E-ring not the biggest stone you own?

[Rhea]

Would you wear earrings, pendant, or another ring where the diamond was bigger than your centre stone of your engagement ring?

I have about a half carat engagement ring. It''s from my pre-PS days so it''s not the best cut ever. DH isn''t an upgrade type person. I''m hoping to buy 1.3-1.5 ctw earrings. DH pointed out that then each stone would be larger than my engagement ring. He doesn''t seem particularly concerned about that, mostly just pointing it out I think.

Do you have diamonds you wear that are larger than your engagement diamond? Since DH brought that up I''m just not sure about my idea any longer.

 

[Sizzle]

Personally I need my biggest diamond to be my engagement ring. I can''t even really tell you why.. just "one of those things I stick to" I guess. That being said, I wouldn''t turn down an inherited stone (I''m not INSANE), but I wouldn''t go out and purchase a new diamond bigger than my e-ring.

 

[yssie]

I prefer the biggest stone to be my Ering - but, I recognize that I'll either have to upgrade that (not happening!) or go without other big sparklies in the future (

). Given those options... I reckon I'd get over this "must be the biggest" hangup right quick

FMIL has a smaller Ering. They could easily upgrade, but she never will... doesn't stop her from wearing some other gorgeous, gargantuan pieces! And it looks fabulous all together

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I think this is might be of those many things that we jewellery nuts notice but few others would

 

[Bella_mezzo]

I don''t think I''ll ever upgrade my ering (1 ct radient sapphire with tiny tapered trap diamonds on the sides) b/c my DH picked out the stones himself and designed the setting.

I wanted a sapphire ering and love, it, but I''d love to get a diamond RHR and a couple eternity bands, one vintage and one modern

so, when we have the funds (which might not be for several years) I''d like to get some kind of anniversary "upgrade" for my RH. I''m thinking a chunky cushion set EW in a super modern thin bezel like NF''s or maybe a more vintage setting.

Also, I want a lighter blue asher cut Jeff White sapphire or aqua set in a three stone with tapered baguettes and some kind of spessarite garnet ring.

I know, I sound like a greedy girl. These all would likely face up larger than my ering. I think I''m ok with it though. I''m going to go try some on to see.

Earrings and pendants, I could care less if they are bigger than my ering

 

[Smurfysmiles]

My e ring center stone is 3/8 ct
My parents gave me some diamond stud earrings that have a 1 ct diamond in each prong. They gave them to me as a present for the wedding so I only wear them on special occasions, but i do love them

I should take some photos this weekend

 

[rierie26]

I don''t think I would have a problem with something being bigger than my e-ring. An e-ring is given as a symbol of your relationship so it will always be special regardless of the size/upgraded or not.

Do you think it would bother your husband though? That might be something you''d have to think about if it does.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Since you''re planning to keep your eng. ring as is, I think it''s fine having larger earrings. I would do so, if like you, had an opportunity to get some nice large studs like you''re considering!

 

[fleur-de-lis]

You bet I would! And I do.

An e-ring is an everyday ring, but life''s more fun with some special occasion pieces which only come out of the vault from time to time.

 

[Tuckins1]

I wear a rather large 6 ct citrine as an RHR. But as far as diamonds go, my e-ring is my biggest (so far)

 

[Circe]

Date: 1/14/2010 2:46:57 PM
Author:Addy
Would you wear earrings, pendant, or another ring where the diamond was bigger than your centre stone of your engagement ring?

I totally would! It just makes sense to me. The e-ring is usually received at a point in life when you''re still making your place in the world. As you grow older, you have more opportunities ... so it sort of stands to reason that your less highly prioritized jewelry (pendant, earrings, RHR, etc.) would get bigger with the passage of time!

I just got a stone to be set in a pendant that will be as big as my e-ring when set: I don''t see myself upgrading either of them, but in the future, I''m looking forward to a marquise RHR that will grow ... and grow ... and GROW.

 

[luv2sparkle]

I don''t think I will ever buy another diamond bigger than my e-ring. I found the price we paid for it a bit hard to swallow.

The price was fair, it was just a lot
of cash to plunk down on something not really necessary for me.

I, too, would love love love to have a light blue Jeff White Asscher cut sapphire. The picture on his website takes my breath away! I do have bigger colored stones
than my e-ring now. But this diamond is it for me. Now, if I played the lottery and won..........

 

[AprilBaby]

If you never plan on upgrading the e-ring I don''t see any reason not to earrings bigger than the ring. I don''t think anyone will notice.

 

[iheartscience]

My e-ring has a 1.5 carat diamond so I probably won''t have a bigger diamond for a while unless I upgrade my e-ring diamond.

That said, I don''t see why it should matter and it definitely wouldn''t bother me if I were in the same situation.

 

[MishB]

Yes, my ''e-ring'' (actually my wedding band) is a 5 stone, the biggest stone is 30 points. My diamond stud earrings are 54 points each.

 

[D&T]

I don''t have any other ''Diamonds'' bigger than my ering diamond, however I do have larger colored stone rings that are larger than my diamond.

 

[marcy]

My center stone is a 1/2 ct and many of my RHR are 3/4 to 1 ct. It does not bother me a bit. My wedding rings ctw are about 1.25 so most of my RHR are around there or less. My solitaire pendant is .50 as well and I don''t like studs larger than about 5mm. I would rather upgrade my 1/2 ct EC RHR than my ering.

 

[Rhea]

Sizzle - that''s kinda how I suddenly feel. We got engaged when he was 19 and I was 21/22. The centre stone is estimated at .47 carat, and it''s far from ideal cut. I''m considering how I feel about a stone out shining it, which wouldn''t be hard to do, or being larger than it in carat weight.

Yssie - that''s the same position I''m in! I''ve discussed upgrading before with DH, maybe for our 5th wedding anniversary, but he''s having none of it. I think he sees it as a rejection of him and his gift right now. He doesn''t mind my not wearing the e-ring, just doesn''t want it replaced.

Bella - That sounds like my wish list! This place is seriously bad for the wants.

SI - Photos of the earrings, please!!

Kitcha - I don''t think it bothers DH. He sees the engagement ring and wedding band as being a one-time deal, no upgrades or replacements, but doesn''t mind my adding to the collection, but they are "just rings". DH also doesn''t understand why I want more jewellery, especially the expensive stuff. But we''ve agreed that I don''t have to understand his contant computer and audio system changes and additions and he doesn''t need to understand my additions to my jewelery collection. Even though he sees those are two different things still - his is practical, mine is pretty according to him

MC - I''m hoping to find nice OECs! I have one that I like, it''s not quite the size I want, but since finding a match can take forever I''m just taking my sweet time. I''m excited about this!

Fleur - a vault?! That''s exciting! Good point about the e-ring being an everyday ring. I find that my hands draw a lot more attention than necklaces and earrings so I can probably get away with different things on them.

Tuckins, Luv2, D&T - thanks for your responses!

Circe - We were so young (19 and 21) when we got engaged that making our place is spot on! I think that''s part of the reason why DH is opposed to an upgrade. It means a lot to him about where the ring came from even though we didn''t have a good experience buying it. I don''t see myself with a bigger engagement ring in my 30s and 40s...but I do see myself with other pieces in the future. I could only buy and decorate myself with some many stones under 5mm

April, T2, Mish, Marcyc - thank you for telling me about your pieces. I''m starting to think this isn''t such a big deal as I was thinking when I wrote this post!

 

[AGBF]

Hi, Addy. I'm late to the thread. I don't usually wear my engagement ring, which has two 1-point diamonds inside a gold oval, because it looks like a young girl's ring. I never upgraded; I just added to it when I became interested in diamonds many, many years after I was married.

My solitaire is 1.67 carats. It is an ideal cut stone of good color and clarity. I chose to wear it as my solitaire because the larger stone I had tried to wear as a ring (then) seemed too big on my hand. I deliberately got the biigger one off my hand and had it made into a pendant that I wear on a necklace of gold wires that are like a loose collar. That stone is over 2 carats.

I definitely wear the solitaire and the pendant together. The whole point was that I wasn't comfortable with the larger stone on my hand, but was comfortable with it at my throat.

The addendum is that I wouldn't think the 2 carat stone was too big for my hand now. I wouldn't mind a 3 carat ring now. I cannot afford a well cut 3 carat ring in the color and clarity I want, however, and probably never will. I didn't plan ahead and buy diamonds with upgrade policies and I don't want to take the financial hit of selling the ones I have just to buy a 3 carat ring!

AGBF

 

[elrohwen]

My ering is 1.7ct and was an heirloom - I don''t think we would ever spend enough to buy a similarly sized stone because we''re really cheap

So I highly doubt I''ll run into this problem.

Theoretically, I wouldn''t have a problem wearing another piece of jewelry with a diamond bigger than my ering.

 

[Gleam]

Date: 1/14/2010 4:33:51 PM
Author: yssie
I prefer the biggest stone to be my Ering - but, I recognize that I''ll either have to upgrade that (not happening!) or go without other big sparklies in the future (

). Given those options... I reckon I''d get over this ''must be the biggest'' hangup right quick

Me, too! Whenever I read your posts, yssie, I''m can say "ditto!"