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Brilliant_Rock
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I don''t know what the point of this post is, other than that I think I have a better chance of following through with my goal if it is in writing! My goal is never to say a negative thing about my FMIL to my fiance.
My MIL is not a very happy person. She makes underhanded and negative comments to me all the time (dumb stuff for ex when nobody is around telling me that she doesn''t like my cocktail napkins, or that i shouldn''t gain anymore weight). She came to visit my family last weekend and my mom and grandmother noticed the dr. jekel/mr hyde transformation when my fiance and her husband were around. We went to a luncheon and she trashed talked the host''s home, and all of the guests (my moms best friends). Whenever we tell her about our ideas or decisions for the wedding, she always finds something negative to say.
I know that telling my fiance will only end up hurting our relationship, and EVENTUALLY he will see her true colors. Also, this is my future family so it is inappropriate for me to say bad things about her.
So this is my goal. I do not care how nasty and critical my fmil is to me, I will only respond with sweetness and my fiance will not hear a negative word from me. Any family goals of your own?
My MIL is not a very happy person. She makes underhanded and negative comments to me all the time (dumb stuff for ex when nobody is around telling me that she doesn''t like my cocktail napkins, or that i shouldn''t gain anymore weight). She came to visit my family last weekend and my mom and grandmother noticed the dr. jekel/mr hyde transformation when my fiance and her husband were around. We went to a luncheon and she trashed talked the host''s home, and all of the guests (my moms best friends). Whenever we tell her about our ideas or decisions for the wedding, she always finds something negative to say.
I know that telling my fiance will only end up hurting our relationship, and EVENTUALLY he will see her true colors. Also, this is my future family so it is inappropriate for me to say bad things about her.
So this is my goal. I do not care how nasty and critical my fmil is to me, I will only respond with sweetness and my fiance will not hear a negative word from me. Any family goals of your own?