so, you may remember my past rant about my fmil. the one where during bridal gown shopping day, she asked the consultant if the dress i was wearing came in other colors for the mother of the groom. this was before i even said whether or not i liked it as my wedding dress!
anyway, apparently the wedding is all about her. it''s laughable actually and fi and i chuckle all the time about it. she''s taking dance lessons so we keep calling our wedding her dance recital.
but, here''s where it''s not funny anymore. fi and i knew we could never have a small wedding with our families. but we wanted to make it as small as possible. we thought 200 guests seemed like a reasonable #. we knew that his mom would have a ginormous list though and that a lot of tension would stem from it. we were right! back in june she told us her guest list alone was 172! my mom list is 65ish and FI/Me have a list of about 75. unhappily we agreed to her #. shopped for venues and assumed at the end of the day, we were inviting 307 and would end up around the 250 mark. We were all okay with that...not happy...but okay with it. Somewhere shortly after, her list grew to 180. we gritted our teeth and were fine with it. She''s paying for her people, so there''s not much we can say.
well, we''re getting ready to send std''s so i asked for her address list. i counted how many people she had on there....205. two hundred and frickin five people...just from her (not even fi''s dad!). it''s ridiculous. she knows the kind of wedding we wanted and this was a slap in the face. we asked her to cut 25 people because it''s turning into a circus. she told us that we didn''t understand her obligations. well, i do actually b/c i made cuts to my OWN list. to MY wedding. so frustrating. she cut it down to 190 but i''m trying to put my foot down here. i want it back to 180. i know at the end of the day 10 people aren''t a big deal, but it''s the principle.
i feel like fi and i compromised the wedding we wanted for her and now enough is enough. it''s time for her to compromise! it''s ridiculous.
and, while i''m ranting...we didn''t want an engagement party but she insisted that her friends would be insulted if we didn''t have one. so we gave in. she said it would be low key. ummm, 108 people were invited! not low key at all!
congrats to those who made it through my rant! i do feel better just writing it out.
anyway, apparently the wedding is all about her. it''s laughable actually and fi and i chuckle all the time about it. she''s taking dance lessons so we keep calling our wedding her dance recital.
but, here''s where it''s not funny anymore. fi and i knew we could never have a small wedding with our families. but we wanted to make it as small as possible. we thought 200 guests seemed like a reasonable #. we knew that his mom would have a ginormous list though and that a lot of tension would stem from it. we were right! back in june she told us her guest list alone was 172! my mom list is 65ish and FI/Me have a list of about 75. unhappily we agreed to her #. shopped for venues and assumed at the end of the day, we were inviting 307 and would end up around the 250 mark. We were all okay with that...not happy...but okay with it. Somewhere shortly after, her list grew to 180. we gritted our teeth and were fine with it. She''s paying for her people, so there''s not much we can say.
well, we''re getting ready to send std''s so i asked for her address list. i counted how many people she had on there....205. two hundred and frickin five people...just from her (not even fi''s dad!). it''s ridiculous. she knows the kind of wedding we wanted and this was a slap in the face. we asked her to cut 25 people because it''s turning into a circus. she told us that we didn''t understand her obligations. well, i do actually b/c i made cuts to my OWN list. to MY wedding. so frustrating. she cut it down to 190 but i''m trying to put my foot down here. i want it back to 180. i know at the end of the day 10 people aren''t a big deal, but it''s the principle.
i feel like fi and i compromised the wedding we wanted for her and now enough is enough. it''s time for her to compromise! it''s ridiculous.
and, while i''m ranting...we didn''t want an engagement party but she insisted that her friends would be insulted if we didn''t have one. so we gave in. she said it would be low key. ummm, 108 people were invited! not low key at all!
congrats to those who made it through my rant! i do feel better just writing it out.
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