First I wanna thank you all for all your hard work here. I''m one of those long time lurkers and the amount of information here is RIDICULOUS! Which is awesome for us.
Anyway, I''m looking to propose soon. For a little background we met initially via internet through business contacts a bit over 3 years ago. It was almost immediate when I realized she was the one! For the most part we''ve been in a long distance relationship since she decided to go back to school. She''s finishing up her last semester and will be moving to my city shortly (5 to 6 weeks) after her graduation. The plan is for me to fly down there, load up a moving truck and we make her move a nice road trip with just the two of us.
So here''s where I need your help! I''m trying to decide whether or not to propose graduation weekend or when I fly out to move her here. My initial plan was to do it right before the move. I would go out there a few days before she thought I would be out there to set things up. Have her bestfriend take her to the spa and get massages and manicures and pedicures and stuff like that, then have them go out to dinner at a nice restaurant. They would order drinks and then her best friend would excuse herself from the table then I would deliver her the wrong drink from behind and as she turns to correct her order (which she WILL do) she would be in complete amazement to see me standing there and that''s when I would do what I need to do! Then possibly have all her friends and family show up after that and we all have a big celebration at the restaurant. She LOVES surprises!!!
That''s option 1, option 2 would be to do it during graduation but I have no idea to go about doing it with shock and aww like option 1. They both have pros and cons so here''s where my mind is.
option 1: I like it because it will be completely unexpected and a great story to tell. It gives more time to plan, get the ring, and save money for any extras. It would make the road trip extra special I think and will really make her feel good about making a move to a city where she knows no one but me, my family, and my friends.
option 2: I like because I know for sure all her family will be there and my mother aswell. It will give her more time to share the engagement with her mother, friends, and to show off the ring to her co-workers. It will make her and her family feel better sooner about her moving to another city to "be with a man" as her mom likes to put it, so preparation for the move may be a bit more exciting. She will get her ring sooner (which she doesn''t know is coming but sure is itching for it).
the problem I''m having with option 2 is that it is her graduation and I don''t want to take anything away from that. I will be meeting her biological father for the first time and I want to ask for his blessings but not sure if it''s appropriate to ask the day of the day before especially since he and I would just be meeting. This option also gives me less time to prepare and come up with a killer plan that''s not cliche (which is where I hope you guys could help... she LOVES surprises). Another con is that I will be proposing then leaving like the next day or day after as oppose to popping the question then riding off into the sunset to a new life.
Wow!!! this thing is long! Sorry about the length guys and gals, didn''t think it would take that much. So can you help? What do you think? Thanks in advance!
Anyway, I''m looking to propose soon. For a little background we met initially via internet through business contacts a bit over 3 years ago. It was almost immediate when I realized she was the one! For the most part we''ve been in a long distance relationship since she decided to go back to school. She''s finishing up her last semester and will be moving to my city shortly (5 to 6 weeks) after her graduation. The plan is for me to fly down there, load up a moving truck and we make her move a nice road trip with just the two of us.
So here''s where I need your help! I''m trying to decide whether or not to propose graduation weekend or when I fly out to move her here. My initial plan was to do it right before the move. I would go out there a few days before she thought I would be out there to set things up. Have her bestfriend take her to the spa and get massages and manicures and pedicures and stuff like that, then have them go out to dinner at a nice restaurant. They would order drinks and then her best friend would excuse herself from the table then I would deliver her the wrong drink from behind and as she turns to correct her order (which she WILL do) she would be in complete amazement to see me standing there and that''s when I would do what I need to do! Then possibly have all her friends and family show up after that and we all have a big celebration at the restaurant. She LOVES surprises!!!
That''s option 1, option 2 would be to do it during graduation but I have no idea to go about doing it with shock and aww like option 1. They both have pros and cons so here''s where my mind is.
option 1: I like it because it will be completely unexpected and a great story to tell. It gives more time to plan, get the ring, and save money for any extras. It would make the road trip extra special I think and will really make her feel good about making a move to a city where she knows no one but me, my family, and my friends.
option 2: I like because I know for sure all her family will be there and my mother aswell. It will give her more time to share the engagement with her mother, friends, and to show off the ring to her co-workers. It will make her and her family feel better sooner about her moving to another city to "be with a man" as her mom likes to put it, so preparation for the move may be a bit more exciting. She will get her ring sooner (which she doesn''t know is coming but sure is itching for it).
the problem I''m having with option 2 is that it is her graduation and I don''t want to take anything away from that. I will be meeting her biological father for the first time and I want to ask for his blessings but not sure if it''s appropriate to ask the day of the day before especially since he and I would just be meeting. This option also gives me less time to prepare and come up with a killer plan that''s not cliche (which is where I hope you guys could help... she LOVES surprises). Another con is that I will be proposing then leaving like the next day or day after as oppose to popping the question then riding off into the sunset to a new life.
Wow!!! this thing is long! Sorry about the length guys and gals, didn''t think it would take that much. So can you help? What do you think? Thanks in advance!