LiW Funny: A good argument to be involved in your e-ring design process:

[LDubs]

So I finally got the gumption to mention to the BF this morning, that "if/when he were to ever want to purchase an e-ring, I''d like to be part of the purchase process since it''s a ring I''d wear for the rest of my life" (this is following a conversation about a friends little sis getting engaged w/ a ring that wasn''t quite my "style" yesterday)

my BF''s response?

"Oh. Wait. You wear the engagement ring for the rest of your life too? I thought the big ring was the wedding band. Huh. So the engagement ring''s the "rock" then?"

Ah....yea. Glad I brought that one up now, and not later. LOL.

 

[princesss]

Oh, wow. That''s priceless.

 

[LDubs]

And he''s 27 years old. And we have numerous friends who are engaged/married. He said he just has never paid attention because it never had anything to do w/ him. Oy!

 

[Bridesmaid]

SO glad to know my BF isn''t the only clueless one out there. We were at a jeweler yesterday (not specifically to ring-shop, I thought, but found out later that was partially the intention), and he froze at the door and wouldn''t go any farther. I actually had to give him a little nudge to get him to keep walking. He prefers that I speak of the situation figuratively (as in say I helped "boost his confidence") rather than literally (as in honestly saying I "nudged him in.")

Oh, boys.

 

[LegacyGirl]

That''s funny...

 

[sunnyd]

Ha, my BF was the same way...all confused about which ring was ring and when it gets worn...boys, I tell ya.

 

[ladypirate]

Kris said the same thing when I first brought it up! "I thought you just wear the engagement ring for the engagement..." Oh, boys.

 

[onvacation]

Date: 3/9/2008 4:45:35 PM
Author:LDubs
''Oh. Wait. You wear the engagement ring for the rest of your life too? I thought the big ring was the wedding band. Huh. So the engagement ring''s the ''rock'' then?''

Ah....yea. Glad I brought that one up now, and not later. LOL.

LDubs, is your SO by any chance asian or influenced by asian friends? I know that in some countries, the diamond goes into the wedding band. I found it funny that they don''t have engagement rings, but "couple rings" (that look a lot like wedding bands to me), which signify that they''re involved in a somewhat committed relationship.

 

[Miscka]

That post is like deja vu. We had the exact same discussion a year or so ago. Boys!

 

[LDubs]

Date: 3/10/2008 4:19:39 PM
Author: onvacation

Date: 3/9/2008 4:45:35 PM



LDubs, is your SO by any chance asian or influenced by asian friends?

Nope. He''s a very white, very sheltered, (but adorable!) boy from Middle Ohio. Just completely clueless when it comes to any sort of jewelery - I''m so glad to know he''s not the only one though! I''m slowly working on these little conversations...all completely hypothetical, of course

 

[onvacation]

Date: 3/10/2008 10:07:04 PM
Author: LDubs

Date: 3/10/2008 4:19:39 PM
Author: onvacation

Date: 3/9/2008 4:45:35 PM



LDubs, is your SO by any chance asian or influenced by asian friends?

Nope. He''s a very white, very sheltered, (but adorable!) boy from Middle Ohio. Just completely clueless when it comes to any sort of jewelery - I''m so glad to know he''s not the only one though! I''m slowly working on these little conversations...all completely hypothetical, of course

Haha, so then would he have gotten you a wedding band for the proposal if you hadn''t asked? *giggles*

 

[Markie]

haha, I find these types of miscommunication totally baffling. for example, an already engaged friend of mine (a guy) said to me when I was at the height of my ring search "I don''t understand all the trouble you are going to" and I said that it was something i would wear for the rest of my life that would remind me of my BF and I wanted it to be something that made me smile every time I looked at it. He says "Really? I thought you just wore the engagement ring until you got married and then you switched it for the wedding band." And I thought of all the ladies here on PS and I was thinking why on earth he thought we would agonize over the perfect ring and stretch or budgets until they can''t stretch anymore planning for a ring that we would only wear for the length of our engagement? For a lot of us that is less than a year! I LOVE my ring to pieces and once I get to start wearing it you will have to pry it off of my cold dead finger to get me to stop! (At least I have a BF who was really understanding about my ring obsession... although much less so about my face&hair product obsession)

 

[moderatelypoorstudent]

Not to be a hanger on with the dumb boys comments, but sometimes I think they''re so sweet but a little less than observant.

One of SO''s coworkers was so proud to ask his wife to marry him, he thought to himself: "This is a once in a lifetime purchase, I''m going to go all out and spend $1000, my wife will have the MOST beautiful ring." (keep in mind he thought that $1k would buy him something large-- and he did end up buying in the 2 ct range) So he walked into a store one day, and walked right back out in a sweat afterwards!!! Sticker shock anyone?

My SO thought all side stones were called baguettes. Regardless of shape. But since he''s been doing a lot of research online, I''m so glad he''s gotten much more knowledgeable in the process.

I just think it''s like asking a girl to tell a guy all about the engine mechanics of his favorite sports car. To her, she''s like... what?

 

[Dreamgirl]

haha this is some funny stuff. And MY boyfriend wonders why I talk about engagement rings all the time.......

 

[rizz]

i think my bf wins with the most ridiculous comment about erings....he thinks erings are TACKY!!! what!?! he says they are unoriginal, so I was like ok fair enough, what about a coloured stone like a sapphire or something, he said that was even worse!

I'll still get a diamond ering because he knows how crazy I am for them, but he probably wont be nearly as excited about ring shopping as I will be!

ETA: he just asked what I was writing back saying and I told him about confusion over erings and wedding bands and he said "WHAT i have to get you 2 rings" lol I obviously replied that I need an eternity band as well...he just looks mind boggled now

 

[Miscka]

Well we had that convo I mentioned above a YEAR ago....and last night I found out he is STILL confused. LOL!! I showed him my final setting decision and mentioned that I like that it has a matching wband.

Him: I thought the engagement ring WAS the ring? You mean you don''t wear it everyday?
Me: Yes, but then you get a band when you are actually married, and you wear them both.
Him: Soooo why am I spending all this money on the engagement ring?
Me:

Him: Do I get two rings??? I want two rings. (he was joking, he hates man jewelry)

To be fair, his parents didn''t do the ering thing, and his Dad doesn''t even wear a ring at all. But it still cracked me up and reminded me of this thread!

 

[LuckiestGuyonEarth]

Is it odd I had to tell my GF which ring was the engagement ring and which was the wedding band? LOL. I love her.

"uh, no honey the ring with the big stone is an engagement ring, the wedding band is exactly that, a band." I love that she is not hung up on those things, and obviously hasn''t looked at rings with anyone else(neither have I), but I almost thought it was common woman knowledge. Isn''t it instict for women to know the 4 C''s these days? JK!!!

Ben

 

[swingirl]

Uh oh! Sounds like I better clue in my teenage son about engagement rings, wedding bands, anniversary rings and of course, THE UPGRADE!!! I can still catch him while he''s young!!

 

[Delster]

Try having a BF whose parents both got plain gold bands as engagement rings, and then they each got a second plain gold band as wedding rings, and they both wear one band on each hand!!! Even I was confused...

Date: 3/26/2008 2:46:59 AM
Author: swingirl
Uh oh! Sounds like I better clue in my teenage son about engagement rings, wedding bands, anniversary rings and of course, THE UPGRADE!!! I can still catch him while he's young!!

swingirl, oh yes yes yes, do! The mantra of PS is, after all, diamond education!