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Gift for Daughter?

Luv4ever

Luv4ever

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Hi Everyone,
In a little over a month I will be proposing to the love of my life. :love: This wonderful woman happens to have a 3 year old daughter whom I love very much. (she already calls me daddy :) ) So I was thinking since our future marriage will be a family affair, do you think I should present a gift for her daughter after my proposal? Maybe something like a nice diamond pendant? (any other ideas?). She's probably too young to wear Jewelry, but it could be saved until she is older. Or would it be more appropriate to present a gift during our wedding? Your opinions are appreciated!
 
I don't think a diamond pendant is necessary--- why not just a toy or something a 3 year old would like? Just a thought.
 
How about starting a savings account to fund her higher education, or even retirement.
As she grows encourage her to also help contribute to it.
Even if she was just depositing small amounts as a child, long-term saving for things is a very healthy lesson to learn early.
Most importantly, compounding interest over a long period can really make the balance explode.
 
You're a sweet daddy ::) I just don't think a 3yo would have any appreciation for a diamond pendant, and I think she would prefer something she could enjoy right then, instead of waiting until she's older, if that makes sense?

I like Kenny's idea a lot, and if you want to do something else just for the Day Of if she has an interest in sparkly things or the contents of mummy's jewellery box perhaps you could take her to "design something together"? Let her choose her own stone(s), let her pick out a setting(s) for a pendant or earrings or something - doing it *with* her would likely be thrilling for her!

My grandparents did something like this with me when I was six - they took me to their jeweller and I got to pick two tiny little pearls and two little heart-shaped nose-studs (my ear-holes were too small for the common thicker earring posts 8) ) that they drilled the pearls onto, and I adored those earrings!
 
I think a diamond pendant is a bit much for a 3 yo. I would save that idea for 16th bday or graduation. If you want to do jewelry, then I would do a personalized bracelet or pendant. Or get her a little jewelry box. That way she can fill it with her toy jewelry now, and you give her real jewelry for future occasions.

At first, I thought 3 yo is simple, so you can just give her a flower or something. And I also thought a toy would be great. BUT then I thought about it, and realized that you may be looking for something that has a more long term significance (because you are considering a diamond necklace). So that's why I thought the less expensive jewelry or jewelry box may be better.
 
What about a charm bracelet that you can get a charm engraved with a special sentiment for her and then add charms over the years. My parents bought me one when I was very little and it has a ton of charms on it now from like every vacation we took!
 
lizzyann01|1295566721|2828118 said:
What about a charm bracelet that you can get a charm engraved with a special sentiment for her and then add charms over the years. My parents bought me one when I was very little and it has a ton of charms on it now from like every vacation we took!
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Oh, I love this idea. What a special thing to have from your childhood!
 
lizzyann01|1295566721|2828118 said:
What about a charm bracelet that you can get a charm engraved with a special sentiment for her and then add charms over the years. My parents bought me one when I was very little and it has a ton of charms on it now from like every vacation we took!
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Love this idea!

Another thought would be to forego an engagement gift, and at the wedding ceremony give her a simple baby ring--some have diamonds--since then you're marrying into a ready made family, rather than the significance of the rings bonding you as a couple, the rings are bonding you as a unit.
 
Wow! you guys are really great!

Gtiekiki you are correct that I am looking for something sentimental with more long term significance.

Yssie, Gtiekiki and Lizzy I LOVE your ideas about the charm bracelet and having a build your own Jewelry day! So much so that I will will use both of them :appl:

Kenny I agree with you and lucky for the little one she has Grandparents, Aunt/Uncle, my GF and myself who contribute to a college fund. (we live in Washington State and signed her up for the GET program)

Thanks again for all your opinions and ideas.
 
This is so nice that you want to do something special for her. Others have given good ideas...you can also do something that grows with her such as: buy a necklace with one pearl..then add one every year afterwards. I know it won't mean anything to her now but maybe in the future she could wear it for those special occasions.
 
Charm bracelet is a perfect idea, then you add a charm each year.
 
Charm bracelet for sure. On the first charm, you could give her a heart. And have it engraved saying on this day we became a family... Her initials on the front and the inscription on the back.. She will treasure it for many years to come... ;))
 
What a sweet husband- and father-to-be you are! Your girlfriend and her daughter are so lucky to have someone like you in their lives. I love the charm bracelet idea and the build-your-own-jewelry idea!

I also like the idea of a nice piece of jewelry (like a pendant) that she can have forever. When I was six, I was the flower girl in my uncle's wedding, and they gave me an 18k gold necklace with a rose pendant in green gold and rose gold. I wore it for the wedding and on other specal occasions as a little girl, and now I still wear it as an adult, 20 years later. My parents kept it safe for me as I was growing up, and I love having that sentimental piece now.
 
I'd find one that will fit her now but for which you can add links later.
 
Charm bracelet for sure. On the first charm, you could give her a heart. And have it engraved saying on this day we became a family... Her initials on the front and the inscription on the back.. She will treasure it for many years to come.
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Wow Kaleigh..as macho as I would like to think I am, that one really brought a tear to my eye. ;)) What a perfect idea for the first charm.

I do not have much expertise in charm bracelets. Can any of you link me to some pretty ones you would like?
 
The charm bracelet idea is perfect I think! A guy (friend of a friend) who was in a similar situation proposed when the girl was there, and gave her a little ring too..I think he put it like, mom accepted the ring to be my wife, will you accept to be my daughter..or something. Anyway, I like the charm bracelet and then getting a new charm every year.
 
This whole thread is just so sweet . . . :))

I LOVE the idea of charm with the date and the sentiment, very special.

If she's the type of girl that wants to be "just like mommy", you could also get her her own "wedding ring" as a charm: http://www.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=355216&cm_mmc=Google_Feed-_-1-_-17-_-MP117 They seem to be everywhere on the net, so they might have one at a local jewelry store as well.

Get a full size one now, and have the extra links removed (and save them), it's easier than trying to go the other way.
 
I wouldn't worry about having the bracelet fit her now. But it would be a sweet keepsake!

I'd definitely get a toy, though, That's what she'll enjoy most now! There are sweet books you could get, too.
 
iLander|1295574734|2828284 said:
This whole thread is just so sweet . . . :))
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it really is ::)
 
My step-mom gave me a music box when she and my father got married. I was 2.5. I know i enjoyed it at the time and still do today. It's a nice compromise between a child-friendly gift that is still an adulthood treasure. She also gave me a gold locket engraved with my initials and put a picture of her and my father in it. Both are very precious to me still, even though she and my father divorced.
 
Totally different direction but I am 41 and still remember what my brand new step father gave my brother and me when he married my mom. I was 6 and my brother was 8 and he got us a puppy! Our dog brought my brother and me the most amazing childhood memories. We loved her so much. So if you are thinking of getting a pet and its something that your future wife agrees on, it would be really great timing to get it then. But if you plan on having kids, bringing in a new pet might not be the best idea. Just another thought thrown out there.
 
When my step dad got engaged to my mom he gave me a gift. I thought it was a nice gesture... but also part of me felt like it was a bribe (I'm rotten).

I wouldn't do jewelry.

What would be thoughtful and lovely is a letter to her. For her to open on her wedding day... telling her how happy you are on YOUR wedding day. Then just keep it for her. And on her wedding day, get her a lovely diamond pendant.
 
I love the charm bracelet idea. It would be great to add charms to it along the way. I also 2nd the idea of getting her a toy now as that's what she will really enjoy at her age.
 
Charm bracelet and pendant are wonderful ideas. My friend gave her 4 yo grandaughter a pearl necklace to wear on special occasions. She will be adding pearls to it as she gets older.
 
I have a three year old that LOVES jewelry. I would not buy her diamonds but I think a bracelet with her name engraved would thrill her and something she can cherish forever. My cousin is Brazilian and gold baby bracelets are really common there. She is 24 and STILL wears them! I think it is really sweet.
 
See I think just the opposite than the rest here. My step-father, when he proposed to my mom (when I was 7) gave me a ring with two hearts and a diamond. The hearts were supposed to be them and the diamond me. It was something I cherished when I was older.
 
I love the idea of the charm bracelet!
James Avery is a great place to start looking. They call it the Tiffany of Texas. They are REALLY amazing quality and comes in silver/gold and if you check on ebay, you'll see how good even the resale even is (because they are so high quality the hard to find retired charms can go for more than they did retail).

http://search.jamesavery.com/?top_menu=1&u1=top_nav&top_nav=Charms
 
rbh, I think there is a BIG difference of what is appropriate for a 7 year old and what is appropriate for a 3 year old.
 
Tacori E-ring|1295627902|2828755 said:
rbh, I think there is a BIG difference of what is appropriate for a 7 year old and what is appropriate for a 3 year old.
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I agree. However the sentiment later on will be the same, dont you think'? I didn't appreciate it then, I appreciate it now.
 
rhbgirl24|1295629131|2828772 said:
Tacori E-ring|1295627902|2828755 said:
rbh, I think there is a BIG difference of what is appropriate for a 7 year old and what is appropriate for a 3 year old.
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I agree. However the sentiment later on will be the same, dont you think'? I didn't appreciate it then, I appreciate it now.
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Perhaps. The OP could always give her such a ring later as well. Whatever the gift, I am sure she will love it. I would stay away from necklaces though.
 
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