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MrsBlue

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I've spent the last week caring for my dad in the hospital. It has been nothing short of exhausting but I'm cherishing every moment that I have with him. On a recent brief break I was washing my hands and the sharp spark of my stud earrings caught my eye. They looked gorgeous and I almost cried because it was so nice to have something frivolous and pretty to look at and give me a 2 second distraction from reality.

I've been waffling between feeling shallow and thankful but my emotions are completely fried and I'm coping in any way I can. I've knitted nearly half a sweater during the hours that dad is asleep and I've caught myself meditating on the differences in the geometry of my studs.

I don't think anyone in real life would understand diamonds (even very little ones) as a coping mechanism so I came here.
 
@MrsBlue I completely understand. Not to go into all the stuff going on at my end...my jewelry gives me sanity if that makes sense. I will stare into my diamond ring and I lose the stress for a while. I get so much joy and diversion from the everyday stress from my sparklies...I really like that you do too. Consider coming here more often...and get to know the people...Jump in and be part of the group...We love our sparklies and it’s a great way to relax..You’re a good daughter..
 
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AMIN ...
 
Finding little things that help you get through the difficult times is important, whatever they might be :)
 
I’m sorry you are feeling this way. What you are dealing with now is very heavy painful stuff. I’m sure many people can understand where you are coming from. Thankfully for most of us there are only a couple times in our whole lives that leave us feeling this way and things always seem to get better with time.

You are not being shallow @MrsBlue. Diamonds right now are a little bright spot in your day, a little spark of joy. Be grateful they make you happy, if only for a few moments a day. Some people are unable to find anything to take their pain away for even a few moments. I can’t even begin to imagine how awful that would feel. Please put any thoughts of being shallow out of your head. Try to replace those thoughts with knowing those small sparks of joy you feel will help to get you feeling whole again, if that makes sense.

I hope things begin to get better for you @MrsBlue.

I’m glad you are here @Mamabean.
 
@Mamabean your post was the last thing I saw online on my way to the hospital this morning and I can't thank you enough for your kindness. It truly made a difference in my day.

@Callicake thank you for your wise words and understanding. You are absolutely right. I'm grateful for all of the things, big and small, that bring me joy. I learned my work ethic from my dad so I owe it to him to appreciate the things that I've worked hard for.

@av, @OooShiny many thanks for your support.
 
Let me me be a good PSer and pay my picture tax to all of you lovely people. These are my new 1.24ctw ACA babies. A Kvs1 and a Kvs2 upgrade from my previous .8ctw pair. I didn't think it would be enough of an upgrade but I love this size. They're my little stars during dark times.



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Your earrings are beautiful! I have always used browsing for jewellery as a way of distracting myself from anything stressful, it soothes the mind even if one is not buying.

I wish you strength in your caring role and sincerely hope your dad’s condition improves.
 
Your earrings are beautiful @MrsBlue. I echo others sentiments in that you should take joy and find comfort where you can. Life is hard, life is short but life can be beautiful too. Celebrate the happy and may you find strength to do what is necessary. Keeping your father and you in my thoughts and sending gentle hugs your way.
 
Good news! After 11 days in icu my father can come home. He is weak and needs help with almost everything but he's still cantankerous enough to gripe about hospital food =)2

I don't know how much longer I'll have him but every minute counts.

Thank you so much for your kind words and support @missy and @Snowdrop13
 
MrsBlue said:
Good news! After 11 days in icu my father can come home. He is weak and needs help with almost everything but he's still cantankerous enough to gripe about hospital food =)2

I don't know how much longer I'll have him but every minute counts.

Thank you so much for your kind words and support @missy and @Snowdrop13
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Wonderful news! When they are cranky and argumentative that is a great sign. May his healing continue and sending lots of good wishes to you both.
 
::HUGS:: @MrsBlue. You’re absolutely right about finding comfort and beauty in small things - I’m so glad you have those things to make you feel better :kiss2:
 
@MrsBlue I’m so happy you felt comfort from my post to you. Your earrings are just beautiful firecrackers! I love the size on your ear....I’m so happy your dad is coming home! Great news!
 
I love your earrings!
 
Great News about your dad @MrsBlue !! Thank you for coming back here and reporting the happy news.

The earrings are beautiful on you and size looks perfect!
 
Glad your Pops can come home and you can spend more time with him.
The earrings are a perfect size IMO. Seriously, perfect.
 
MrsBlue I'm so glad that your dad can go home!

My daughter had a health issue when young and spent a lot of time in the hospital. I stayed with her the entire time, except for a few breaks when my DH could do it. It did a number on my psyche to be 'confined' to a room like that even though I knew I could come and go. My rings were my source of distraction and joy. I even cleaned them while there. They were my crutch! My mom passed of mesothelioma in December. Shortly before she got sick she reset her diamond and was thrilled for the first time in a long time with her set. During her illness she always had her rings on and I'd catch her admiring them. Mesothelioma is brutal, it took everything away from her. Through it all, her rings stayed on her finger until she took her last breath. I believe they were her last source of joy when all others had long gone.

That's the purpose of diamonds, right? To bring us joy. I'd say your beautiful earrings did their job well when they were needed and not just wanted. :))
 
MrsBlue said:
Good news! After 11 days in icu my father can come home. He is weak and needs help with almost everything but he's still cantankerous enough to gripe about hospital food =)2

I don't know how much longer I'll have him but every minute counts.

Thank you so much for your kind words and support @missy and @Snowdrop13
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this will be good for your dad to get home
if he'd complaining about food there is much fight still left in him
thinking of you both and wishing you quality time together
 
@MrsBlue I am so sorry to hear of your situation. I have found that in life, its the little things that matter. The small gestures, the wonderful glances, the small conversations, even the sparkly jewelry- whatever it is that brings you into the moment is worth celebrating. Looking at something beautiful and appreciating it is a mix of self compassion and being present. All good things. Your earrings are gorgeous btw and so is the ring in your Avatar.

Think of you and your Dad ...
 
@MrsBlue I'm happy to hear your Dad is coming home!! I remember when I was in the hospital with my Dad. I spent many weeks there with him, without diamonds.... :roll: And he didn't get to come home. Having more time with your Dad is a gift that I'm sure you will enjoy to the fullest. I'm glad your gorgeous earrings were a distraction, they look great on you, and I hope they bring you pleasure for many years to come. Please visit us more often! ;)2
 
Glad to hear your father is home & on the mend. I agree the little blessings in life do bring joy & comfort! I enjoy my jewels everyday and feel so lucky to have them. :kiss2:
 
SandyinAnaheim said:
@MrsBlue I'm happy to hear your Dad is coming home!! I remember when I was in the hospital with my Dad. I spent many weeks there with him, without diamonds.... :roll: And he didn't get to come home. Having more time with your Dad is a gift that I'm sure you will enjoy to the fullest. I'm glad your gorgeous earrings were a distraction, they look great on you, and I hope they bring you pleasure for many years to come. Please visit us more often! ;)2
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@SandyinAnaheim my heart goes out to you. I'm a daddy's girl and according to the doctors, the situation was serious. I was preparing myself to say goodbye but this wasn't his time. I don't have words big enough to express how grateful I am to have him, and to have found such a depth of kindness in this place.

Many thanks to everyone for their sweet, supportive comments. Your hearts outshine your diamonds <3
 
So happy that your dad was able to come home! I've been there and I know how hard it is.

I did want to say that this hobby has been therapy and escape from me during difficult times in the past. I think seeing and appreciating beauty is always uplifting in a way. So I am happy you are enjoying your gorgeous new WF studs! They look beautiful!

(@rainydaze So sorry to hear about your mother. sad :(( )
 
@rainydaze I'm so sorry for the loss of your mom but how lovely to know she had her jewels with her--the ones on her fingers as well as the ones by her side. You sound like a remarkable daughter. She was lucky to have you.
 
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