Hello all-
It''s been a while since I posted and have an update and am in need of some more advice. I was a Gent in waiting then, and still am today. My earlier post, in a nutshell, was seeking advice on the subject of proposing when she might not be ready. I ended up heeding the advice of posters here and speaking with her beforehand. While it meant not getting engaged on our trip abroad, it was certainly the correct decision!
Fast forward a little over a year and our talks about marriage and the future have progressed a lot. She''s also nearing the end of school (less than 1 year left). Last time we spoke, we decided an engagement sometime in early 2010 would be nice because we could then have a graduation/engagement party in mid 2010 and plan for a wedding sometime in 2011. I''m going to begin to feel her out in terms of diamond preference in the next month or so.
Now I need to decide how and when (the latter being the more difficult one) to propose. We generally go on vacation with her family around the xmas holidays and I was thinking this might be a great opportunity, especially since I''m starting to get the proposal itch. Family is VERY important to her, but I''m not sure how she would feel about being proposed to on vacation with her family. It would mean limited alone time which would be the biggest downside. It would, however, mean we could share the joy and excitement with her family almost immediately and for the rest of the trip.
Another option would be to take a trip in late fall and do it then. I would need to feel her out a little more with regards to timing because this would throw things off a little in terms of a longer engagement. I was thinking of going to my hometown to do it because it''s incredibly beautiful there and we could share the news with my family in person, something we otherwise wouldn''t be able to do. It would likely only be for a few days so we would be back home and able to see her parents in a fairly short time.
What are your thoughts on either option? Or do you think it would be better to do it after the new year, on a trip alone?
It''s been a while since I posted and have an update and am in need of some more advice. I was a Gent in waiting then, and still am today. My earlier post, in a nutshell, was seeking advice on the subject of proposing when she might not be ready. I ended up heeding the advice of posters here and speaking with her beforehand. While it meant not getting engaged on our trip abroad, it was certainly the correct decision!
Fast forward a little over a year and our talks about marriage and the future have progressed a lot. She''s also nearing the end of school (less than 1 year left). Last time we spoke, we decided an engagement sometime in early 2010 would be nice because we could then have a graduation/engagement party in mid 2010 and plan for a wedding sometime in 2011. I''m going to begin to feel her out in terms of diamond preference in the next month or so.
Now I need to decide how and when (the latter being the more difficult one) to propose. We generally go on vacation with her family around the xmas holidays and I was thinking this might be a great opportunity, especially since I''m starting to get the proposal itch. Family is VERY important to her, but I''m not sure how she would feel about being proposed to on vacation with her family. It would mean limited alone time which would be the biggest downside. It would, however, mean we could share the joy and excitement with her family almost immediately and for the rest of the trip.
Another option would be to take a trip in late fall and do it then. I would need to feel her out a little more with regards to timing because this would throw things off a little in terms of a longer engagement. I was thinking of going to my hometown to do it because it''s incredibly beautiful there and we could share the news with my family in person, something we otherwise wouldn''t be able to do. It would likely only be for a few days so we would be back home and able to see her parents in a fairly short time.
What are your thoughts on either option? Or do you think it would be better to do it after the new year, on a trip alone?