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Feeling deep jealousy over my engagement?

Discussion in 'Bride World Wide & Grooms Grooves' started by Its2019, Jan 21, 2019.

  1. Its2019
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    by Its2019 » Jan 21, 2019
    I hate being the center of attention, but I did tell my co workers I got engaged. I have never even really told people if it was the day of my birthday or anything else. Anyways I'm starting to regret saying anything. Shortly after the engagement and after my co workers found out, one of my co workers tattled on me. I just have a sneaking suspicion that there is jealousy involved as there was no evidence my manager presented me outside of "you didn't do enough work". I honestly don't get it. Has anyone experienced this type of behavior? Btw I plan on not saying anything further about my wedding, I'll just get married, no pictures to show, no details nothing at all.
     
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  2. OoohShiny
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    by OoohShiny » Jan 21, 2019
    People are insecure idiots, basically (and sadly).
     
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  3. cmd2014
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    by cmd2014 » Jan 21, 2019
    Are you sure that this is about getting engaged? You might be jumping to conclusions. It might have nothing to do with getting engaged.

    You probably did this, but I would likely have expressed surprise and asked for specific details regarding which project that it was perceived that I had slacked on, and regarding what was not done that was expected to be done. One, just in case there is something behind the complaints (how can you fix it if you don't know what it is, right?), and two, if there is not, so that you could defend yourself against the allegations.

    Also, if you know who did the "tattling" - you might want to approach them about what happened. As in "I heard from our manager that you were feeling that I didn't pull my weight on the last project we worked on together. I really wish you had talked to me about your concerns first. Can we talk about what I might be able to do better next time?" There might not be anything that you did wrong, but again, it never hurts to clarify. Plus, it lets your coworker know that you know and might stop it from happening again.
     
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  4. Its2019
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    by Its2019 » Jan 22, 2019
    I have evidence to point to which leads me to that conclusion. The fact that me getting engaged was brought up in the meeting in the way of "you want to hold onto your job and not make mistakes" type of way.

    My co worker chewed me out, before the meeting, after telling the manager. The sad thing is a lot of people tattle on each other for nothing.
     
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