LiW For the older ladies in waiting…

[Shoopy]

For those of you that have been with your fiance to be for a long period of time, what do you introduce him as to friends? We have been together for six years and it’s a little weird for me to call him my “boyfriend” LOL I feel like I’m in high school again.

 

[Dreamgirl]

I still just call him my boyfriend. July 2nd will be 10 years together!!!

Although I see your point.

His Grandpa once introduced me as my boyfriends fiance. I, of course corrected him as I have no ring yet.

lol (and he hasn't asked me to marry him yet)

 

[Shoopy]

That''s funny dreamgirl. My boyfriend''s family introduce me as their daughter in law all the time and I do the same. His mother has given up on the marriage and has gone straight to baby talk...that''s an awkward conversation to have. LOL

 

[Bia]

Do you mean women who are older (could you define the age group, if that is what you are asking) OR women who have been with their SOs for a long period of time?

I am in my 20''s, and have been with BF for 6 years. Nope, he''s still BF as far as I am concerned...what else could I call him? My cohabitant? Roomie? Of course, Significant Other...I prefer BF.

Once my father introduced him to someone as my fiance...I almost choked. But in my culture, supposedly, if you''re living together, you''re "enfianced." (Is that a word?) According to my mother anyway.

 

[Dreamgirl]

lol How funny! This reminds me, I was watching FRIENDS last night. Not sure if you ever watched that but Im at the tail end of season 8 and Rachel is pregnant with Ross''s baby. They aren''t married and go to Ross''s parent''s 35th wedding anniversary party. Well, the parents told people Ross and Rachel were married so they decide to go along with it. Rachel starts telling people they were married in Barbados, and Stevie Wonder was there and sang "Isn''t She Lovely" while she walked down the isle. I couldn''t help but laugh because she got so carried away. lol (of course, they weren''t even dating at this point) But its similar.

 

[sunnyd]

I''m not old, nor have FFand I been together all that long, but I''m a daughter-in-law and a sister-in-law to his family, and my mom always tells him not to speak to his mother-in-law that way when he teases her. I don''t refer to myself as that to them, but it''s just shorter to say that I''m with the inlaws rather than with the boyfriend''s family to friends.

They all know we''re getting married anyway, so what''s the difference?

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 5/30/2008 2:56:59 PM
Author: Bia
Do you mean women who are older (could you define the age group, if that is what you are asking) OR women who have been with their SOs for a long period of time?
I am in my 20's

I figured she meant in long relationships. Cause Im turning 27 in July.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 5/30/2008 2:56:59 PM
Author: Bia
Do you mean women who are older (could you define the age group, if that is what you are asking) OR women who have been with their SOs for a long period of time?

I am in my 20''s, and have been with BF for 6 years. Nope, he''s still BF as far as I am concerned...what else could I call him? My cohabitant? Roomie? Of course, Significant Other...I prefer BF.

Once my father introduced him to someone as my fiance...I almost choked. But in my culture, supposedly, if you''re living together, you''re ''enfianced.'' (Is that a word?) According to my mother anyway.

BF''s grandma calls the SOs ''beloveds''. "Is your beloved going to be there?" It''s so frickin cute.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:02:51 PM
Author: sunnyd BF''s grandma calls the SOs ''beloveds''. ''Is your beloved going to be there?'' It''s so frickin cute.

lol that is cute. Bf''s grandparents refer to me when talking to my bf as "your sweetie" or "your sweetheart" lol and apparently to others his FI lol

 

[Bia]

LOL

Date: 5/30/2008 3:01:13 PM
Author: sunnyd
I''m not old, nor have FFand I been together all that long, but I''m a daughter-in-law and a sister-in-law to his family, and my mom always tells him not to speak to his mother-in-law that way when he teases her. I don''t refer to myself as that to them, but it''s just shorter to say that I''m with the inlaws rather than with the boyfriend''s family to friends.

They all know we''re getting married anyway, so what''s the difference?

My mother always calls his family, "your future in laws." I think its funny because she knows them by name but thats how she sees it. Sunnyd, are you engaged? I can''t remember. If so, did you call him your FF before you were? I feel weird calling him that, don''t know why.

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Date: 5/30/2008 2:43:16 PM
Author:fieryred33143
it’s a little weird for me to call him my “boyfriend” LOL I feel like I’m in high school again.

HA! I absolutely know how you feel! I''m maybe not an "older lady in waiting"

- gee, women always stay 21 - don''t they?!

But I really hate to introduce him as my "boyfriend" - to me it sounds so temporary and I feel like a schoolgirl.

 

[krispi]

Date: 5/30/2008 2:52:40 PM
Author: fieryred33143
That''s funny dreamgirl. My boyfriend''s family introduce me as their daughter in law all the time and I do the same. His mother has given up on the marriage and has gone straight to baby talk...that''s an awkward conversation to have. LOL

My BF and I have only been together a year and a half, and his family has already started talking about babies! Just the other week, his grandmother was encouraging me to eat watermelons, because the seeds supposedly help with fertility. I was like, hold on - there''s a few steps missing from this process that must occur first!

 

[Bia]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:02:51 PM
Author: sunnyd

BF''s grandma calls the SOs ''beloveds''. ''Is your beloved going to be there?'' It''s so frickin cute.

I love that! Leave it to the older generation to think of something so sweet. Do you call your men by their name or by a pet name?

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:02:51 PM
Author: sunnyd

BF''s grandma calls the SOs ''beloveds''. ''Is your beloved going to be there?'' It''s so frickin cute.

Hey, "beloved" is cool

 

[Lauren8211]

I ALWAYS call my BF baby or something to that extent. I do it so much so that when I call him his actual name, it makes me uncomfortable! So weird!

He will continue to be referred to as a BF until I get that ring.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:05:10 PM
Author: Bia
Sunnyd, are you engaged? I can''t remember. If so, did you call him your FF before you were? I feel weird calling him that, don''t know why.

I don''t know about all of you, but I just type ff sometimes because its shorter and easier than typing boyfriend. I never refer to him as ff by mouth. lol

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:07:40 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 5/30/2008 3:02:51 PM

Author: sunnyd


BF''s grandma calls the SOs ''beloveds''. ''Is your beloved going to be there?'' It''s so frickin cute.

I love that! Leave it to the older generation to think of something so sweet. Do you call your men by their name or by a pet name?

I really think that there were more charming expressions in earlier times. Maybe we could find more nice "older" words for "BF"?

At home I call him "baby" or "darling" and so on - but in front of other people than very close friends I call him by the abbreviation of his name.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:05:10 PM
Author: Bia
LOL

Date: 5/30/2008 3:01:13 PM
Author: sunnyd
I''m not old, nor have FFand I been together all that long, but I''m a daughter-in-law and a sister-in-law to his family, and my mom always tells him not to speak to his mother-in-law that way when he teases her. I don''t refer to myself as that to them, but it''s just shorter to say that I''m with the inlaws rather than with the boyfriend''s family to friends.

They all know we''re getting married anyway, so what''s the difference?

My mother always calls his family, ''your future in laws.'' I think its funny because she knows them by name but thats how she sees it. Sunnyd, are you engaged? I can''t remember. If so, did you call him your FF before you were? I feel weird calling him that, don''t know why.

Nope, not yet. And LOL no I don''t call him that in real life, only on here. I can only imagine the 346345 shades of red he would turn if I introduced him to someone as ''hi, this is Chris, my future fiance..."

Actually I should do that and bring my camera! It could be amusing!

 

[Bia]

Yea me too...I usually call him Babe, or Baby (so generic! lol) But I get what you''re saying. When I call him by his first name, I am either really mad or...HMMMM

...usually just reall mad!

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:07:40 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 5/30/2008 3:02:51 PM
Author: sunnyd

BF's grandma calls the SOs 'beloveds'. 'Is your beloved going to be there?' It's so frickin cute.

I love that! Leave it to the older generation to think of something so sweet. Do you call your men by their name or by a pet name?

I know!

His mom says sweetheart a lot. I call him sweetie usually, and he calls me hon, sweetie, my love...ahh I love it because I've never done pet names before. It's new. It's cute!

ETA: How could I forget baby?! Ha. I usually only call by his frist name when I'm mad too!!! Except we never are really 'mad' at each other, so I always have to stop and think wait, what's your name? Because I always want to say the ex's name!!! (anger = ex, he does the same thing!)

 

[Ms.Dreamy]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:15:33 PM
Author: Dreamgirl

I don''t know about all of you, but I just type ff sometimes because its shorter and easier than typing boyfriend. I never refer to him as ff by mouth. lol

hmm, maybe it''s not such a bad idea to call him my FF when introducing him... I think it would be cute if he would call me his ff

anyway, I have to try this out - at least to see the shocked look in his eyes when I say it

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:14:54 PM
Author: Lauren8211
I ALWAYS call my BF baby or something to that extent. I do it so much so that when I call him his actual name, it makes me uncomfortable! So weird!


He will continue to be referred to as a BF until I get that ring.

OOOH! OOOH! This is a whole other topic. We should start a new thread about that.


here it is! http://www.pricescope.com/idealbb/forum.asp?forumID=52&catID=2&pageNo=&num=

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:20:39 PM
Author: Ms.Dreamy

Date: 5/30/2008 3:15:33 PM

Author: Dreamgirl


I don''t know about all of you, but I just type ff sometimes because its shorter and easier than typing boyfriend. I never refer to him as ff by mouth. lol

hmm, maybe it''s not such a bad idea to call him my FF when introducing him... I think it would be cute if he would call me his ff

anyway, I have to try this out - at least to see the shocked look in his eyes when I say it

haha that would be hilarious.

 

[Bia]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:19:27 PM
Author: sunnyd

ETA: How could I forget baby?! Ha. I usually only call by his frist name when I''m mad too!!! Except we never are really ''mad'' at each other, so I always have to stop and think wait, what''s your name? Because I always want to say the ex''s name!!! (anger = ex, he does the same thing!)

Say what?! Hardly ever mad at eachother? How new is your relationship, exactly?

Me and BF? "Hardly" isn''t exactly the word I would use. LOL...for the most part we don''t but we do get into some brawls from time to time. But I think he likes to set me off...actually I know he does.

 

[laine]

It seems like I''m one of the last of my friends to get married (I''m 2, and I agree that boyfriend starts to sound silly, but there really isn''t any good alternative. I usually tend to just refer to him by name and leave out titles. He usually calls me his "gal" which I kinda like.

For the longest time my mother would refer to my brothers and my sig others as our "friends" We always thought it was funny and finally asked her about it. She said she didn''t want to presume what we were. Ok, I''d buy that for the short relationships my brother brought home, but after almost 6 years with my ex-bf, she was still introducing him as my friend. I think she didn''t want to acknowledge the relationship.

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:31:25 PM
Author: Bia
But I think he likes to set me off...actually I know he does.

Haha! My boyfriend likes to see me riled up sometimes. He says Im a h*ll raiser, a "fiery little person"

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:31:25 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 5/30/2008 3:19:27 PM
Author: sunnyd

ETA: How could I forget baby?! Ha. I usually only call by his frist name when I''m mad too!!! Except we never are really ''mad'' at each other, so I always have to stop and think wait, what''s your name? Because I always want to say the ex''s name!!! (anger = ex, he does the same thing!)

Say what?! Hardly ever mad at eachother? How new is your relationship, exactly?

Me and BF? ''Hardly'' isn''t exactly the word I would use. LOL...for the most part we don''t but we do get into some brawls from time to time. But I think he likes to set me off...actually I know he does.

Seriously!! We''re a year and a half into it. We get upset with each other all the time, but we''ve only ever yelled a couple of times. It''s nice. We both came out of really angry relationships prior, and he''s adamant about not fighting. So we don''t!

Now sometimes I think I start sh*t just to create drama, but that''s another story.

 

[Shoopy]

There are some funny responses on here! I guess what I meant by older are those that have been in relationships for a while.

LOL@ beloved. In Spanish its “marido” which means the one you have married…but not your husband. My mom asks why I’m so preoccupied with getting a ring and what not if he is already my “marido”

I want to wear a dress dang it LOL

 

[Shoopy]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:07:28 PM
Author: krispi

Date: 5/30/2008 2:52:40 PM
Author: fieryred33143
That''s funny dreamgirl. My boyfriend''s family introduce me as their daughter in law all the time and I do the same. His mother has given up on the marriage and has gone straight to baby talk...that''s an awkward conversation to have. LOL

My BF and I have only been together a year and a half, and his family has already started talking about babies! Just the other week, his grandmother was encouraging me to eat watermelons, because the seeds supposedly help with fertility. I was like, hold on - there''s a few steps missing from this process that must occur first!

Oh my gosh that is Hilarious with a capital H. My boyfriend went to his mother''s house a few weeks ago to help out with household things. He came back with a gallon of milk and told me that I needed to start drinking milk. The next day it was vitamins. I''m going, what the heck is wrong with you?? Turns out his mother felt the need to tell him that because I''m 26...which in her mind is too old to start having children...I need to take extra care to make sure I''ll be able to, including drinking milk and taking vitamins. LOL I love them though

 

[Dreamgirl]

Date: 5/30/2008 3:55:18 PM
Author: sunnyd
Now sometimes I think I start sh*t just to create drama, but that''s another story.

haha totally me! Oh goodness.....