Engagement Party Etiquette

[y2kitty]

I am going to an engagement party later today. Is it rude to wear my right hand ring, which might be larger then he bride to be''s engagement ring?

 

[April20]

Do you wear it all the time? If it''s an every day ring that you always wear, then I say no, it''s not rude. Someone is always going to have a larger ring than someone else.

If you rarely wear it and are wearing it so people notice it, then I''d say yes, it''s rude to wear it.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 11/22/2009 1:26:24 PM
Author: April20
Do you wear it all the time? If it''s an every day ring that you always wear, then I say no, it''s not rude. Someone is always going to have a larger ring than someone else.

If you rarely wear it and are wearing it so people notice it, then I''d say yes, it''s rude to wear it.

2nd. That sounds like a good idea. The deal though is you can''t spend your life hiding all your jewelry from everyone, but having an eng. party seems like an exception to the general rule. I''ve spent YEARS hiding my diamonds b/c I worried people would be jealous, however finally said screw it and began wearing everything. (FWIW, last eng. party I went to, the bride ended having a diamond 2X the size of mine

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[yssie]

Ditto the "if you''re wearing it to show it off, don''t", but unless you''re planning to wave it in front of everyone or she''s terribly insecure, I don''t see the problem.

Honestly, it''s her engagement party, it''s all about her and her new FI and people are going to be wanting to see her ring, and won''t care the least bit about what you''re wearing on your right hand.

 

[Callisto]

Yeah I think as long as you don''t flaunt it, its fine.

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

It isn''t rude, if it''s what you wear, as others have said. However, it might not make you feel good - I went to a friend''s engagement party wearing my sapphire and diamond 3 stone rhr. It was the only rhr I had at the time and I wore it every day. It''s nice, but not exceptional. I never gave it a second thought, until she grabbed my hand in the washroom and exclaimed over it - she said wow, that''s what my ring should look like. Her fiance had got her a maul store sapphire with 3 tiny diamonds on either side.

I was sad for her, and to be honest, if I''d known beforehand she had a sapphire ring, I wouldn''t have worn mine. BTW, her fiance is wealthy, he just didn''t want to spend much money on a ring and she was unhappy about it. I felt terrible, because I would never have wanted her to feel like that at her party.

I don''t think it was rude, as such, but it was surely unfortunate and as I say, if I''d known, I would have left it at home.

 

[LGK]

I'll probably leave my rings at home if I go to an engagement part or bridal shower or such, if I don't know the bride real well, and just wear the plain silver band I have. I wore mine to a cousin's bachelorette party (and I didn't know her real well) and yeah, my ring was bigger, and though the rest of the people were polite and ignored my jewelry and exclaimed over her new ring, she asked to see mine and was unfavorably comparing her new e-ring to mine. I felt really bad, and would have left it off if I'd had a way to (travelling, and not gonna leave a diamond in a hotel room!)

While you aren't *obligated* to leave your jewelry at home, of course, it is just really uncomfortable and awkward if the bride is the one who is bummed when she sees someone at her party with a bigger diamond or whatever. With a new e-ring, girls are often in the "finger scoping" mode, and will probably be looking at everyone's jewelry- my cousin spotted my ring in about 10 minutes in a dark crowded room. I'd happily leave jewelry at home to avoid that in the future!

So, rude? No, definitely not. But can be an awkward situation pretty easily.

 

[Haven]

I would wear whatever jewelry I normally wear to parties.

I don''t understand the concept that you should tone down your jewelry for others if you''re going to an engagement party or other social gathering. I understand it when you''re volunteering and working with impoverished individuals, for example, but not for a social gathering.

It certainly isn''t rude to wear your RHR to a party. The only rude thing would be for someone else to harbor ill feelings toward you for doing so.

Have fun at the party!

 

[Kelli]

Huh. I wouldn''t have even thought about that. I say wear whatever you usually put on for parties and then don''t give it another thought.

 

[junebug17]

Honestly, I don''t think it would have crossed my mind either. I would wear whatever jewelry you normally wear, no sense in purchasing special pieces of jewelry and then leaving them at home! I wouldn''t worry about it at all.

 

[y2kitty]

Ah, my question was irrelevant anyway. My boyfriend and I went to the location, and we were 24 hours late. Whoops!