FF needs help deciding on ring

[paris29]

MY FF wants to wear his ring before we get married. We plan on getting his the same time we get my engagement ring. Do any of your FF plan on wearing the ring before the wedding. Also which ring do you ladies/guys prefer?

 

[calibali]

I like ring #1. It's really sweet that your FF wants to wear his ring before the wedding. I haven't known any guys to do that and I don't think my FF will, but I still like the idea!

 

[beezygal]

I like ring #1. It's really sweet that your FF wants to wear his ring before the wedding. I haven't known any guys to do that and I don't think my FF will, but I still like the idea!

I like ring #1 also. I just don't like gold. It is very sweet of your FF. When I saw your post, I asked my bf if he would wear his ring before the wedding. He said no.

 

[chemgirl]

My FI is currently wearing his wedding band. I bought it for him at the same time he bought my engagement ring. He wanted to wear his right away so we sort of exchanged boxes outside of the store. He argued that I get to wear this symbol of our commitment, and he wants something too. He didn't think it was fair at all! At first I thought it was strange, but after he explained I thought it was really sweet!

I think that both of the rings you posted are very nice. Is there any way your FF can try them on? Originally, my FI and I wanted platinum wedding bands. However, after days of trying on rings, nothing looked "right" on his hand. The sales person suggested we try yellow gold and it really worked with FI's skin tone. It just glowed compared to the platinum (FI is always very tanned). I think your FF needs to try on a few rings and get an idea of what he likes. I find for men, the right ring is really obvious. At least in our case, it just looked perfect compared to several rings that fell short.

 

[chemgirl]

Also, we looked at that Tiffany ring and it is not comfort fit. The sides were a bit sharp and it bothered B. It is a lovely ring though and it might not bother someone else. Its really important to try it on. Don't just order it!

 

[slg47]

prefer the looks of the 1st one, but go try them on, that way you two can see how they look on his hand and which one is more appealing

is your BF prepared for everyone to think he is married?

 

[peach_tea_for_me]

I vote ring #1.

That's cute that he's excited for some jewelry too!

 

[shihtzulover]

Has he tried on both yellow gold and white gold to see which suits him better?

I am a huge fan of platinum/white gold, and I don't like yellow gold as much, but some people really do look better in yellow gold.

Also, my boyfriend and I are toying with the idea of getting him some sort of engagement ring to wear. The problem is that he doesn't want it to look too much like a wedding ring (since we want to exchange those at our actual wedding), and he doesn't want diamonds, either. The other issue is that he would want to continue to wear it after he received his wedding band, but not on the same finger - so we were thinking that maybe he could switch it to his right hand.

 

[TooPatient]

FI isn't opposed to wearing a ring before the wedding. I REALLY want him to wear a ring before the wedding.

The problem is that he has an infection that causes his hands to swell so he'll be one size at one time and a couple of hours later be something WAY different.
I bought a ring for him (he tried it on AND liked it) but it only stayed on for one day because of the swelling. He isn't willing to get something big enough to fit his hands at their largest (he thinks it is uncomfortable other times as it pushes against his other fingers)

So if I can find a ring that is comfortable for him (hands are swelling less so this may be possible soon), he likes, and does not have diamonds then he'll try it again. (what is it with not liking diamonds?!?? -- Diamonds are just wonderful!!!)

What I want to find:
a wide (but not too wide) yellow & white gold ring with sapphires that is substantial enough (he seems to like 6-8mm) for him to like but narrow enough he can wear it with a wedding band in a price range that I can afford with a decent return policy.


Sorry, started to ramble.

Make sure he tries them on to decide what looks and FEELS good to him. You also want to make sure they've got a decent return policy in case he turns out to be allergic to the metal, decides it is too wide/narrow, rubs wrong, sits wrong.... (I'm currently stuck with a size 10 men's gold band with no place to return it and a FI who won't wear it )

ETA: I like both rings.

 

[BubbleGumPlant]

Get him a masculine looking chain he can wear around his neck so that when his fingers swell he can just place it on the chain.

 

[DuckLovingVegan]

I like the first one with the double miligrain it gives it a nice look. I don't like the second one because I don't really care for yellow gold. My friend gave her FH a manengagement ring and my SO said do I get one too? I said no you get your ring at the wedding ceremony. If I got him a pre wedding ring I don't think he would wear it afterwards because his not much of a jewelry person just like I am.

 

[paris29]

Hey ladies. I think it might be due to the flash on my mom's camera that makes the second band appear to be yellow gold but it is actually white gold, sorry for the confusion. FF plans on getting the band (whichever he chooses) in platinum. I do wish the Tiffany ring had the comfort fit. I think he should be going to go try them on in a couple of weeks. I think the day of the wedding he will just take it off right before the ceremony so we can still exchange rings during the ceremony.

Toopatient- I was going to recommend trying a comfort fit wedding band. I heard that it actually makes the ring still feel comfortable even if one's finger swells or sweats.