Facebook Vent: does it annoy anyone else?

[janinegirly]

Like many people, I check facebook daily and I do love that it allows me to keep in touch with old friends, and sneak a peek at their pictures and whatever they are up to in their daily lives. In the beginning I was all over it..daily updates, photos and generally interactive. Now I''m more of an observer. I have a nice circle, but probably less than 20 friends.

Lately however, I notice a trend of people using FB to brag, or come up with creative ways to sound like their lives are fantastic! It gets nauseating sometimes. I like the creative, sarcastic updates..or true sharing of milestones, but get so annoyed with ones that are clearly intended to show off ("look at me and my great life/relationship/boyfriend/"). You know updates like "just had fantastic dinner with my amazing boyfriend". Or "hubby just surprised me with the most romantic dinner and roses!!".

It might be that I''m jealous, but I don''t think so because I have things I could also promote, but don''t really want to, it just sounds so silly!!

Oh and then there are the people who update every ridiculous thing they are doing..i.e. "waiting in gas line", "just got groceries", "just woke up and eating breakfast". It''s kind of weird, but certaily indicative of our detached society! The most amusing exchange I saw yet was b/ween a husband and wife in which he told her he''d "be late, love u"...and she replied "ok c u you whenever". I mean that was so weird to me...why not just call each other instead of having that read by 100''s of random peeps?

ok vent done. feel better.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Oh yes. My patience for facebook bragging and facebook drama ran out a long time ago. Nice tool to use to talk to people, some fun games, but other than that it''s a horrible invention.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Honestly it doesn''t bother me. And yea, I do want the world to know I have an amazing fiance who does nice things for me. There''s nothing wrong with that. You can elect to ignore people so you don''t see their updates.

 

[LilyKat]

Yes, entirely agree. The "hide" button is a wonderful thing

 

[Mara]

i'm in the camp with HH...i am super selective about keeping it strict to good friends and family, so i don't have '1000 random peeps' who can see everything also. but yeah i put status updates like 'out for a fabulous dinner with my better half' and upload mobile photos of greg drinking wine and stupid crap like that.

i just tend to look at what i want, post what i want, and ignore what i don't like.

i did have one friend who would FB status update through his twitter literally like every 5minutes and things like 'starbucks girl i love you'...so i deleted him and was like sorry dude i can't take it hahaha. FB is what YOU make it, so turn on some privacy levels and remove some friends to be happier maybe.

i do have to say i hate all the lame quizzes that FB allows. i would love to take quizzes but 90% of them are written in a ridiculous manner. i think they should do more policing or QA'ing of that stuff or let people rate the quizzes so you know what to steer clear of. my friend took a 'how girly are you' quiz and cuz she didn't have more than 4 pairs of heels in her closet and didn't love ballet she got 0%!

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 6/17/2009 2:25:53 PM
Author: LilyKat
Yes, entirely agree. The ''hide'' button is a wonderful thing

Ditto that.

 

[Linda W]

Me too. I agree with HH and Mara

I really like FB. I have a ball on it with my friends and my high school friends.

 

[meresal]

Umm, have to say I actually love seeing that my friends are happy in their relationships!! And "bragging" about great things that happen in their lives. I believe it's human nature to want to share happiness and emotion in general. That's why we smile and frown on the outside of our body. Would you rather see a friend post... "Husband just got home after not answering his phone for 6 hours" and know that she is hurting? or just no updates at all?

The second part of your post is exactly why I am not a member of Twitter.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Only a few of the people I know on FB brag to the point of annoying. Probably because I'm very selective of who I have on my "friends" list. Overall I think FB is kind of silly because having 100s of "friends" is an attempt for people to boost their confidence. Cyber friends don't mean much. Twice within the last month, I've been invited to parties by people with 100s of friends and yet, hardly anyone showed up at either event! It's kind of sad.

I keep getting friend requests from people in HS. My update should be MC "keeps getting annoying friend requests from people who were a**holes in HS!" I should invite them all because that'll show 'em all how cool I am and how much I am loved because even the jerks want to be *my* friend now because I rock

(Oh, and I just deleted a few people from my list. Both I posted on their walls and it'll be obvious that I nixed their friend status!)

 

[princesss]

I''m with HH on this. I''m certainly not bragging about my life by saying I''ve got a wonderful boyfriend, but sometimes I get overwhelmed by something he does and it''s a way to "publicly" recognize what he did for me. Plus it''s a way to keep in touch with friends, so they can see that and not wonder why I didn''t pick up a call/what I''m up to/etc. But the status update is for what you''re up to, and if what I''m up to is "Out on date night with my fantastic boyfriend" I think that''s just as valid as "I managed to chip a tooth. HOW DID I CHIP A TOOTH?" or "On my way to Holland, see you in a week!"

 

[janinegirly]

actually it''s not something that affects my happiness or annoys me to the degree that I want to remove or ignore people, I just don''t understand the need for people to post very personal self promoting updates. I of course get it that it''s fun to share special occassions, milestones, happy moments with your close friends. But it seems to be going further where people are really exaggerating for the purpose of wanting/needing to create some kind of envy or self-serving portrayal that is often pretty transparent.

not trying to offend, just an opinion and like to hear others'' views since FB is growing rapidly into a world of it''s own.

 

[meresal]

Date: 6/17/2009 2:16:52 PM
Author:janinegirly

Oh and then there are the people who update every ridiculous thing they are doing..i.e. 'waiting in gas line', 'just got groceries', 'just woke up and eating breakfast'. It's kind of weird, but certaily indicative of our detached society! The most amusing exchange I saw yet was b/ween a husband and wife in which he told her he'd 'be late, love u'...and she replied 'ok c u you whenever'. I mean that was so weird to me...why not just call each other instead of having that read by 100's of random peeps?

ok vent done. feel better.

This is whole other vent for a whole other topic, but I will blame Ipod for the detached society before I blame Facebook or any other networking tool. At least you are still communicating, IMO.

ETA: janine... to your above post... I guess I just have never looked at them that way. The need to self-serve. Maybe back in college when Facebook first started, but I guess it's just the way that I know my friends, and don't see them as the sort of person to flag their good fortune in others faces.

 

[Lauren8211]

janinegirly, i know exactly what you''re talking about.

i had a friend admit to me the she added stuff to her facebook to make herself seem more interesting and to make people envy her.

she added things like "wine tasting" or "ballroom dancing" when in reality she had never done either of those things. she would post about her "awesome boyfriend" when in reality, he lived with his real girlfriend, and she was basically a mistress that he emotionally abused. she was of the "as long as i look good on paper" camp.

we are no longer friends now, because she kept assuming that certain status updates were about her, when they weren''t. it was actually the catalyst for the end of the relationship believe it or not. after 20 years of friendship, it actually ended over facebook. can you believe that?

for the most part, facebook is a fun and easy way to keep in touch. i rarely get annoyed except for the few people who have updates that are always about how miserable their life is. those get old really quickly.

 

[LtlFirecracker]

I guess I can gloss over it, but some people over use it way too much.

I get most annoyed when people put up their views about a controversial issue that I don''t agree with. I so want to say something back, but I know it is useless. I try avoiding putting those issues up on my own profile. But I not join Facebook to get charged up about these issues.

 

[Mara]

oh and MC about the HS peeps contacting you, that is why i turned on every privacy level that exists to make it virtually impossible to find or add me. if i am really interested in adding someone, i tend to find them and i don''t need to feel like crap for denying any friend req''s since i just never get them.

 

[TravelingGal]

I''m fine with denying or ignoring people. If I don''t know who they are, I''ll deny them without a reason. If I do, I''ll explain why I am denying them. I have a small group of friends I keep in touch with, and I make a lot of comments on their posts, so I''d prefer to keep it within a certain circle.

And since I keep it to a close group, I am perfectly happy to know my good friends are happy.

 

[Elmorton]

Janine hon, steer clear from twitter, k?

It''s soooo worse there.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 6/17/2009 2:48:44 PM
Author: Mara
oh and MC about the HS peeps contacting you, that is why i turned on every privacy level that exists to make it virtually impossible to find or add me. if i am really interested in adding someone, i tend to find them and i don''t need to feel like crap for denying any friend req''s since i just never get them.

If someone looks me up, all they''ll see is my picture and then they''ll have to click to request my friendship. Nothing else is shown. No family photos. No public decloration that I''m a liberal. No admitance that I spend all day on PS.

I do deny all requests from people I do not like. . .also, a few times I''ve regretted accepting them and later deleted him/her.

What is Twitter?

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 6/17/2009 2:29:01 PM
Author: Mara
i''m in the camp with HH...i am super selective about keeping it strict to good friends and family, so i don''t have ''1000 random peeps'' who can see everything also. but yeah i put status updates like ''out for a fabulous dinner with my better half'' and upload mobile photos of greg drinking wine and stupid crap like that.

i just tend to look at what i want, post what i want, and ignore what i don''t like.


i did have one friend who would FB status update through his twitter literally like every 5minutes and things like ''starbucks girl i love you''...so i deleted him and was like sorry dude i can''t take it hahaha. FB is what YOU make it, so turn on some privacy levels and remove some friends to be happier maybe.


i do have to say i hate all the lame quizzes that FB allows. i would love to take quizzes but 90% of them are written in a ridiculous manner. i think they should do more policing or QA''ing of that stuff or let people rate the quizzes so you know what to steer clear of. my friend took a ''how girly are you'' quiz and cuz she didn''t have more than 4 pairs of heels in her closet and didn''t love ballet she got 0%!

BIG DITTO!!!
I really don''t care which Golden Girl you are and I wish these didn''t show up on my status updates. They''re NOT STATUS UPDATES!!!

 

[VegasAngel]

Date: 6/17/2009 2:16:52 PM
Author:janinegirly
Like many people, I check facebook daily and I do love that it allows me to keep in touch with old friends, and sneak a peek at their pictures and whatever they are up to in their daily lives. In the beginning I was all over it..daily updates, photos and generally interactive. Now I'm more of an observer. I have a nice circle, but probably less than 20 friends.

Lately however, I notice a trend of people using FB to brag, or come up with creative ways to sound like their lives are fantastic! It gets nauseating sometimes. I like the creative, sarcastic updates..or true sharing of milestones, but get so annoyed with ones that are clearly intended to show off ('look at me and my great life/relationship/boyfriend/'). You know updates like 'just had fantastic dinner with my amazing boyfriend'. Or 'hubby just surprised me with the most romantic dinner and roses!!'.

It might be that I'm jealous, but I don't think so because I have things I could also promote, but don't really want to, it just sounds so silly!!

Oh and then there are the people who update every ridiculous thing they are doing..i.e. 'waiting in gas line', 'just got groceries', 'just woke up and eating breakfast'. It's kind of weird, but certaily indicative of our detached society! The most amusing exchange I saw yet was b/ween a husband and wife in which he told her he'd 'be late, love u'...and she replied 'ok c u you whenever'. I mean that was so weird to me...why not just call each other instead of having that read by 100's of random peeps?

ok vent done. feel better.

I havent had my FB account for too long but I do notice quite a bit of nonsense updates. Isn't that what Twitter is for?

Oh yeah quizzes & all those applications are not my thing either.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:01:03 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk

Date: 6/17/2009 2:29:01 PM
Author: Mara
i''m in the camp with HH...i am super selective about keeping it strict to good friends and family, so i don''t have ''1000 random peeps'' who can see everything also. but yeah i put status updates like ''out for a fabulous dinner with my better half'' and upload mobile photos of greg drinking wine and stupid crap like that.

i just tend to look at what i want, post what i want, and ignore what i don''t like.


i did have one friend who would FB status update through his twitter literally like every 5minutes and things like ''starbucks girl i love you''...so i deleted him and was like sorry dude i can''t take it hahaha. FB is what YOU make it, so turn on some privacy levels and remove some friends to be happier maybe.


i do have to say i hate all the lame quizzes that FB allows. i would love to take quizzes but 90% of them are written in a ridiculous manner. i think they should do more policing or QA''ing of that stuff or let people rate the quizzes so you know what to steer clear of. my friend took a ''how girly are you'' quiz and cuz she didn''t have more than 4 pairs of heels in her closet and didn''t love ballet she got 0%!

BIG DITTO!!!
I really don''t care which Golden Girl you are and I wish these didn''t show up on my status updates. They''re NOT STATUS UPDATES!!!

HH, I''m crushed!

 

[Elmorton]

MC - Twitter is FB without profile pages, so it''s JUST the status update. You can update your status from your cell phone or on the internet. My DH got me started on it b/c he was following a ton of news stuff (a lot of journalists/news organizations "tweet" headlines), but my students are really into it because they "follow" (subscribe to the updates) of celebrities. Even the White House tweets (but I stopped following because there was so much, so often).

 

[princessplease]

I really like FB for contacting old friends, but I try not to divulge the "just got out of the shower" status updates. Those kind of updates are annoying, which is why I stay clear of twitter. I don''t need to know that you''re sipping on a venti latte from Starbucks or you knowing that my favorite pen at work ran out.
I have used FB quite a few times for event invites, finding elementary school friends, and staying in contact with people who live far away. It really is useful for that kind of use.

 

[Linda W]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:03:21 PM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 6/17/2009 3:01:03 PM

Author: Hudson_Hawk

Date: 6/17/2009 2:29:01 PM

Author: Mara

i''m in the camp with HH...i am super selective about keeping it strict to good friends and family, so i don''t have ''1000 random peeps'' who can see everything also. but yeah i put status updates like ''out for a fabulous dinner with my better half'' and upload mobile photos of greg drinking wine and stupid crap like that.

i just tend to look at what i want, post what i want, and ignore what i don''t like.



i did have one friend who would FB status update through his twitter literally like every 5minutes and things like ''starbucks girl i love you''...so i deleted him and was like sorry dude i can''t take it hahaha. FB is what YOU make it, so turn on some privacy levels and remove some friends to be happier maybe.



i do have to say i hate all the lame quizzes that FB allows. i would love to take quizzes but 90% of them are written in a ridiculous manner. i think they should do more policing or QA''ing of that stuff or let people rate the quizzes so you know what to steer clear of. my friend took a ''how girly are you'' quiz and cuz she didn''t have more than 4 pairs of heels in her closet and didn''t love ballet she got 0%!

BIG DITTO!!!

I really don''t care which Golden Girl you are and I wish these didn''t show up on my status updates. They''re NOT STATUS UPDATES!!!

HH, I''m crushed!

Ha ha ha ha. Me too. Some of the quizzes are fun. Some of the quizzes however are silly. Some of the quizzes, whoever makes them up, can''t spell worth beans.

 

[BeachRunner]

I''m amused by people''s status updated, but I do think some people may embellish things to make their life more exciting. Crazy how some people NEVER have a bad day!? I always chuckle when people update their status every .2 seconds about where, why, how, they do something.

I second the annoyance of the quizzes.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:01:03 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk


BIG DITTO!!!
I really don't care which Golden Girl you are and I wish these didn't show up on my status updates. They're NOT STATUS UPDATES!!!

You can delete your quiz results from your wall so nobody will remember what it has said the next day. It's not like I want everyone to know that I'm most like Sawyer from Lost because I would hoard the beer and guns!

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Haha ahhh I miss the old days of facebook... Before all of the things you ladies are complaining about were features.

It used to just be a profile, pictures, and wall writes. You could send messages and spread the word about events.

These days there is FAR too much going on for my taste!

 

[luckystar112]

I recently (within the last few months) moved from MS to FB and I''m totally hooked.
I like the stupid quizzes, what can I say? Perhaps I''ll get bored with it.
I also don''t mind people''s status updates. There is only one couple that annoys me. It''s this guy I know, and whenever he updates his wife just HAS to comment. It could something as simple as "I''m going to have some dinner" and his wife will put "Sounds good!"
It''s like, do you TALK AT HOME?

 

[Kelli]

HA! I just got facebook yesterday. I can see where it could get crazy, but I''m the one allowing myself to be friends with all these people. I don''t think I''ll get too annoyed by it.

 

[Linda W]

Date: 6/17/2009 3:17:46 PM
Author: luckystar112
I recently (within the last few months) moved from MS to FB and I''m totally hooked.

I like the stupid quizzes, what can I say? Perhaps I''ll get bored with it.

I also don''t mind people''s status updates. There is only one couple that annoys me. It''s this guy I know, and whenever he updates his wife just HAS to comment. It could something as simple as ''I''m going to have some dinner'' and his wife will put ''Sounds good!''

It''s like, do you TALK AT HOME?

Ha ha ha ha. Yes, really. That is too funny.