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Rough_Rock
- Joined
- May 11, 2009
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I got divorced last year from a man that was mentally and emotionally abusive. Our divorce wasn''t final until 9 months after I left him, and I started dating my current boyfriend before it was final. My parents are very religious and judgmental, and were very unhappy about this. (They told my son that I was "sinning" by getting that divorce, asked him if I was going to get back together with my ex, etc.) They did not include me at Thanksgiving dinner because of it. Since my divorce became final, they have included my boyfriend and I at family events, but I still know they aren''t pleased with my choices.
I''m on the verge of getting engaged, yet they hardly know my BF because they have not made any effort to get to know him. They only have us over to events when they know I''ll refuse to come if he isn''t included. I have not had them over to my house for several reasons. First, there are religious and political differences I know they won''t approve of. Secondly, he lives with me, which they don''t know about and won''t approve of. I''m in my 40s and hardly need them to tell me what I''m allowed to do, but I''m still afraid of their disapproval.
I am thrilled to be in love with such a wonderful man who wants to spend his life with me, yet torn because I know my parents are not going to be excited. I''m tired of living with their conditional love for me, yet not sure how to get past it. Have any of you dealt with a similar situation? How do you stop trying to get your parents'' approval when you''ve been the "good girl" your entire life?
I''m on the verge of getting engaged, yet they hardly know my BF because they have not made any effort to get to know him. They only have us over to events when they know I''ll refuse to come if he isn''t included. I have not had them over to my house for several reasons. First, there are religious and political differences I know they won''t approve of. Secondly, he lives with me, which they don''t know about and won''t approve of. I''m in my 40s and hardly need them to tell me what I''m allowed to do, but I''m still afraid of their disapproval.
I am thrilled to be in love with such a wonderful man who wants to spend his life with me, yet torn because I know my parents are not going to be excited. I''m tired of living with their conditional love for me, yet not sure how to get past it. Have any of you dealt with a similar situation? How do you stop trying to get your parents'' approval when you''ve been the "good girl" your entire life?