waxing lyrical
Shiny_Rock
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To the OP, I can''t say I''m surprised by someone openly admitting they would terminate in such a situation. A very high number of Ds babies are terminated. It''s even higher with the fatal trisomies and NTDs.
I wanted to add to my previous post. If it was discovered at the 25 week u/s that DS had fatal abnormalities we would have continued on with the pregnancy and hoped for the best. After a certain point I knew there were problems. My instinct was right, but I didn''t know how severe those problems were. If we had known sooner what his outcome was going to be I would have consented to weekly BPPs and NSTs and if at whatever point he scored low I would have opted to induce labor to have moments with him alive. But, that''s in hindsight. I would have preferred that route if we had known ahead of time. Terminating is not an option, even though his case of Down Syndrome was more uncommon and severe. The mothers I know that have lost babies to the trisomies or other chromosomal conditions wouldn''t change or take back the time they spent with their precious babies. We would have fully welcomed another Ds baby into our family this time. Our only hope was that this baby not have the same complications. We recognize our situation is not average or common concerning T21. I can''t say we were nervous this time. We would much rather have a living, breathing baby than a dead baby. If that baby had Ds then so be it.
I wanted to add to my previous post. If it was discovered at the 25 week u/s that DS had fatal abnormalities we would have continued on with the pregnancy and hoped for the best. After a certain point I knew there were problems. My instinct was right, but I didn''t know how severe those problems were. If we had known sooner what his outcome was going to be I would have consented to weekly BPPs and NSTs and if at whatever point he scored low I would have opted to induce labor to have moments with him alive. But, that''s in hindsight. I would have preferred that route if we had known ahead of time. Terminating is not an option, even though his case of Down Syndrome was more uncommon and severe. The mothers I know that have lost babies to the trisomies or other chromosomal conditions wouldn''t change or take back the time they spent with their precious babies. We would have fully welcomed another Ds baby into our family this time. Our only hope was that this baby not have the same complications. We recognize our situation is not average or common concerning T21. I can''t say we were nervous this time. We would much rather have a living, breathing baby than a dead baby. If that baby had Ds then so be it.