Bourdain wasn't kidding when he compared it to working with a band of pirates! So I have thick skin and have learned a lot of obnoxious retorts for that kind of talk.

Newspapers are the same, or should I say used to be the same. We've shed so many people and don't have that many 20-somethings anymore. The sports department used to be like a cross between Peyton Place, Dallas and a **** flick. It could get exhausting remembering who was sleeping with who, who used to sleep with who, who was divorced from who, who was siblings with who...you get my drift. But sometimes you have to know that information to get things accomplished.

And there's a difference between flirting and sexual harassment. I ended up marrying one of the guys who flirted with me and divorced him 15 years later. A photographer who was really good at getting right up to the line with sexual harassment, but never going over? I flopped one of his photos on a fashion page. I got in a bunch of trouble for it, but he never bothered me again.

wow...that's kinda sad...Thanks for the heads up...never work for a news paper

 

[Tuckins1]

That creepy guy was eventually "not asked to return"... He talked like this to EVERY WOMAN in the school. He gave everybody the heeby-jeebees. Side note- his kids still go to our school, so he does come up to the school from time to time. First time I saw him this year, he put his arm around my waist, touched my stomach and told me how good I looked! (In a hallway full of kids, no less. I couldn't exactly make a scene...) Also, he is now divorced. SURPRISE!! I can't believe any one would marry him in the first place!

 

[rosetta]

No one flirts with me. I can only conclude that I have a face only a mother could love.

 

[missy]

No one flirts with me. I can only conclude that I have a face only a mother could love.

LOL, I don't think so Rosebloom!! I know you are beautiful on the inside and outside!!!

 

[junebug17]

How would I respond? I'd probably faint from shock, it's been years since anyone has flirted with me. Those days are long gone.

 

[missy]

How would I respond? I'd probably faint from shock, it's been years since anyone has flirted with me. Those days are long gone.

LOL Junebug! You crack me up! I find this very hard to believe in any case...I don't know how old you are but I honestly find older people to be among the most attractive and sexy people. With age comes wisdom, confidence and a certain je ne sais quoi. So flaunt it girlfriend!!

ETA: In the previous post I meant to write Rosetta not Rosebloom! Sorry about that. I am not so young myself so I was probably having a senior moment there..apologies to Rosetta and Rosebloom for the typo!

 

[junebug17]

How would I respond? I'd probably faint from shock, it's been years since anyone has flirted with me. Those days are long gone.

LOL Junebug! You crack me up! I find this very hard to believe in any case...I don't know how old you are but I honestly find older people to be among the most attractive and sexy people. With age comes wisdom, confidence and a certain je ne sais quoi. So flaunt it girlfriend!!

Aw thanks missy, you're very nice! I dunno though, I guess I still turn a head or two, but nowadays the heads seem to be turning away, not towards me!!!!

 

[Deactivated member 42515]

I'm the one that flirts or as they call it "sexual harassment." Whatever, tomato tomahto.