Girls - I NEED your Help!!! Please give your advice!!!

[diamondseeker2006]

Date: 6/3/2006 4:24:36 PM
Author: searchingformybaby
Ladies, I warn you... if you keep answering my questions (and lightening fast at that), I''ll just keep asking more!

DiamondSeeker - I''m pretty sure about the white gold or platinum (not sure which as of yet - thoughts?) She has some simple necklaces and bracelets that have a kind of ''Native American'' feeling to them - lots of turqoise in them - and they''re all silver. She has a simple necklace from her grandmother that is yellow gold and she never wears (she said she doesn''t really like the look of the yellow).

Thanks Mimkins, Jazmine, Laddy Kemma, WTNLVR, DiamondSeeker for the reassurance about the SalesLady... It just made me feel awful that I thought I''d found something perfect and she ripped it apart : (

WTNLVR: I think your ring is beautiful. This assures me that a round center stone would be perfect. Yours is much bigger than I can afford right now (not something a guy like to admit at all) but maybe sometime down the road we can ''upgrade'' the stone -- that is the term, right?

LadyKemma - I''m not a huge fan of the marquise shape (really long and skinny one, right)? And I think it would get in her way during the day - would it rip latex gloves as she puts them on probably 100x a day? Thanks for the personal opinion though, much appreciated!

Also, lots of the rings I''ve seen displayed here have all sorts of ''extra'' diamonds on them on the sides. Is this ''expected'' I thought it was over the top, but is that normal? Would the simpler 3 stone ring like this one look plain in comparison? I don''t want to disappoint her, but she''s a pretty simple kind of gal herself (and I love her all the more because of it). I wouldn''t want to pick the wrong thing though!

Thank you all!

Listen, you have picked a simple but very elegant, timeless setting! It is gorgeous and will be very fine quality! So no, you do not need a bunch of little diamonds. That setting is gorgeous and sounds perfect for her!

 

[ladykemma]

gypsy said: "Personally I like ovals and pears because you get a LOT of bang for the buck...they aren't in favor right now so they are less expensive than rounds and you get a LOT of spread on these so your diamond looks HUGE when really... the carat weight is low for the size. "

so eloquent. this is what I was trying, badly, to say. A spready pear will look stunning. i picked up my 1.25 carat pear for a lot less than a round would have been.

can you imagine that sapphire setting with an oval? swoon....

 

[searchingformybaby]

Thank you everyone!

I never expected so many people to help - you''ve assured me that I''m on the right track here. I''ll keep working and get back on here if I have more questions...

 

[Gypsy]

ladykemma has me blushing. Thank you.


SFMB... I think that''s a great idea.

 

[february2003bride]

Alden,

I personally love the 3 stone pear you posted! I''ve read many times that rounds give the most sparkle but I''m sure a well cut pear will be just as beautiful.

I would let her pick out the wedding band

Rounds are the most popular diamonds chosen followed by princesses. If you go with a round, Whiteflash''s ACA line is stunning.

Gorgeous ring!!

 

[diamondseeker2006]

He has to buy the stone at Dimend Scaasi more than likely to get that setting. They have fine diamonds, too!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

I also LOVE the three stone pear you posted!!!

That lady at Jared''s is CRAZY! Not only are pears very pretty but sapphires are PERFECT for an e-ring. I love the sapphire accents in my ring. Diamonds and sapphires look great together.

 

[searchingformybaby]

Hey everyone...

Yes, I would need to buy the dimond from Dimend Scaasi if I get the setting there (he won''t sell the setting without a diamond either...) But, I used the "LiveChat" function on his website and chatted with him for a while. Very laid back, helpful, not pretentious, or insulting at all. Very knowledgable and happy to help me out. He kept helping me out with my choices and never once pressured me. In fact, he kept finding ways to help SAVE me money (that really impressed me) by pointing out that VVS1/2 wasn''t necessary - VS1/2 was plenty high enough for clarity if I still went with an ideal cut stone, F-G color, etc...

Okay, time to make dinner for the lady : )

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Alden, I found them to be that way, too. When I asked about three stones, they honestly told me the least expensive of the three was the most beautiful. I think that says a lot!

 

[drk]

I think a round center stone with those sapphire sides would be stunning. You should think about whether or not she''d want to wear her ring at work (lots of nurses I''ve worked with do), because I wonder if a pear might not be more of a hassle under gloves (ie tearing them up a bit). She may also want the stones set lower if she plans to wear the ring under gloves.
Maybe she could help pick out her own wedding band later on? I also tend to not wear much jewelry, and have a soitaire e-ring with a plain gold band, and am very happy with the combination (though I love 3 stone rings too). I feel like a diamond band would be more flashy than I''m comfortable with at this point.

Good luck with your decision!

 

[searchingformybaby]

Guess I should post this so you can all rest easier and not "worry" about my darling girl''s ring catching on gloves, or anything else...

I''m going with a ROUND center stone for lots of reasons you''ve all helped me with (thank you)
-more classic, always in fashion no matter what decade
-catches less on everything
-"easier" to pick by #''s and on paper - not the same need to see the real deal in person as a pear

Mostly, I was sold by WTNLVR''s ring which is wonderful. Thank you for posting a picture of it for me - you''ve helped a great deal!

Really, really, must pay more attention to what''s on the stove!

 

[Gothgrrl]

Hey, searchingformybaby. I just recieved my new pear shaped ring from Dimend Scaasi. I totally love it. When I talked to Isaac, he was very nice, pleasant and even laughed at my jokes. I told him I wanted a pear that was a little fatter, chunky than the norm. Also the sapphires (also my birthsone) are really nice. A strong and rich blue.

It really is quite beautiful. I feel it sparkles enough, of course nothing compares to a round. I didn''t want a round, just because it is so popular and I wanted something different. It is only a half carat but it sizes up quite nice. It almost looks as big, if not bigger than my .91 cushion cut. I hope that I was some help to you. Good luck in finding the ring.

 

[searchingformybaby]

Gothgirl:

Thanks for chiming in... More questions for you since you''ve dealt with Isaac and have this ring...

First off - if that ring is an engagement ring... congratulations!

Which style ring on Dimend Scaasi''s website is your pear-shaped ring? Same one I''ve been looking at?

Any way you could post pictures of your ring (hand pics maybe... wow I feel like such a girl now)?

Did you stick with the setting on the site, or did you modify it at all? If so, how?

Do you have the same sort of shank as the ring I''ve posted (see earlier in thread) - is it comfortable (to me it looks kind of blunt instead of rounded) - don''t want my girl to be uncomfortable....

Do you live in Chicago and go to the actual store? Or did you do the transaction online? Did you see the diamond before purchasing it? How did you arrange that with Isaac?

Okay, these are too many questions, but you''re a great resource and I''m milking it for all it''s worth! (okay, that sounds strange)!

Thanks!

 

[Gothgrrl]

It is not an engagement ring. Actually it''s for my 10 year ann. I wanted something with sapphires and when I was looking at Dimend Scaasi page, I just saw this ring and fell in love with it. It is the exact style as the picture. I talked to Issac and said I just want 2 things different. I wanted the pear to be more chunky(I like fatter pears) and to be set as low as possible. He said that''s fine. I too work with my hands and wanted it to be comfortable and not snag on things. So far it hasn''t been an issue at my work. But then again I just sit and stare at it all day long

It''s about 3mm on the bottom and tapers to 1.8mm. I didn''t get to see the stone. I live in California. So I had to wait to see the ring. Posting hand pics will have to wait. Don''t have a camera at the moment. I''ll try to borrow one so I can post pictures.

 

[searchingformybaby]

Well then happy 10-year Anniversary GothGrrl!

Thanks for your input - it makes me feel much better that someone else had a good experience with Isaac - sight unseen before the purchase.

Again, thanks a million,

 

[Gothgrrl]

Thank you. Just call Isaac and he will help you. The ring I have won''t fit flush with a wedding band. But they could make you up one that will fit flush. I just wear this pear by itself. Good luck and happy hunting.

 

[portoar]

I agree, too many shapes going on with the pear and the wedding band too. I think the ring you picked out is very pretty, in fact it''s gorgeous, but I would make sure of the following before you buy anything:

1. That she likes the shape of diamond you are picking out;
2. That if you are planning to "surprise" her, i.e., not seek her input before choosing a ring, prepare yourself not to be hurt/angry/disappointed if she does not like the ring. Some women come on this board filled with angst because they love their man and hate the ring he chose. Imagine how horrible a woman feels, wanting her feelings for the ring to match the feelings for the man, and staring down at something she doesn''t like with the sick feeling that she''s expected to wear it day in and day out for years . . . well, you get the drift.
3. Because of point number two, make sure there is a good return policy . . . and be sure you have it in writing!

Personally I think a wedding band with diamonds instead of colored stones would work better (too much blue otherwise) but that''s just me.

Best of luck!

 

[searchingformybaby]

Portoar,

thanks for your advice...

1st off the dealer I''m looking at has an excellent return policy (written directly on his website) and I''ll be sure to get it in writing when the time comes.

2nd: I''ve decided to go with a round center stone - pretty classic, pretty basic, and her favorite ring (sapphire) is round. I think I''m safe!

3rd: Maybe I''m lucky, but my girl is the kind of lovable goofball who wouldn''t be able to build up resentment about something, anything, no matter how hard she tried... She''d let me know right off the bat if it wasn''t her dream ring. The more I think about it, it wouldn''t be a huge scene or even a bad thing if the surprise were just the question itself and where I''m going to ask her (again no details, she''d spot me at 100 miles off). If need be, we''ll head to the post office the next morning to return the ring. No biggie! I promise you, there won''t be some awful, angst-ridden argument in 5 years about how much she hates it. Some may say she borders on being rude at times, but I see it as being true to herself by speaking her mind. I''d give you an example, but then the silly girl would definetly be able to peg this as ME if she came across it.

Again, for the final!! time... I''ve said I''m going to wait on the wedding band. Nobody else has to chime in telling me they don''t like it or wouldn''t want it themselves! I keep saying that I''ll wait on that and have her join in the fun for that part... Please, don''t make me say that again : )

But if she sees it and loves it, there''ll be a big "I told you so" coming : p

Thanks for everything,

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Alden, you don''t need to worry about making them put the return policy in writing. It is on the website. I returned a ring and they were very nice and sent me my charge credit immediately. I would not hesitate to deal with them again. I am glad you have the relationship you do that your GF can be honest if she didn''t like it, but I think your choice is going to be so beautiful that I think it is very unlikely to happen!

 

[coda72]

I''m very late posting to this thread, but I just want to tell you I think you''re making a great choice with the diamond and sapphires combination. I have pear shaped sapphire sides with a radiant diamond center and I like it. My wedding band also has diamonds and sapphires. I know a lot of people don''t like diamonds and sapphires in both rings, but I like the look. Here''s a picture of my rings: