Facebook Vent: does it annoy anyone else?

[Haven]

Facebook seems to bring out the screaming adolescent in some people. You now, the "Look at meeeeee! I''m so aweSOME! I''m awesome, right? RIGHT????" part of them that seeks validation and recognition from others.

I just delete those people from my friends list when they get on my nerves.

I do like reading about the happy moments from my loved ones'' lives, and looking at pictures, though. The quizzes and such don''t interest me, so I just don''t take them.

 

[phoenixgirl]

The people I find annoying on FB tend to be the people I find annoying in real life. I have a "favorite friends" list, and as soon as I log on I click on it so I can avoid the annoying updates of the people I don''t really like and/or know. I also have a lot of privacy controls so that when somebody I barely remember from high school or my crazy MIL friend requests me, I can keep it so they can only see a few of my interests and a few pictures.

But it''s not so much the braggy "has an awesome boyfriend" updates that annoy me. It''s ones like:

[Name] is wondering if he is the ONLY person from high school who isn''t married with kids??? Why can''t I get a date???

or

[Same guy] wishes his migraine would go away. Sigh . . . Why can''t I ever catch a break?

or

[Name] says F--- you to her cheating husband and that sk--- he was caught with.

or

[Name] wishes her mother would see her without a therapist present.


No joke, those are all things that people from high school have posted, and the first and last I was actually friends with. The second woman was somebody I barely remember but her updates are so crazy that I haven''t unfriended her yet. I, on the other hand, try to make my status updates funny (something silly a student or nephew or niece said or did) or clever, but I don''t actually try to reveal personal information.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:08:22 PM
Author: BeachRunner
I'm amused by people's status updated, but I do think some people may embellish things to make their life more exciting. Crazy how some people NEVER have a bad day!? I always chuckle when people update their status every .2 seconds about where, why, how, they do something.


I second the annoyance of the quizzes.

Exactly..it's not that I don't like seeing people happy, that is great! It's silly that they NEVER have a bad day, etc. Every single day is the best day ever. It's like who are you trying to impress? Because I KNOW some of these people I've seen do this..they were trying to impress someone. But if someone annoys me constantly..I just hide them or unfriend them in the end. I cut my list down to under 100 which compared to most people I know..that's a small friend list.

ETA: Have to ditto Haven as well you put it more eloquently than me, but that is what I am trying to say. It's the people that clearly just want attention..not those trying to share pics of their lives, family, etc., or just have a little fun.

 

[princesss]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:17:46 PM
Author: luckystar112
I recently (within the last few months) moved from MS to FB and I''m totally hooked.
I like the stupid quizzes, what can I say? Perhaps I''ll get bored with it.
I also don''t mind people''s status updates. There is only one couple that annoys me. It''s this guy I know, and whenever he updates his wife just HAS to comment. It could something as simple as ''I''m going to have some dinner'' and his wife will put ''Sounds good!''
It''s like, do you TALK AT HOME?

Hahaha, lucky, that''s the exact reason BF and I do not communicate via FB.

I will admit my one secret FB pet peeve. I hate when couples have the same pictures of themselves as their profile picture. Wedding pictures and e-pics get a pass from me because those are special occassion pictures, but just random "We''re a disgustingly cute couple!" pictures bug me. But I get ridiculously annoyed and feel caged in if I''m identified primarily as M''s GF, so it''s definitely a little bit of my own issues getting pushed on to other people. But I really don''t get it. If you''re going to have a picture of the two of you, why not have different pictures????

 

[Erin]

I rarley get on it. In fact I read most of what I need to know from what is forwarded to my general email account. I rarely go on the site. Never fails, when I do, 25 people have sent me a plant, blown me a kiss, thrown a water balloon, hidden an Easter egg, and then it demands of you to Throw One Back or whatever... Ignore/Ignore/Ignore and then FB locks up and my experience is over. I have no tolerance for how slow it is.

 

[Lauren8211]

My FB pet peeve is the intentionally cryptic status update that invites people to say "Awww, what''s wrong?" or "Oh no! What happened?!"

If you want people to know, just SAY it!

 

[InLuv101]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:38:57 PM
Author: Starset Princess
I rarley get on it. In fact I read most of what I need to know from what is forwarded to my general email account. I rarely go on the site. Never fails, when I do, 25 people have sent me a plant, blown me a kiss, thrown a water balloon, hidden an Easter egg, and then it demands of you to Throw One Back or whatever... Ignore/Ignore/Ignore and then FB locks up and my experience is over. I have no tolerance for how slow it is.

Bwhahahahaha Starset! I''m with you, I hate those stupid kisses and hugs people send.

 

[Haven]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:34:43 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 6/17/2009 3:17:46 PM

Author: luckystar112
I recently (within the last few months) moved from MS to FB and I''m totally hooked.
I like the stupid quizzes, what can I say? Perhaps I''ll get bored with it.
I also don''t mind people''s status updates. There is only one couple that annoys me. It''s this guy I know, and whenever he updates his wife just HAS to comment. It could something as simple as ''I''m going to have some dinner'' and his wife will put ''Sounds good!''
It''s like, do you TALK AT HOME?

Hahaha, lucky, that''s the exact reason BF and I do not communicate via FB.

I will admit my one secret FB pet peeve. I hate when couples have the same pictures of themselves as their profile picture. Wedding pictures and e-pics get a pass from me because those are special occassion pictures, but just random ''We''re a disgustingly cute couple!'' pictures bug me. But I get ridiculously annoyed and feel caged in if I''m identified primarily as M''s GF, so it''s definitely a little bit of my own issues getting pushed on to other people. But I really don''t get it. If you''re going to have a picture of the two of you, why not have different pictures????

Maybe it''s the only decent picture they have of themselves as a couple?

 

[Mara]

lol Elle i am the same way re: the cryptic messages. like ''XYZ can''t believe it happened again''. and then people go ''oh sorry honey'' or ''what'' and blah blah and i am like just tell the story to begin with.

i actually like taking the GOOD quizzes that are well thought out, but 90% of them are crap and yes Linda, horrible spelling. i took a hilarious one yesterday. the Q''s were things like ''how do u treat boyfriend when around other friends? say i love you?'' and answers were ''of course why not; boyfriend is bad; i cheat on boyfriend, etc. wtf! i didn''t even bother posting the result.

 

[soocool]

I''ve reconnected with a lot of childhood friends through FB and also find it a great way to keep in touch with family. I don''t have any FB friends who brag tremendously, but I do have one friend who spends almost all her time on FB and sometimes annoys me with her surveys, etc. I just ignore these and tell her that I do think of her, but don''t have time to do these surveys, etc. I thought about blocking this friend, but remind myself that she is a cancer survivor and I think she is just trying to reach out constantly to her friends out there on FB.

Just today she posted that she has hit a roadblock but knows she will overcome it. I will give her a day or so and then call her to see if everything is ok. She has been through a lot. Her mom died 3 years ago from breast cancer, she completed her chemo eariler this year for breast cancer, and her father is deteriorating from Parkinson''s. So if she does brag, I understand. I am so happy that she is still here and still a part of my life.

 

[CJ2008]

I hate FB.

I don''t WANT people to "find" me - if I wanted to keep in touch with them, I would have.

I finally gave in to joining about a month ago and sure enough THREE people from like high school have sent me a friend request. I have no interest in them knowing what''s going on in my life, nor do I care what''s going on in theirs. Well, I should say that I wouldn''t mind seeing a few pictures, find out what''s going on with them, but have no energy or interest in INTERACTING with them.

So now I don''t know what to do...if I ignore their request I''ll feel mean but if they start asking me questions and wanting to interact I''m not going to like that.

Mara - how do you keep people from finding you/adding you? What level of privacy do you need to set?

 

[soocool]

My friends have the same photos only because I sent it to them and they have no others! Or at least no other photos where they look as good as they do (eyes wide open and no fingers up the nose!)

 

[princesss]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:45:33 PM
Author: Haven

Date: 6/17/2009 3:34:43 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 6/17/2009 3:17:46 PM

Author: luckystar112
I recently (within the last few months) moved from MS to FB and I''m totally hooked.
I like the stupid quizzes, what can I say? Perhaps I''ll get bored with it.
I also don''t mind people''s status updates. There is only one couple that annoys me. It''s this guy I know, and whenever he updates his wife just HAS to comment. It could something as simple as ''I''m going to have some dinner'' and his wife will put ''Sounds good!''
It''s like, do you TALK AT HOME?

Hahaha, lucky, that''s the exact reason BF and I do not communicate via FB.

I will admit my one secret FB pet peeve. I hate when couples have the same pictures of themselves as their profile picture. Wedding pictures and e-pics get a pass from me because those are special occassion pictures, but just random ''We''re a disgustingly cute couple!'' pictures bug me. But I get ridiculously annoyed and feel caged in if I''m identified primarily as M''s GF, so it''s definitely a little bit of my own issues getting pushed on to other people. But I really don''t get it. If you''re going to have a picture of the two of you, why not have different pictures????

Maybe it''s the only decent picture they have of themselves as a couple?

Ha! A theory! I like it.

 

[Haven]

CJ--You can change your privacy settings by clicking on "Privacy" and then there should be a "Search" option that you can click on to determine who can find you through searches. I''m also unsearchable, and I like it that way.

As for those friend requests, you can just deny them. That''s what I do, and only one person has persisted by sending a message to me. I responded that I''m not comfortable adding people to my friends list if I''m not close with them. Easy as pie.

I love Facebook for monitoring my younger sisters'' behavior in college. When I have kids I''ll definitely be all over the FB for that generation.

 

[meresal]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:16:56 PM
Author: OUpeargirl
Haha ahhh I miss the old days of facebook... Before all of the things you ladies are complaining about were features.

It used to just be a profile, pictures, and wall writes. You could send messages and spread the word about events.

These days there is FAR too much going on for my taste!

OU, remember when you used to be able to see the last time someone logged onto Facebook, and you could even see the day that they joined? Right next to their profile picture. LOL! I seriously miss plain ole'' generic, laugh at your friends pictures, Facebook.

Or at least just the layout before this one... it has wayyyy too much going on. I rarely even get on anymore there is so much crap I don''t want to see.

 

[purselover]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:40:59 PM
Author: elledizzy5
My FB pet peeve is the intentionally cryptic status update that invites people to say ''Awww, what''s wrong?'' or ''Oh no! What happened?!''

If you want people to know, just SAY it!

I have a friend like that! It makes it seem like she is always desperate for attention.

 

[Shoopy]

I haven''t read through everyone''s response but I have to say that no it doesn''t bother me. The people on my facebook are people I care about. I don''t have people on there that I''m not interested in hearing from. So if someone posts something like "DH just surprised me with roses" it makes me feel good.

The status updates I can''t stand are things like "On my way to work" "Just got to work, can''t wait for lunch" "Heading to lunch" "Is it 5 yet?" "On my way home" "Just Got home" "About to have dinner" "Good night everyone"

All from the same person

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 6/17/2009 4:00:05 PM
Author: Haven
CJ--You can change your privacy settings by clicking on ''Privacy'' and then there should be a ''Search'' option that you can click on to determine who can find you through searches. I''m also unsearchable, and I like it that way.

As for those friend requests, you can just deny them. That''s what I do, and only one person has persisted by sending a message to me. I responded that I''m not comfortable adding people to my friends list if I''m not close with them. Easy as pie.

I love Facebook for monitoring my younger sisters'' behavior in college. When I have kids I''ll definitely be all over the FB for that generation.

Thanks, Haven!

I should mention that 90% of the reason I went on there was for "business" reasons/networking, which for obvious reasons then I would need to be able to be found. Part of me thought "who''s going to be looking for me?" Man - these people came out of the woodwork! So I can''t have both...if I''m searchable I need to accept some people will find me...I have to think about the pros/cons - unless I''m missing some way I can have both.

So really, I can deny them and not feel terribly rude, even though we just lost touch, they never did anything bad to me? I would feel SO MUCH better if Haven Queen of Manners says it''s OK!

 

[monarch64]

I love FB! Anyone I''ve friended who has become annoying with their updates I just "hide" that person''s status...I''ve only deleted two people from my friends. Probably my biggest peeve about the updates is when people use song lyrics. There, I said it.

Drives me batty...like, don''t you have any original thoughts in your head? Why do you have to express yourself with song lyrics--can''t you just not say anything at all then? Hee hee.

That site has really allowed me to re-connect with a ton of people since I moved back to IN last year. Things to do here as far as socializing for a single person in my age group are limited to church, bars, or going to WalMart. The nearest meetup.com groups that I would have any interest in (not parent-related, political, etc.) are 1.5 hours away. FB is a good way for me to communicate with friends who are going to be visiting the area, or who live somewhat nearby, it''s great.

 

[Brown.Eyed.Girl]

I love FB as well - I''ve had it since I started college, and I keep in touch with way more people than I would if I didn''t have it (for example, co-workers overseas who I became good friends with).

I don''t get annoyed by status updates, but I DO get annoyed with one particular friend of mine from high school - she apparently is WAY into the FB apps, and every freakin'' day I used to get 1-3 invitations from her to try this app, or take that quiz, or "would you like to be a pirate?" (and NO I do NOT). I was thisclose to unfriending her because of this...fortunately I saw the "Ignore invites from X" button first. But hers was just every day, for inane apps and quizzes. Everything else I don''t care

 

[Mannequin]

Other than my cousin''s wife who sometimes tends to gush and rave about things, I don''t have anyone on my FB list who routinely "brags" through status updates. Honestly, I wouldn''t have these people on my list if I wasn''t interested in what they were doing. Nearly half my FB list is family, including many extended family members that I don''t see often. One coworker does get on my nerves sometimes - all her updates are about her "awesome fiance" who in real life is a d*bag, riding her bike, her three cats, or her wedding plans. I am not a big fan of movie quote or song lyric status updates, either, unless it''s my brother and then he gets a pass.

I''m not bothered with unwanted friend requests because like many of you, I''m almost impossible to find on there because of the privacy settings I use. I''ve used the hide button or ignored apps to the point now where when I log in, I get mostly status, pics, and a few quizzes here or there. I take quizzes sometimes but I don''t post them to my wall unless I particularly liked the results or the quiz. I really try not to share too much random crap and stick to what''s most important in one or two updates per day. Today I am venting over my frustrations with getting my last grad class set up, lol.

 

[Iowa Lizzy]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:40:59 PM
Author: elledizzy5
My FB pet peeve is the intentionally cryptic status update that invites people to say ''Awww, what''s wrong?'' or ''Oh no! What happened?!''


If you want people to know, just SAY it!

Yes! I have a friend that it''s either "K is so crushed and just wants to cry herself to sleep" (and people post questions like "what''s wrong, honey" or "are you okay?" And of course, she never responds. OR it says "K is washing the dogs, filling up the car, applying for jobs and having dinner with my perfect hubby!" Gah. If she wasn''t the girl that does my hair, I would have de-friended her long ago.

Oh, and if it''s not one of the above comments, it''s "K is sick of people who aren''t her true friends. You know who you are and don''t be surprised if you get deleted."

That''s it. I think I''ve just convinced myself to delete her.

 

[luckystar112]

Date: 6/17/2009 5:36:48 PM
Author: Travel Goddess

Oh, and if it''s not one of the above comments, it''s ''K is sick of people who aren''t her true friends. You know who you are and don''t be surprised if you get deleted.''

UGH that is SO annoying! I have a "friend" that does that every once in a while too. She did it more on myspace though...

"To those I haven''t talked to in a while (you know who you are). I''m cleaning up my friends list, so if we haven''t talked in a while you may end up deleted."

It''s like.....puhhhhhhleasssse.

Attention wh*re.

Oh, and you all do know that sometimes notifications get sent on FB whether you want them to or not right? I hate those ones!

 

[dragonfly411]

guilty as charged... I tweet.

 

[Mara]

Date: 6/17/2009 5:36:48 PM
Author: Travel Goddess
Oh, and if it''s not one of the above comments, it''s ''K is sick of people who aren''t her true friends. You know who you are and don''t be surprised if you get deleted.''

_____

Haha I had a FB friend like this too. I kept her as a pal, because I went to HS with her and she is friends with almost everyone from HS and so I could click on her friends profiles and see what so and so is doing without actually having to friend them. A lot of people don''t privacy hide themselves.

But yeah she had like a few hundred friends on there. So whenever she''d post something all drama queen like that I would think DUH of course they aren''t your friends. How do you really have like 300 friends??

 

[LadyBlue]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:17:46 PM
Author: luckystar112
I recently (within the last few months) moved from MS to FB and I''m totally hooked.

I like the stupid quizzes, what can I say? Perhaps I''ll get bored with it.

I also don''t mind people''s status updates. There is only one couple that annoys me. It''s this guy I know, and whenever he updates his wife just HAS to comment. It could something as simple as ''I''m going to have some dinner'' and his wife will put ''Sounds good!''

It''s like, do you TALK AT HOME?

Hahaha!!! I have to confess that sometimes I write in my DH wall "I''m hungry" even tought he is sitting next to me

 

[LadyBlue]

I like FB, I don''t update my status very often, maybe ones a week

or so. But i love to read about others

It''s nice to read how are they doing. Nothing bothers me until now.

By the way, I enjoy doing quizes,, but right now what I enjoyed the most is the Texas Hold''Em Pocker

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Date: 6/17/2009 4:12:31 PM
Author: meresal

Date: 6/17/2009 3:16:56 PM

Author: OUpeargirl

Haha ahhh I miss the old days of facebook... Before all of the things you ladies are complaining about were features.


It used to just be a profile, pictures, and wall writes. You could send messages and spread the word about events.


These days there is FAR too much going on for my taste!

OU, remember when you used to be able to see the last time someone logged onto Facebook, and you could even see the day that they joined? Right next to their profile picture. LOL! I seriously miss plain ole'' generic, laugh at your friends pictures, Facebook.


Or at least just the layout before this one... it has wayyyy too much going on. I rarely even get on anymore there is so much crap I don''t want to see.

Hahah yes! Remember when you could edit wall posts of the person before you? I''ll never forget the day in the dorms when facebook allowed photos other than just a profile picture. We were glued to our computers for HOURS!

 

[Sha]

I love FAcebook and have reconnected with so many long lost college friends because of it. It's really a very useful tool, IMO. And I do enjoy logging on every day to read the status updates etc...

What I don't understand though, is why people feel the need to post every single mundane thing about their lives on Facebook. "XYZ is stuck at the airport",, "XYZ is hungry", "XYZ is going to bed...." Yawn!! Do we really need a play-by-play of your entire life?

I also don't understand it when people post really private info on FB, for all the world to see - especially photos of themselves in lingerie, or snuggling with their boyfriends on a bed, or kissing. Is nothing sacred anymore? To me, that's the equivalent of showing all your family, friends, and acquaintances your most intimate photo album.... If you wouldn't do that in real life, then why do it on the Internet? Especially since the friends of your friends can see your photos once those friends make a comment about them (unless you put on privacy settings). It just boggles my mind!

I'm a very private person and hardly ever post photos and status updates....I just don't see the need for all my family, friends, and acquaintances to know everything that's happening in my life at a given moment. Seems like there's no privacy anymore these days. Everything is out in the open.

I also hate it when people I don't/barely know send me friend requests!! I've never spoken to you before!! Why do you want to be my friend???

The quizzes are fun and usually on point....but the spelling is horrendous.

 

[Lilac]

I don''t really have a problem with people updating their status with nice things going on in their lives - I think it can get annoying if they do it every single day though, and I had one friend who updated her status twice a day when she was engaged - she started around 150 days before her wedding and every single morning and night she updated her status - "150 days until my wedding!!!!!!" then later.. "less than 150 days till my wedding!!!!!". Next day "149 days till my wedding!!!!!!" and "less than 149 days till my wedding!!!!!!" all the way up until she finally got married. Then she started with the post-wedding statuses like "been married for a day!!!" "been married for 2 and a half days!!!!!" etc etc.

That was annoying.

I like looking at peoples'' pictures though. And I agree with Elle - I hate hate hate the cryptic status updates - either say it or dont!