Fashion question

[CJ2008]

This is probably really silly, but I need to ask!

Does there come a time when you can't wear to-the-body tank tops any more?

I've always had a small waist and flat stomach...but in the last 2-3 years that I've gotten older and gained a little weight I have developed a layer of fat in this area. It's not so much rolls it's more like a guitar with a bump before my thighs start. So now whenever I try anything that is REMOTELY close to the body the shape that comes out isn't smooth...it's not that the size is too tight...if I try to go a size up it's too big on the top, or too long, or just doesn't look right.

Does this mean I can't wear close-fitting tank tops any more?

 

[Yimmers]

Are you wearing a properly fitted bra? Giving you a well support bosom will raise it higher, giving you a longer torso.

 

[Hera]

Maybe you should look closer into some slimming underwear. Something from spanx in order to let things to lie a little flatter. I don't think you should give up yet!

 

[CJ2008]

Thanks for the feedback, guys.

Yimmers - yes, the bra is fine...

heraanderson - that might be a good idea for special occasions, I might just have to do that. But I wouldn't want to have to do that every day...it might be good for me to look into it to have them on hand - I've heard mixed reviews about Spanx, though - anybody recommend any particular one?

I know if I lost the 15 or so pounds I put on in the last year it would get better, and I'm trying, but it's taking a long time of course.

I just can't judge whether it looks terrible, or I'm being too hard on myself and expecting them to look like when I was 25 and it's just an "acceptance" thing.

 

[iheartscience]

Honestly, if you don't have a super flat stomach, a tight tank top isn't going to be as flattering as a slightly less fitted one will be. Try tank tops with a different cut, not just tight tank tops in larger sizes. You can get a slim tank that isn't skin tight in your size-you just have to look.

 

[CJ2008]

not just tight tank tops in larger sizes.

Thing,

For some reason this made me laugh...it made me realize I'm trying to squeeze a round peg into a square hole. haha

I guess acceptance for me means I need to stop wearing tight tops! Not so much for my stomach (it's still fairly flat) but for the sides...the "outline" of my body shape...

Oh well.

 

[iheartscience]

Heh, I think sometimes we get stuck in our "uniform" and it's hard to deviate. I actually think slightly looser fitting clothes are more flattering no matter what.

ETA for grammar!

 

[CJ2008]

Yes, you're right I'm so used to wearing tank tops all my life because my upper body *used* to be so toned and fit...

Not any more...

Even with a lot of work I still have a layer of fat all over...

I don't like tight clothes either...but I think you're right - I don't have to go to the OTHER extreme of tops that are a-line...there might some materials that are thicker that don't show everything through as much.

Thanks!