Wedding emotional roller coaster.

[JAMSRING]

Well, one of my closest friends just told me she can’t be in my wedding party anymore. She and her husband have been trying to conceive for a few years now and she just found out she is pregnant! However, she is due two weeks after my wedding. The Dr thinks the odds are good she will be high-risk and she does not want her traveling more than an hour from the hospital that close to the due date. I am SOOOOOOOOO happy for them yet sad she won’t be at/in my wedding. One of my other bridesmaids will have a 3 month old at the time of my wedding and I totally see her leaving early and not having her heart into it either. Again, I am very thrilled for them, but I am also being immature and feeling sorry for myself. I feel like I am always there for these friends and jumped through all kinds of hoops for their weddings and now it’s my turn and they still find a way to trump me (I certainly know it was not intentional on their part). It’s like I can never catch up if that makes sense. I figured you all might have a better shot of understanding me then my family and FI. My FI keeps saying "It doesn’t matter that the sides are not even. We will make it work." I totally agree, but right now that is not the point. It''s more like it is finally my day and I want my friends there for me like I was there for them. I have never been more happy for my friends but so sad at the same time.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

I think your feelings are completely reasonable. I understand what you''re saying. You''re happy for your friends, but your wedding isn''t going to be as you hoped. You wanted these girls to be a part of your wedding, and now that''s just not feasible. That sucks! But, the good news is that it''s for happy reasons. So, just try to cheer yourself up and start your plan B or C at this point. That''s all you can do. Your wedding will still be beautiful!

 

[Haven]

Awww, I''m sorry that you''re feeling so down about the situation. Maybe you can hire a sitter for the little guy during the reception, perhaps that would encourage the new mommy to stay a bit longer.

Feel better, hon!

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

i understand how you feel....one of my bridesmaids always has something she has to do when it comes time for wedding stuff. i give her the benefit of the doubt that she truly has to do these things but i still can''t help having those feelings...

 

[dogmama]

I think it''s always a legit feeling to have, the idea of being trumped. Human nature I suppose. But on the other hand consider from their perspective: they might be somewhat envious that you''re getting to be in that newlywed state. That you don''t have the responsibility of a child. That you''re embarking on this new part of your life! That you''re doing fun stuff like, picking out your dress. All those things you get to do only once, and I''m sure they''re somewhat feeling like, gee, she''s having the time of her life.

There''s food for thought. The grass is always greener, but they might be eyeballing your lawn girl! So I wouldn''t feel trumped. I think its best to enjoy the moment.