Thanks Mara, for your comments,Date: 6/12/2005 8:32:22 PM
Author: Mara
Byron, re the larger stone...
Try to find out what she wants if you can, esp on size. Because if you are thinking a 1c would look fab on her and she would want something like a 1.5c...she may not be too jazzed when she finds out you spent $20k on a hunch!! Oh but honey, it''s super white and ''almost flawless''. Many gals would rather have something that looks ''just as good'' and is bigger...but there are some smaller stone lovers too. Some girls are super interested in the specs of the stone (like many of the gals here!) and are interested in the nuances of diamonds, and some just want it to be big and sparkly. Others just want whatever their fiance-to-be gives them. What type of gal is yours? Personality wise.
Whatever you get, be happy with it--but try to feel out what her thoughts are!
One idea..though maybe this is too transparent..talk about a friend at work getting engaged and/or shopping for a ring. Say something like ''oh he wants to get his gf a 1.5c but I told him that was too big!''. See if she says ''WHAT? That''s not too big!'' or if she says ''Yeah I agree''. Then you have more info.
Just a thought.
Maybe I''m just a naive, or old fashioned or {insert adjective of your choice here} man, but I have this concept of an engagement where the "asker", either the man OR woman, (or the man, or OTHER man, or the woman or OTHER woman..do I really need to do this?), presents to the partner, a token of love and commitment. A token that was thoughtfully chosen by him to represent how HE feels about her and the impending nuptials.
Is this so bad? I know my girl will be totally happy with whatever I choose, because the feeling and the passion behind the choice, is born of the essence of who I am; and it is this essence, this combination of spirit and being that she fell in love with!
I personally feel that choosing a ring together, would be like buying a car together. It''s about getting as many options as you can, for the amount of money you have. It feels like it''s only about money then.
Bear in mind, that this is how *I* feel... your mileage may vary.
Bryon