LiW eek! potential crisis?

[edotf104]

OK, I''ll admit it... my normally dormant snooping has kicked into high gear along with my LIW-itis.

In my super sleuthiness, I''ve happened upon an email (to BF) with quotes for diamonds. Normally this would send me through the roof-- but instead of taking my advice and going through a reputable vendor (like the tons on PS), he''s communicating with some lady who''s diamonds don''t even come with certifications!@#$%^

Without letting him know I''m a lousy snoop-- how can I stress to him how important it is to go through a reputable diamond dealer with GIA, AGS0 certified stones?

help!

 

[lliang_chi]

Hm, I guess it depends on how your relationship is. He might be mad that you snooped, but if you''re saving him from a potential disaster, I''m sure he''ll appreciate it. He''s probably very shy around the diamond shopping process.

Maybe all you have to do is send him to Pricescope and have him read all about diamond shopping here. Cardinal rule # 1 here is GET A CERTIFICATE, so I''m sure he''ll get the idea real quick. It seems like you both are on the "we want to get engaged and married" wave length, so just say to him "Hey, I heard about a really good diamond forum called Pricescope.com. They have professional people on it that can talk to you about diamonds and even tell you if the one you want to buy is a good thing or not. I think that''s great they''re helping people who have no idea what they''re doing in terms of diamond shopping..."

If that still feels too direct for your taste, then work it in with something like car shopping, house shopping etc. "Y''know, I wish there was a forum that helped newbies buy a . Somewhere that people in the industry could tell us what''s important and what to look out for. Kinda like this diamond forum I heard of..." Yeah it sounds scripted but at least you get the point across.

Both are kinda cheesy so feel free to not use them if you like. Good luck!

 

[Kayakqueen83]

Yowzers! I think my BF would KILL me if I snooped and found out something about my enegagment ring. So I would suggest not telling him about it.

I think lliang-chi has a good suggestion to bring up the fact that it is important to have a certificate for the diamond. Maybe tell him that you found pricescope and that it might help him out for "whenever" he wants to start looking for rings?

Good luck, it seems like you are in a sticky situation!

 

[Circe]

Does he know that you read Pricescope? If so, you''re set - this place is great for seguing into RL discussions of diamond issues (I am not above using this myself), i.e., honey, guess what I read on PriceScope today! On any given day, there''s someone over in RockyTalk bemoaning the fact that they trusted a friend-of-a-friend or bought at a B&M without getting all of the details. Tell him a casual story, send him a link, and voila! you will have instilled a reasonable degree of caution.

 

[LegacyGirl]

Date: 3/28/2008 12:46:12 PM
Author: Circe
Does he know that you read Pricescope? If so, you''re set - this place is great for seguing into RL discussions of diamond issues (I am not above using this myself), i.e., honey, guess what I read on PriceScope today! On any given day, there''s someone over in RockyTalk bemoaning the fact that they trusted a friend-of-a-friend or bought at a B&M without getting all of the details. Tell him a casual story, send him a link, and voila! you will have instilled a reasonable degree of caution.

That sounds like a pretty good idea!

 

[MoonWater]

Date: 3/28/2008 12:47:54 PM
Author: LegacyGirl

Date: 3/28/2008 12:46:12 PM
Author: Circe
Does he know that you read Pricescope? If so, you''re set - this place is great for seguing into RL discussions of diamond issues (I am not above using this myself), i.e., honey, guess what I read on PriceScope today! On any given day, there''s someone over in RockyTalk bemoaning the fact that they trusted a friend-of-a-friend or bought at a B&M without getting all of the details. Tell him a casual story, send him a link, and voila! you will have instilled a reasonable degree of caution.

That sounds like a pretty good idea!

Ditto this. I do it ALL the time. I am not kidding, my bf knows way too much about Pricescope through me. And I''m a very straight fwd person. I don''t snoop at all, but I''m very demanding and I''ll say "Don''t you dare get a ring from such and such place, I just read the worst story on Pricescope etc." Or, "Be sure you ask about this, this, and this because on Pricescope they said...etc" I''m a total Pricescope nut.

 

[luckystar112]

Here''s what I would do--cause I''m assuming you don''t necessarily want him snooping at THIS thread.

If you''re looking for a round, I''d shoot him an email with a link to the diamond knowledge base and the halloway cut advisor (if you''re looking at rounds). Neither of these go to this forum, but just in case he stumbled upon it I''d change your avatar.
Have you been sending him pics of rings or talking with him about getting engaged at all? As in, does he know that you know it''s coming soon? If so, I''d just casually mention in the email that you stumbled upon this great information site, and that they even have a tool to see if you''re getting your money''s worth (the cut advisor).

Dear hottest guy in the world,
I don''t know if you''ve seen this yet, but I was bored and just browsing online when I came across this site (pricescope). It gives you a ton of information so you know whether or not you''re getting the most for your money. I''ve heard you should definitely check this site out before making a purchase so that you don''t end up throwing your money away on an uncertified (

) diamond priced way higher than it should be. Don''t want you to get ripped off, schnookums.

Now hurry up and propose already,
#1girl4u

 

[lliang_chi]

LuckyStar, That email is so funny!

But edot, having your guy check out Pricescope takes care of a lot of your worries for you. Someone (be it you, his friend, his parents, cowokers) should mention it to him. I think it sounds like he''s a little lost on the scary world of diamond shopping. PS is SO good about making people feel welcome and help out newbies.

 

[edotf104]

Thanks for the advice ladies. I appreciate it!

BF certainly knows my affection for PS... cuz I talk about it everyday-- and have even sent him links for the cut advisor and other tools. I think that''s why I was so shocked by the sketchy email about uncertified diamonds.

So I talked to him a little earlier about it... it wasn''t very eloquent-- came out sort of like: "Please don''t buy me a bootleg diamond!" and made sure to really emphasize getting a certificate. And of course sent even more PS links with "YOU MUST READ THIS" as the subject I''m not a snoop by nature, so I felt better after the talk. Decided it''s not for me if there''s even a chance I''ll find stuff I don''t want to see... and all is well.

crisis averted. [phew]