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pulp_princess

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I''m going to be very unlike myself and try not to be shy today. Nearly everyone who has had the opportunity to describe me has said I''m shy, too shy, very shy, quiet, too quiet, extremely quiet, etc. You get the picture. I''d like to be able to talk to people without feeling uncomfortable, meet people, and I''d like to get to know others too. It just feels like I''m going against the grain when I do it and I''ve been that way ever since grade school. Old habits are the hardest to break, but I did promise kayla17 that I would post as soon as I felt up to it.
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Like everyone in the Americas, we immigrated from overseas. I don''t know the exact year that my grandfather came to Canada. Mom said he came to work on the Canadian Pacific Railway. He also panned for gold in the Yukon before settling down in a small little town by the lake. He had a choice between that town and some other town in California. He worked at a restaurant there until he made enough money to pay the head tax on his new son in law. At the time, I think it was $500, which is a huge sum of money during the depression. I have no idea how he did it and he must have been extremely diligent while working. When he made enough money, my dad came to Canada. Together, they worked in the restaurant until they had enough for my grandmother, my mom, my brother and sister to come. It was $3000 in total for all of them. I''m still amazed at how they brought that much money together. Especially reading history accounts of how much wages were for new immigrants, the cost of food, shelter, etc.

Eventually, they made enough to buy the restaurant. It''s still exists and my dad runs it to this day. They haven''t renovated it to keep the old style charm and it still has the cast iron ceilings, a working jukebox, and an antique Hamilton-Beach milkshake mixer with the original (now dented) metal containers. Some antique dealers have come through pricing the objects, waiting for my father to sell so they can jump on some of the items. Dad has never had any wish to sell so it rather makes me ill to hear them talk, some even from our home church.

My brother and I were born in that same town. It''s still a very quiet town today and all the people are still very laid back, sit out on their porches all day, or stare out the window in cafes. If you were from the city, you would think that time simply stopped or ceased to exist there.

I''ve asked about stories near the time of my birth and one that stuck out to my siblings was the baby room at the local hospital. I was in a glass bassinet, wrapped in a pink blanket. I was easily identifiable as the only baby with a full head of hair. Everyone else was completely bald.
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One of the babies began crying. One by one, they all began crying until I was the only one seemingly calm. My sister said I was looking around at the others to see what the commotion was, but I didn''t cry.

I''ve asked my siblings which of them chose my name. They all fight over it when I do that. My sister said she picked it out of a baby book. My oldest brother said he had the final say. My younger (but still older than me) brother said he was the one that suggested it to the older two. I''m just glad I didn''t get ''Rosemary''. Not that it''s a bad name, but it would sound horrible with my last name. Incidentally, my last name sounds French and I''ve been teased by many people who have the same last name as I do, but spelt the ''correct'' way. When my grandfather came, they tried to make it sound more familiar and French was as close as they could get.

My parents had a restaurant and there weren''t too many children around so I spent most of my time reading, and as a child, walking up to patrons, asking if they wanted to colour in my colouring book. I know I have signatures in there that I don''t recognize now.
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I may have been three or four at the time, definitely pre-school age. My older siblings at the time were finished school and working and would visit occasionally. Every so often, my sister would teach me the alphabet and my vowels and some basic reading skills. I learned to read well before I reached kindergarten and that ability defined most of my childhood. Perhaps one of the reasons I am so shy stemmed from not working with the other kids during reading lessons. I was allowed to go into the corner and read entire readers while the others would take reading lessons on the carpet. They let me skip a grade too since I could read. My mother was offered to let me skip two grades but decided that that might be a bit much. Quite a difference from my sister, who was held back grades because she didn''t speak english when she first came to Canada. I was a seemingly bright kid. What happened??!!
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My parents were working a little less now that they had me and closed the restaurant at 9 PM. The restaurant used to be open 20 hours a day with my dad taking two hours to clean during close and 2 hours to sleep. Then the cycle would start all over again. I hear mom was working right up until the day she had me. When it was time, my dad closed, excused all the patrons, and dropped her off at the hospital. He went back to make some money to support this new baby girl and put three other kids through college and university.
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(Yes, that means there is a huge age gap between the others and me.)

Another little story on my love of reading, because my little town was quiet and most of the schoolchildren lived in the countryside, I got very bored. My mom walked me to the local library so I could pick up some books after the restaurant closed. She gave me a limit of five books to take home. I would pick out ten books, read five at the library and take five home. I would read them all the next day and Mom would take me back that night. Repeat cycle. One summer, when I was four, I was recorded to have read 103 books at the library (in two months). I became the poster girl for reading that year. The librarians recorded the number of books that I had read when I brought them back. They didn''t record the number that I read whilst I was in the library.
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I still enjoy reading, with the English classics as my favourites. Jane Austen and the Bronte sisters kept me entertained all throughout high school. Fast forward now through university, where I traded my novels for textbooks. I applied to environmental engineering. After my first year, I decided I would rather know the theoretical side rather than the applied science, so I switched to honours chemistry. That degree is lying face down in my bedroom at home, collecting dust.
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I had a few good years of research and co-authored three papers that have appeared in scientific journals. I''m trying to decide if I should get back into research again. I''d like to (I can feel my mind growing mould), but in chemistry, the nature of things you look at for publishable material, is by definition, somewhat mysterious. I''ve had lots of professors with health problems or permanent after-effects because they didn''t know what the chemicals could do health-wise. I''m a big chicken at heart. The shyness is also a factor in getting up in front of people and defending my thesis.
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It makes me very ill to think of doing presentations.

Currently, I''m working and trying to get my very-slow-in-coming driver''s licence. I''m commuting four hours a day so I need it!!
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Hopefully, I can save enough money for future plans, but it seems that the longer I work, the less money there is. Luckily, I have had so much student debt, that I haven''t had to pay taxes yet because I can''t declare income.
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I live away from my parents now and I''ve put a new roof on the current house and am facing gigantic vet bills for my brother''s cat. I''ve paid up all my back rent and my share of the property taxes and am feeling pretty good about it. Of course, that means I have absolutely no money for future plans on a seven year relationship.
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On that note, I do have a 0.32 ct, F, VS1, Superbcert promise ring in the Tiffany setting. I will post pictures once I have them.
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On the one hand, I''m thankful for the reminder of how much I owe to my parents, while, on the other, I''ve said too much and feel like deleting half the post! I will stop rambling now. As another little step in overcoming shyness, I''m going to close my eyes, hold my breath, and press ''submit''.
 
Hi Pulp_Princess-




I read your post in its entirety and was intrigued the whole time. You have elaborate descriptive writing that takes the reader to a place in visualizing most of the places and circumstances you were describing growing up...It must be from all that reading you did...




I think overcoming a lot of fears and anxieties about revealing things about ourselves is hard for all of us (some more than others) Yoiu definitely have a lot of charm and witt in your writing...You seem very down to earth and well rounded. You are tackling the obstacle of putting yourself out there more. Something I am learning to do too....




What type of work do you think you would like to pursue?
 
Hi there Pulp Princess...




Like you, I am/was enormously shy. I grew up reading, everything from fine literature (we share a love of the Brontes) to the milk carton, to memorizing the back of the registration sticker on the family car.(good lord, I still remember that, some 45 years later!)




I didn't get on in school, at least with other students, mostly because I was a year younger than they, (and in some cases, 2), and emotionally immature. I always got on better with adults, having spent most of my growing time with them. It got worse in High School, and didn't really feel right till Senior Year. When I started work at age 16, it was even worse, I had to go for working papers, and few others did, (despite the HS diploma, in NYC you had to be 18 to work without working papers). Although I did my job, I wasn't really ready for interaction with my peers in the same position. Then I started college in the evenings (taking advantage of AT&T's tuition aid program), which didn't exactly please my mother, (she thought tuition aid meant AT&T paid for everything including books, which of course was untrue, and wasn't pleased they took tax from the tuition reimbursement) I forgot to mention, I had been schooled to turn over my paycheck to my mother, and was given .60 cents a day for PATH fare, that was it. I had to walk to the PATH station, and walk home. It wasn't till six years later, when she was taken ill with a CVA that I got to handle my own money, and by then it was too late. I had no clue how to manage it. Ugh, that was an ordeal.




I finally got my BA in '76, with a triple major, Anthropology, Sociology, and a '60's sounding third called 'Media Ecology'. Basically the latter was communications of all kinds, from written to film to photography. I was also by some miracle, married in '76.




Anyway, I just wanted to tell you I understand, and I'm really glad you pushed submit!




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Hi pulp princess,
I am so honored that you decided to post a thread about yourself because I asked.
They say the the first step is always the hardest, so now that you have taken it, I am expecting you to post pictures of yourself in a bikini!
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On a serious note, I can truly empathize with you about being shy. I was very, very shy as a child. I never talked to anyone and I didn't have that many friends.
My parents owned a grocery store and I spent all my free time there. After I finished my homework, I would spend hours reading anything I could get my hands on, whether it be a magazine, newspaper or book. Then when I was done, I would reread everything again.
I went to a magnet JHS where one needed to take a specialized entrance exam in a specific area in order to be accepted. My "talent" was Creative Writing. I did very well on my entrance exam and was placed in a 2 year program (JHS here is 7th,8th and 9th grade, I bypassed 8th grade).
For HS, I again took a special entrance exam for 3 specific HS's, and even though I got accepted to Stuyvesant, I went to Brooklyn Tech HS, because my brother was already there.
It was during this time that I began to change. My parents were very strict and I couldn't understand why they wouldn't let me do things that other kids were doing. I couldn't hang out after school, go out on the weekends or even talk on the phone. I was still expected to spend all my free time in the store. The few friends that I made at this time stopped hanging out with me after a while because I could never do anything or go anywhere with them.
This obviously didn't sit well with me, and I began to rebel. I went to a local college and it upset me that my mother expected me to stay in the store after I got out of classes. On top of this, my mother would give me just enough money to get back and forth from school and nothing else. I wasn't allowed to get a job, because I had to stay in the store and help out my parents.
One day, I came home at 3pm, 3 hours after class ended. It was a club meeting day and I stayed after classes to try to join a club. My mother and I got into a terrible argument and after that I moved out. I stayed with my friend until I got a job and found a place, which took me a few weeks.
When I was 18, I met my husband and we got married after a few months. I was 19 years old.
The rest, as they say, is history.
I am still shy at times, but not like how I was before. I have learned to speak up for myself and to not be afraid to let people know exactly how I feel or what's on my mind. There are times when I just have to take a deep gulp and just do it, or say it, or write it.
It's my turn to hit the "submit" button.
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Interesting life. I'm glad you hit the submit button. I would love to eat at the restaurant. The way you describe it - it sounds very soulful.
 
Fascinating history. I love hearing immigrant stories.
 
Josh, that is one of the nicest things I've heard in a long time.
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I have never been a good writer and have struggled for years in trying to make my sentences flow well. To hear that you think so, makes me really happy!

As an aside, I had the highest mark in English coming out of high school but it was my lowest graduating mark. Strange, huh? I guess the teacher was hard on everyone.
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I haven't considered a career switch yet, but the thought of forensics has been interesting lately. (This from the girl who got woozy as a volunteer, holding the dish of blood and bone marrow while the nurse was performing the extraction.) I'm sure there are many different divisions within forensics though. I haven't given it too much thought because it looks as though my near future might influence that decision! Also a consideration is returning for a Master's degree in Physical Chemistry. Does anyone know whether or not a Master's degree is frowned on in the U.S.? I heard that it is regarded as a failed Ph.D. Can you tell I'm terrified of a dissertation in front of peers?
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Glad I'm not alone, Win, in reading everything I could get my hands on. Thank you for sharing too.
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Kayla17, I did have a bikini top once when I was a toddler. It was a gift from an elderly lady, an old family friend. Mum didn't want to insult her, so she put me in it one day. Promptly, I said, "Mum, I'm cold." and I was quickly changed out of it. I think it's saved somewhere. I think that's one of my earliest childhood memories.
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You're a very admirable person. Congratulations on getting to where you are today. The real little Kayla looks just like her Mum. A beautiful little girl, pretty jewellry, and finding your soulmate early. You must be hard to buy for at Christmas.
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On 11/24/2003 10:31:54 AM fire&ice wrote:

Interesting life. I'm glad you hit the submit button. I would love to eat at the restaurant. The way you describe it - it sounds very soulful. ----------------



You're welcome anytime. Would you like your table reserved by the jukebox or at the front window overlooking the harbourfront?
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On 11/26/2003 10:35:02 PM Hest88 wrote:

Fascinating history. I love hearing immigrant stories.----------------


All of us are immigrants this side of the ocean, aren't we?
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Hey Pulp Princess!
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I enjoyed reading your bio. I can somewhat relate to you and Kayla17 since my parents own a restaurant. It is somewhat difficult to live a normal life when one feels "chained" to their parents and to their parents' work. Although, I probably didn't read as many books as you did since it seems like you read a lot growing up. That's amazing that you got the time to read as much as you did.
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Glad to see that you overcame your shyness and happy that you decided to post a little bio of you and your family. What town are you from in case if I ever happen to stop by and want to eat at your family owned restaurant? Oh, and congratulation on putting together your 0.32 ct, F, VS1, Superbcert promise ring in the Tiffany setting. I'm sure it will be a beauty. I guess you can disregard this request if you already posted the picture. I'm a little behind in my reading, and I probably am not as up to detail as most people are who post regularly on this forum. Hope to see more postings from you. Take care.
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