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Extremely attractive guy at my school

Butterfly_96

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There's a guy at my school who is insanely attractive, and I can't stop thinking about him.
He has all the male attributes anyone could think of - very tall, very muscular, really confident, beautiful eyes, sexy lips, natural leader type, always the center of attention - you name it.
Everytime I see him my belly starts to tingle, and I have to make a strong effort to not stare at him too much.
I can quite safely say that he is the most attractive guy I have ever seen, no exceptions.
The problem is, of course, that lots of other girls think the same thing, and I constantly see someone flirting with him.
So how should I do to catch his interest and make him think that I am special?
I have checked him out countless times and he has caught me doing it very often, and whenever he does I just look down on the floor and blush with a smile - so I'm sure he knows that I am interested in him.

I am a bit worried that he will dump me very quickly since he will definitely be approached by other attractive girls if I "get my hands on him", and it scares me.
I'm also a bit worried that he might be too tall for me, since he is something like 6'9 and I'm only 4'11 (and his arms are bigger than my thighs, seriously). -_-
So it would feel kind of intimidating with such an overpowering giant by my side, although he would of course be a fantastic protector.
But as far as I can tell he is very sweet and kind to everyone, and nobody has said anything bad about him.

Help, please? <3
 
Before I give you my take on things, I have to know roughly how old you are please.
 
JaneSmith|1359316716|3364943 said:
Before I give you my take on things, I have to know roughly how old you are please.
I'm 16, but I will be 17 in a few months.
 
LOL whaaaa? This is so many levels of ridiculous. Troll alert!
 
Butterfly_96|1359316904|3364944 said:
JaneSmith|1359316716|3364943 said:
Before I give you my take on things, I have to know roughly how old you are please.
I'm 16, but I will be 17 in a few months.
OK. How did you come to be on a diamond information website?
 
I suspect someone is taking a creative writing class... :wink2:
 
Butterfly_96|1359316904|3364944 said:
JaneSmith|1359316716|3364943 said:
Before I give you my take on things, I have to know roughly how old you are please.
I'm 16, but I will be 17 in a few months.

I'm 72 but I was 71 just a few months ago.
 
While the above questions are all valid; lets make an assumption that butterfly might be very shy and is really asking this question.

The answer: Screw your courage up and tell him you are interested in him and would like to get together. Now I am one of the few guys on this site - trust me, you will rise above many others who have not been so bold. Then it depends on what other options he has; and even if he is currently otherwise occupied he may come back to you later and give you your chance with him.

Perry
 
Hahaha oh this is fun
 
perry|1359323380|3365009 said:
While the above questions are all valid; lets make an assumption that butterfly might be very shy and is really asking this question.

The answer: Screw your courage up and tell him you are interested in him and would like to get together. Now I am one of the few guys on this site - trust me, you will rise above many others who have not been so bold. Then it depends on what other options he has; and even if he is currently otherwise occupied he may come back to you later and give you your chance with him.

Perry
Have you seen how "bold" HS girls are these days? Oh, my!
 
I can't even begin to answer this with a straight face! Things that come to mind: "Don't bother, he's gay," or "Throw your arms around him and ask him to marry you," or "Wait; you're obviously too young if the tingle is in your stomach..."

Sorry, but troll taking creative writing sounds about right!
 
JaneSmith|1359318180|3364957 said:
Butterfly_96|1359316904|3364944 said:
JaneSmith|1359316716|3364943 said:
Before I give you my take on things, I have to know roughly how old you are please.
I'm 16, but I will be 17 in a few months.
OK. How did you come to be on a diamond information website?

Maybe Butterfly was already picking out the engagement ring she wants him to give her... :rolleyes:
 
oh c'mon ladies...i know for some of you it's been long time ago but think back to the time when you were 17... :naughty:
 
HI:

Fair enough--she saw the thread on "notes to 16 year old self" and posted.

To the OP--read the thread. :devil: ;))

cheers--Sharon
 
Butterfly, why do you need a protector? Ever think about learning a martial art? Why are you so obsessed with a "natural leader" type? More Hunger Games, less Twilight, please. Keep trying, this is entertaining!
 
...interesting...

If this is serious - at 16/17, just let the relationship evolve. You are only 16 (or 17). School is the important focus and if he knows you like him, he knows. You can't force any relationship - no matter WHAT the age.

If its a creative writing exercise... :roll:
 
Boys are evil.
They just want to 'have you', then move on to their next trophy.

Forget about him.
Get straight As and get into the best Uni you can.
Get straight As and get a good job.
All this makes you a better catch so you can land a better catch.

Plenty of time later for romance.
 
No need to chase after him. He knows who you are. If he's interested, he'll come calling.
 
Troll,

Forget the high school boys. Study hard, get good grades so that you can get into a top school and work on getting your "MRS" with some rich fella - classmate's ok, but better yet, go for the alum that's 4x your age with a bad ticker. Don't sign that pre-nup. Give him an heir and a spare. And remember to have that poolboy on your payroll, even if you don't have a pool...

:lol: :roll: :twisted:

And don't forget to pour through "Show me the bling!" and create a pinterest of your inspiration rings.
 
PintoBean|1359334189|3365104 said:
Troll,

Forget the high school boys. Study hard, get good grades so that you can get into a top school and work on getting your "MRS" with some rich fella - classmate's ok, but better yet, go for the alum that's 4x your age with a bad ticker. Don't sign that pre-nup. Give him an heir and a spare. And remember to have that poolboy on your payroll, even if you don't have a pool...

:lol: :roll: :twisted:

And don't forget to pour through "Show me the bling!" and create a pinterest of your inspiration rings.
:lol:

Good one, PB!!!
 
Enerchi|1359335333|3365114 said:
Good one, PB!!!

I :love: getting the Enerchi seal of approval! :wavey: :appl:
 
PintoBean|1359335867|3365123 said:
Enerchi|1359335333|3365114 said:
Good one, PB!!!

I :love: getting the Enerchi seal of approval! :wavey: :appl:
:lol: :lol: :lol: That's funny!!! you have my seal of approval! Sealed with a kiss even! :kiss:
 
Dancing Fire|1359329408|3365063 said:
oh c'mon ladies...i know for some of you it's been long time ago but think back to the time when you were 17... :naughty:

I remember feeling 'all revved up with no place to go'.
I wish someone kind had told me about importance of connections, and the competitiveness of the meritocracy.

At 17, sex is the LAST PLACE you need to be. The world is complex. Sexuality at such a young age is distracting and limiting at best and completely earth-shatteringly destructive at worst.

Don't worry. You're not asexual or boring if you don't become 'romantically' involved. Basically you're just keeping yourself fresh, treading water, saving your energy, for the big events in life still to come. Love gone wrong (or even 'love gone right' ) is hella exhausting, emotionally, spiritually, a lot of the time, especially when you are young. So why not hold your fire?

If you wish to be a high achiever, delay sexual connection for as long as you can. Cultivate your SELF. Then, when you do become sexually connected to some-one, you are less likely to choose the sexy guy who turns out to be a user or loser and also more likely to hold yourself together personality and career wise throughout the whole shebang.
 
PintoBean|1359334189|3365104 said:
Troll,

Forget the high school boys. Study hard, get good grades so that you can get into a top school and work on getting your "MRS" with some rich fella - classmate's ok, but better yet, go for the alum that's 4x your age with a bad ticker. Don't sign that pre-nup. Give him an heir and a spare. And remember to have that poolboy on your payroll, even if you don't have a pool...

:lol: :roll: :twisted:

And don't forget to pour through "Show me the bling!" and create a pinterest of your inspiration rings.

I just laughed so hard my stomach hurts! "With a bad ticker" :lol: :lol:

PB: you are a crack up!
 
canuk-gal|1359330632|3365071 said:
HI:

Fair enough--she saw the thread on "notes to 16 year old self" and posted.

To the OP--read the thread. :devil: ;))

cheers--Sharon

D'you think Butterfly is taking the p*** out of me? :wacko:
I remember writing something about my husband's ridiculously thick and hairy rugby players legs (revolting - and strangely compelling)
But I was in my twenties when all that went down... so does that make it different?
Not that much, as I recall.

So now we've all read you the riot act, let's calm down a bit and *get real*

I could start by discussing the story of a friend of mine... she has two daughters, both now aged seventeen - identical twins! Identical twins form the basis of all sorts of scientific experiments right?

Both gorgeous, both sporty - well they are identical!
One got a boyfriend at 15, this guy is the classic Goober. A labourer, about four years older than herself, no prospects, no manners and no clue.

The other one had all sorts of sexual anxieties, but ended up being really picky and didn't go with anyone.
They've just graduated.

The single one was officially named the Dux of the School.
The one with the boyfriend officially flunked, and can't get into Uni. She'll be staying in her home town with her very own dead head.
Oh, and they're moving in together.

When he heard she didn't get a uni offer, he laughed in her face in front of the whole family.
But she wuvs him. *spew*

Anyway, if you still like the guy and he seems like a decent guy with prospects or at least some idea of himself, hang tight.
Be his friend. Be his bestie! And he might not be as flirty or problematic as you think.
I thought all those anxious thoughts about my husband. But he was very lonely. He flirted a little with me, because he was trying to achieve something for himself!

However, he was also very picky, and if we'd got intimate too quickly, there's a good chance I could have been having a nervous breakdown, blowing my studies and demanding marriage by our first student 'christmas'. So it's not a black and white situation. But remember, life is a very ....very....long...game. So pace yourself. Try to keep your head. But don't forget to have fun! :D
 
kenny|1359331874|3365081 said:
Boys are evil.They just want to 'have you', then move on to their next trophy.

Forget about him.
Get straight As and get into the best Uni you can.
Get straight As and get a good job.
All this makes you a better catch so you can land a better catch.

Plenty of time later for romance.

Boys are evil. They are soooo evil that your own chance at salvation is becoming a nun. You're only chance at salvation is having him present you with a H&A D IF 2 ct diamond eng ring on your first date and if that doesn't happen, start squishing grapes and making vino
 
Butterfly_96|1359316904|3364944 said:
JaneSmith|1359316716|3364943 said:
Before I give you my take on things, I have to know roughly how old you are please.
I'm 16, but I will be 17 in a few months.

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Are you kidding me with this?!?!? I'm sorry, but finish going through puberty!!! My goodness! Finish HS and GO TO COLLEGE. Earn your self a degree and get a half decent paying job and FIND YOURSELF and THEN GO MAN HUNTING!!!! Or better yet! WAIT FOR HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm sorry. This infuriates me. Too many little girls so distracted by the crap they think they need that they flush school down the toilet willing to through everything important out the window for a "sexy guy" My goodness. I got sick hearing the way you described the poor kid then saw your age and wanted to puke. This world is definitely headed down the crapper. What happened to self respect and letting the guy come to you at an appropriate age? Do you're parents know that you're coming on forums asking about a guy with sexy lips????? :nono: :nono: :nono: :nono: :nono:
 
MC|1359358285|3365310 said:
kenny|1359331874|3365081 said:
Boys are evil.They just want to 'have you', then move on to their next trophy.

Forget about him.
Get straight As and get into the best Uni you can.
Get straight As and get a good job.
All this makes you a better catch so you can land a better catch.

Plenty of time later for romance.

Boys are evil. They are soooo evil that your own chance at salvation is becoming a nun. You're only chance at salvation is having him present you with a H&A D IF 2 ct diamond eng ring on your first date and if that doesn't happen, start squishing grapes and making vino

LOL MC
* deep inside, that's actually how I really think. Not that I believe in evil, but I do believe in thermodynamics of self interest =
'things fall down...unless it's the 'big bang'
 
The way this thread has gone actually just cracks me up.

How many of you had a crush when you were a teenager. How many did light dating (going to the movies, etc without having sex). Of course I am sure that some of you were in fact sexually active at such an age; and you survived well.


Just because she is interested in him; and just because he might be interested in her does not mean that the first thing in their head is to have sex. Of course they might end up having sex for various reasons (some good, some less so, some outright bad). But, to say she (or anyone) should never even express interest.... You do not sound real at all.

If Butterfly is actually a real person - and if she were to approach me personally with such a question I'd have a discussion with her on her motivations, goals in life, what kind of person "he" seems to be, etc. As far as the sexual issue: I would want her to demonstrate to me that she understands her monthly cycle and how that relates to pregnancy, a knowledge of various methods of birth control (and the pro's and cons of each method), various STDs and prevention/treatment methods; and the various reasons people have sex with possible outcomes. I would also share my personal beliefs and the basis for those beliefs; but after that, she is free to decide when and with whom as it is her life and I expect her to take responsibility for it (and children only learn to be responsible if given the chance to take responsibility - and a key way of learning is to make mistakes). For those who wonder - I have actually done the above with a friends daughter who trusted me. We also did a similar "show me you know about": smoking and drugs; after which I told her she now had the responsibility for her life in those areas. We had some discussions later about how some things worked out (or did not work out); but that is part of growing up.

Perry
 
Boys are evil, yes. That's what my daddy told me when I was 16. Of course I believed every word he said! :shock: Good luck, troll -- and take another creative writing class.
 
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