E-Ring Dilemma Traditional vs. BLING BLING!

[MsTina]

My BF is very traditional and wants me to have a RB solitaire where I am not so much traditional and I want he describes as "a fake looking cocktail ring." I like having something timeless am currently obsessed with pear shape, and want something that is different and that I can create into a heirloom. Here are the style differences of us.

http://www.kaboodle.com/reviews/1-ct.-zales-diamond-solitaire-engagement-ring-in-18k-white-gold

and I am more



How can I make both parties proud and happy?

 

[rubybeth]

I would try to find out why he doesn't like the style that you do. Is it the 3-stone look that doesn't look like an e-ring to him? Or is it the halo/pave diamonds? Maybe the pear shape? Are you generally fashion-conscious and he's worried you won't like your ring in 1-2 years? Maybe he just hasn't seen a lot of women with more blingy rings, and a round solitaire just looks right to him. I think you should go out shopping and see some rings in person before committing, if you haven't already. Sometimes the style you love just doesn't look right on your own hand.

Any chance of you compromising on one or more features of your favorite? Some ideas if so:

Here's a halo with a plain shank, so it's got extra bling and still a classic solitaire look (can be customised for fancy shapes like a pear or radiant--I've asked!): http://www.whiteflash.com/engagement-rings/solitaire/guinevere-solitaire-engagement-ring-180.htm

Here's a 3-stone with some nice details, and maybe you could get pear-shaped sidestones: http://www.whiteflash.com/engagement-rings/three-stone/3-stone-trellis-diamond-engagement-ring-1025.htm

A solitaire that looks like a classic Tiffany-style from the top, but has side details that you'd get to enjoy: http://www.whiteflash.com/engagement-rings/solitaire/santorini-solitaire-engagement-ring-285.htm

Just some ideas!

ETA: any of these could be paired with a blingy wedding band, as well, like this: http://www.whiteflash.com/wedding-bands/halo-diamond-wedding-band-1142.htm (this is the match for the Guinevere, above)

 

[maebelle]

How about a simpler pear solitaire?

 

[MsTina]

All of those are just beautiful....however, how can a diamond not be! But I am not a big fan of the three-stone but I love to have a solitaire spiced up a little! I was thinking of doing the simple round solitaire then having a 3/4 fancy diamond (possibly micro pave) diamond band to compliment it and spruce it up a bit!

 

[MsTina]

I would try to find out why he doesn't like the style that you do. Is it the 3-stone look that doesn't look like an e-ring to him? Or is it the halo/pave diamonds? Maybe the pear shape? Are you generally fashion-conscious and he's worried you won't like your ring in 1-2 years? Maybe he just hasn't seen a lot of women with more blingy rings, and a round solitaire just looks right to him.

I think that it just "doesn't look right" and he is a very classic simple guy , where I am more OVER THE TOP! I love anything that just sparkles, however, he has picked out jewelry for me before, they were simple but go with everything that I have, either swimsuit to going out in! He has great taste but I want my ring to be STUNNING!

 

[Amys Bling]

I think in the end he wants you to love your ring so maybe find a compromise...

 

[centralsquare]

You're going to have to meet somewhere in the middle. Discuss why each of you has the preference you have. You'll probably have to compromise a bit....welcome to marriage!!!!

 

[RebeccaMUA]

I agree with the picture of the pear shaped solitare. Or Why don't you have a RB to please him, but have it set in a halo with diamonds on halfway down the shanks so that it has the bling and sparkle that you love.

While yes he should love your ring, it's ultimately your ring and there has to be elements in the ring that are to your liking as well.

 

[Miss Sparkly]

Also take into consideration the cost of repairs down the line. My first ring was over the top diamond halo with diamonds down the shank, etc. It was also in the shop every couple months for one reason or another. You can always jazz up a solitaire with wraps, bands, etc. too

 

[Gypsy]

NOW THIS IS A GOOD THREAD!

Um... there is a GORGEOUS pear three stone on sale at VOLDEMORT -- no idea whose it is, but it makes me drool.

(To figure out where Voldemort is look through these two threads: [URL='https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/ive-lost-my-mind-over-old-cuts.165784/']https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/ive-lost-my-mind-over-old-cuts.165784/[/URL] and [URL='https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/imo-we-need-a-ps-buy-sell-forum-for-members-with.165919/']https://www.pricescope.com/community/threads/imo-we-need-a-ps-buy-sell-forum-for-members-with.165919/[/URL])

It doesn't have a halo, but it's just flat out stunning. I think it's a great balance between BLING and traditional. Pears have A) great spread and B) are seen less frequently. And three stones are very classic and elegant.

OR you can do a pear with baguette or bullet sidestones. OR just a Single Pear halo... maybe one with a plain shank.

UNLESS you spend the money to have Victor, Steven or Leon do your pave, or you buy Michael B, Scott Kay (my Scott Kay wedding band is indestructible), Daniel K or another brand that has great quality and a strong warranty I wouldn't get that much pave on an engagement ring.

Talk him into three stones. Then decide on a three stone setting you both like with a pear center. That's my idea. IF YOU WANT A PEAR CENTER DO NOT get a round of all things. DO NOT COMPROMISE on the center stone shape.

 

[Seattle SC]

I agree, try to find a compromise that you'll both enjoy. Or you could always just tell him you have 2 hands, one for each style. That might get him to rethink what he wants for you

 

[Gypsy]

What a difference a day makes!

Voldemort = diamondbistro and this is the ring (which I would totally buy if I had the money)

http://www.diamondbistro.com/category/216/Natural-Diamond-Center/listings/18005/16-Ct-Diamond-Ring-from-the-Facets-Collection.html


Show him that. I think it's extremely elegant. And if you want more bling than that m'dear I got three words for you: right hand ring.

 

[MsTina]

I agree, try to find a compromise that you'll both enjoy. Or you could always just tell him you have 2 hands, one for each style. That might get him to rethink what he wants for you

NOW THAT IS A FABULOUS IDEA....I just don't think that he will go for it!!!!

Gypsey, I am liking this one!!!!



It has that bling and the round shape!!!!

What a difference a day makes!

Voldemort = diamondbistro and this is the ring (which I would totally buy if I had the money)

http://www.diamondbistro.com/category/216/Natural-Diamond-Center/listings/18005/16-Ct-Diamond-Ring-from-the-Facets-Collection.html


Show him that. I think it's extremely elegant. And if you want more bling than that m'dear I got three words for you: right hand ring.

OMG! I hope that this is quality!!! I will show him this ring and the price is WAYYYYYY under budget!!! Let's see what the BF says.

 

[MsTina]

Okay, so after talking with him and looking at rings. We both have decided that maybe an oval ring or cushion cut ring would look great. And he knows that I am not a big fan of the solitaires so I said maybe if he designs the ring, it will create that "special" factor for me. I am just nervous that if he does design it, what if I hate it....like it totally isn't my style.....I just get so nervous. But I guess it is out of my hands....

 

[slg47]

if you want a cushion...I would strongly recommend watching this video with your BF and pointing out what kind of cushion you want. There are a LOT of types of cushions with varied appearances and this video really walks you through all of the different types.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1O7H8E_MYRM

 

[pixgirl]

Who's wearing the ring? Get what you like or you'll always be a little resentful.

 

[Rhea]

Who's wearing the ring? Get what you like or you'll always be a little resentful.

On the flip side, give him some say unless you're paying and proposing to yourself. He may be a bit resentful about you spending his money on something he doesn't like.

 

[Gypsy]

Who's wearing the ring? Get what you like or you'll always be a little resentful.

On the flip side, give him some say unless you're paying and proposing to yourself. He may be a bit resentful about you spending his money on something he doesn't like.

Addy is right.

Sounds like you and you BF have found a good compromise with a cushion or oval. Congratulations. I understand being nervous about the rest! A solid marriage usually involves a lot of compromise and I applaud you guys for finding the middle ground on the stone.

Here's what I suggest with regard to the setting. Tell him you've considered it and you would feel better if you could send him some pics of styles you like (say 7 different rings) and if he would stick to those actual rings or rings of very similar design. So that way he gets to choose and surprise you--- but from a limited selection you've already vetted and know you will like. Win, win.

You BOTH need to like this. It's a symbol of you coming together.

 

[Gypsy]

I would stick to three stone rings and pave shanks:

Here's a graduated shank with an antique style cushion, for example. Below that is a cushion with baguette sidestones.

In addition to specifying what specific type of cushion you want, specify color and also whether you want an elongated (rectangualar) one or a square one.