Wedding Dress remorse

[iwannaprettyone]

Anyone ever had buyers remorse when it came to their dress?

 

[Cleopatra]

Meee! Meee! I dealt with it by making myself STOP looking at other dresses....and remembering how fabulous i felt in the dress that I chose.

Are you having buyer''s remorse?! You looked STUNNING in the dress you chose!!

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Every bride I''ve known has, haha (but only between buying it and waiting for it). I certainly did, though my remores wasn''t so much about whether it was the "perfect" dress, it was more about the costs. Even at the last fitting I was STILL thinking I should have just gone with J. Crew. But the day of my wedding? I couldn''t believe I''d had any doubts.

Your dress is stunning, Iwanna, don''t tell me you''re having remorse!!

 

[iwannaprettyone]

I am very very worried. I keep thinking is it me? Is it too trendy? Will it match my venue? Will I look ok? Will FI love it? Is it too beachy? Oi

 

[Cleopatra]

Date: 5/22/2008 4:17:38 PM
Author: iwannaprettyone
I am very very worried. I keep thinking is it me? Is it too trendy? Will it match my venue? Will I look ok? Will FI love it? Is it too beachy? Oi

That''s EXACTLY what went through my head - except it was WORSE for me - I had an entire year between finding my dress and our August wedding! At least you only have a few months! ha!

Don''t worry! You look fabulous! People will be complimenting you left and right! And do you really want a dress that looks like every other one you see? You WANT to be different and unique and stylish and beautiful! Don''t worry - you''re FI''s mouth will drop - even if you come out in a potato sack!

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Date: 5/22/2008 4:16:42 PM
Author: NewEnglandLady
Every bride I''ve known has, haha (but only between buying it and waiting for it). I certainly did, though my remores wasn''t so much about whether it was the ''perfect'' dress, it was more about the costs. Even at the last fitting I was STILL thinking I should have just gone with J. Crew. But the day of my wedding? I couldn''t believe I''d had any doubts.

Your dress is stunning, Iwanna, don''t tell me you''re having remorse!!

Thanks NE Lady. I just searched for your wedding pics, AMAZING what a beautiful bride (and couple) you make.

I don''t want to look back at my photos and think, WHAT WAS I THINKING???

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Date: 5/22/2008 4:20:09 PM
Author: Cleopatra

Date: 5/22/2008 4:17:38 PM
Author: iwannaprettyone
I am very very worried. I keep thinking is it me? Is it too trendy? Will it match my venue? Will I look ok? Will FI love it? Is it too beachy? Oi

That''s EXACTLY what went through my head - except it was WORSE for me - I had an entire year between finding my dress and our August wedding! At least you only have a few months! ha!

Don''t worry! You look fabulous! People will be complimenting you left and right! And do you really want a dress that looks like every other one you see? You WANT to be different and unique and stylish and beautiful! Don''t worry - you''re FI''s mouth will drop - even if you come out in a potato sack!

Good point! hah! Thanks for the compliment.

 

[choro72]

Me too! I ordered my dress the same time you did, and I''m thinking the same thing. I''m just dumb though. We haven''t even booked a venue yet!!!!!!! Aaack! I just loved the dress so much that I ordered it already. Our earliest date is June 09, and it might be Nov 09. Now, that''s plain stupidity. Hope this cheers you up...

 

[Independent Gal]

I did with the dress for WP1, and I hate to say it, but I never really warmed up to that dress. DH loved it though, and I still think I couldn''t have dealt with looking any longer.

But you know what? I really couldn''t care less now. There''s no part of me that''s thinking ''If only I''d put more effort into it!"

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Date: 5/22/2008 4:30:00 PM
Author: choro72
Me too! I ordered my dress the same time you did, and I''m thinking the same thing. I''m just dumb though. We haven''t even booked a venue yet!!!!!!! Aaack! I just loved the dress so much that I ordered it already. Our earliest date is June 09, and it might be Nov 09. Now, that''s plain stupidity. Hope this cheers you up...

Which dress did you wind up ordering?

 

[iwannaprettyone]

Date: 5/22/2008 4:32:35 PM
Author: Independent Gal
I did with the dress for WP1, and I hate to say it, but I never really warmed up to that dress. DH loved it though, and I still think I couldn''t have dealt with looking any longer.

But you know what? I really couldn''t care less now. There''s no part of me that''s thinking ''If only I''d put more effort into it!''

Do you still love your photos regardless of the dress?

 

[NewEnglandLady]

It''s these kind of things that keep brides so stressed out!

I''ve mentioned before about how bizarre the dress experience is--you buy it, you wait 6 months for it which you spend doubting. When it does finally come in the seamstress is immediately nitpicking what needs to be fixed, and you only spend maybe a half of an hour in it total before your wedding day! BUT! The day you do put it on, you''re in a completely different place--you''re just so excited and you feel beautiful and you''re wearing a gorgeous gown that is perfectly tailored to you and you''re just trying ot take it all in. The excitement of the day is overwhelming and it radiates, even if you''re wearing a burlap bag. When you look back on your pictures, you won''t worry if it looks dated or was too cream or the strap wasn''t falling in the right place, all you remember is how happy you were.

When you posted your dress try on pics, the one you bought was my favorite on you. It looks so beautiful and classic...I think it''s perfect. I used to worry about whether my dress would look dated as well (I tried to avoid anything that would be too trendy), but in all honesty I couldn''t care less anymore. I loved that day, I will always love that day. I think when this is all over, you''ll feel the same. And you''ll love your gorgeous dress

 

[Courtneylub]

I did the SAME thing. I started finding out that my dress was a "popular" one and I didn''t like that. Then I''d see pictures of other dresses and think "Awww...I want to keep looking." Now that MY dress finally came in and I tried it on, I know I made the right choice.

 

[Pandora II]

I haven''t so far - but then my dress isn''t made yet. The fabric is now woven and should be shipping from Italy tomorrow. Yay.

Then we have 9 weeks to go as of Saturday.

I had the final toile fitting about 3 weeks ago and I loved it - even though it needed lots of changes.

I haven''t tried on any other dresses and am sure that my design is what I want so hopefully I will love it when it''s finished! Too late if I don''t...

 

[choro72]

Date: 5/22/2008 4:33:33 PM
Author: iwannaprettyone

Which dress did you wind up ordering?

Casablanca 1827. It''s so pretty when I wear it, but when I look at the picture I worry that it''s going to be "too much" for me.

I saw the dress that you ordered. It''s so pretty on you!

 

[Gypsy]

It''s normal and natural.

But as a multiple dress bride:

You JUST ordered honey. If you are having serious doubts, I''d call the place and ask them to hold onto the order, go in try it on again, and see what you think. If you paid with a credit card find out what the card''s return policy is (might extend the return period of a store, which would be nice).

 

[karasue91]

Well, here is my story. I found a dress I LOVED but was worried about the price because FI was freaking out about the dress costs. Then I started thinking it might be too trendy and when I look back at my pictures do I want to see a trendy dress and say "OH MY GOD I CAN''T BELIEVE I LOVED THAT DRESS!"

So, I went to a million sample sales and ended up buying a dress on the spur of the moment because it was for a good cause and it looked decent in the AWFUL lighting they had. The dress didn''t even have a working zipper, that''s how bad the shape of it was when I bought it. I took it to a seamstress and had it fixed up for $500 in alterations.

Literally the day before I was supposed to pick up the dress from the seamstress, I found out the salon where I tried on the original dress I loved was willing to sell the sample (thanks to CrownJewel!! I love PS). I went that night, tried it on a bought it on the spot. So, I now have one dress that I absolutely love and one dress I have tried to sell on Ebay to no avail.

My point is that I should have listened to my first instinct and went with the dress I loved in the first place. Now I ended up with an extra wedding dress that no one wants to buy off me, and ammunition for FI to use against me in money fights, hahahaha. I have absolutely no regrets about buying the dress I loved, however.

If you loved the dress, I say stick with it and your doubts will subside after you try on the dress when it arrives and you will be SOOO happy you didn''t do anything rash like rush out and buy another dress.

Good luck!! Off to look at pics of the dress you ordered...

 

[SarahLovesJS]

My answer is yes and no. I still love my dress and the only condition I have for buying a second one is if I somehow lose waaaay too much weight for them to alter it. I am getting married in June of 09, so I have a while. The dress will be here in July. That''s the no. Now here''s the yes. I bought my dress planning to get married in a church and then proceeding to a large hotel reception. I am doing neither.

We''re now doing an outdoor wedding and using a reception room on site. I just think that lace is more suitable for this kind of thing..and my dress is satin.

Oh well. It does have flower details and what not in the beading and on the English netting on the back. So I think it still works. If anyone thinks it doesn''t don''t tell me I want to remain ignorant!

So, no and YES.

I

my dress, I just occasionally find myself saying maybe I should get lace..lace might be better..but I don''t really like lace on me..buuut maybe I needed to get it. I think you catch my drift.

 

[iwannaprettyone]

OK, I went back and looked at all my photos and visualized how I felt that day and I do love my dress...what''s not to love right?

 

[Krissie]

I''m a 2-dress bride, and for me the remorse kicked in after a couple of months. I started looking back at the photos and not liking the way the dress looked on me. I thought I could find something more flattering and a little more simple.

But sweetie, you look INCREDIBLE in the dress you ordered. That was my favorite by far, and it was so flattering on you!! I would be thrilled to look as gorgeous as that on my wedding day, seriously! Keep the dress!!

 

[modernsparkler]

I am a bit relieved to read this thread. I LOVED how my dress made me feel but now as I am waiting for it I am having my doubts and I am looking at other dresses.

I guess it is only natural since you cannot see it and there is so much build up around it. Just have faith that when it arrives it will be "the one" that you hoped it would be and you will be thrilled to wear it!

 

[mia1181]

My dress has been hanging in my closet for months, since we were having trouble setting a date for our elopement. I am ALWAYS regretting my decision. I start to think it was too cheap, too plain, whatever. But then I pull it out and try it on again and I feel like a princess all over again. So yeah, I think we feel really great about our dresses when we''re in them, and we tend to forget when we''re not.

It''s probably because there are so many beautiful dresses to choose from and we only get to pick one!

 

[Allison D.]

Date: 5/22/2008 4:49:54 PM
Author: NewEnglandLady

The day you do put it on, you''re in a completely different place--you''re just so excited and you feel beautiful and you''re wearing a gorgeous gown that is perfectly tailored to you and you''re just trying ot take it all in. The excitement of the day is overwhelming and it radiates, even if you''re wearing a burlap bag. When you look back on your pictures, you won''t worry if it looks dated or was too cream or the strap wasn''t falling in the right place, all you remember is how happy you were.

Amen to this whole post! (NEL is so smart!

)

We angst and fret, but when the day arrives and you step into your dress, you feel AMAZINGLY beautiful............and HAPPY in a way you''ve never been happy before. That feeling is what you remember when you look at the photos later. It''s been almost 4 years since my wedding; when I look at the pictures, I recall vividly how surreal that day felt and how incredibly happy and excited I felt to be marrying my husband.

 

[anchor31]

I had doubts while waiting for it to come in. What is too "cutesy", would the colour be ok (I''d never seen it in my colour), was the train too short, would I look underdresses next to me hubby in a white tux, etc... But when it came in and I tried it on again, I fell in love all over again. I had my first fitting last weekend and I still love it!

Iwanna, your dress is gorgeous. If you LOVED it wen you tried it on, I''m sure your doubts will dissipate when it''ll come in.

 

[ladyciel]

IWanna, when you posted that you ordered your dress, all you could do was gush and proclaim your love for it! I went through very similar buyer's remorse feelings, and I found myself tempted to go try on a "just a few more" dresses while I waited for it to come in. It was made worse by the fact that just after I ordered my dress the new season's dresses started arriving in stores. I kept seeing all these new photos of gorgeous dresses that I never got to try on, and maybe, just maybe, one of them was better than mine. However, my friends reminded me WHY I ordered it (I felt like a million bucks in it), and when it arrived my doubts immediately went away. I remember how much better it looked on me than any of the other dresses, how it fit my personality, and (most importantly) how happy I felt and how quickly I smiled when I saw myself in the mirror.

Hide your bridal magazines, stop looking at dresses online, and start planning all the fabulous accessories to go with your dress! It's stunning on you!!

 

[Independent Gal]

Date: 5/22/2008 4:36:25 PM
Author: iwannaprettyone

Date: 5/22/2008 4:32:35 PM

Author: Independent Gal

I did with the dress for WP1, and I hate to say it, but I never really warmed up to that dress. DH loved it though, and I still think I couldn''t have dealt with looking any longer.


But you know what? I really couldn''t care less now. There''s no part of me that''s thinking ''If only I''d put more effort into it!''

Do you still love your photos regardless of the dress?

Absolutely! In the photos for WP1, everyone we love is BEAMING and laughing and sooo happy. What''s not to love?

And I actually look just fine in that dress, it''s just not ''me''. The key with photos is that we always look at ourselves first and judge whether it''s a ''good'' picture by whether we like the way we look in it, instead of looking at the whole photo and how everyone else looks.

 

[tberube]

Date: 5/22/2008 4:49:54 PM
Author: NewEnglandLady
It''s these kind of things that keep brides so stressed out!


I''ve mentioned before about how bizarre the dress experience is--you buy it, you wait 6 months for it which you spend doubting. When it does finally come in the seamstress is immediately nitpicking what needs to be fixed, and you only spend maybe a half of an hour in it total before your wedding day! BUT! The day you do put it on, you''re in a completely different place--you''re just so excited and you feel beautiful and you''re wearing a gorgeous gown that is perfectly tailored to you and you''re just trying ot take it all in. The excitement of the day is overwhelming and it radiates, even if you''re wearing a burlap bag. When you look back on your pictures, you won''t worry if it looks dated or was too cream or the strap wasn''t falling in the right place, all you remember is how happy you were.


When you posted your dress try on pics, the one you bought was my favorite on you. It looks so beautiful and classic...I think it''s perfect. I used to worry about whether my dress would look dated as well (I tried to avoid anything that would be too trendy), but in all honesty I couldn''t care less anymore. I loved that day, I will always love that day. I think when this is all over, you''ll feel the same. And you''ll love your gorgeous dress

NEL - I have always admired you for your sound advice and helpful descriptions of your own experiences. Now I understand that I''m not the only person who has had doubts about the dress after ordering it! I spent 7 months looking at other dresses going "wow, maybe I should have gotten one with more satin, less detailing, more pouf, less whiteness...etc, etc. I still have doubts, but now my biggest worry is the ten pounds I''ve gained...from worrying!!! ACK!

 

[NewEnglandLady]

Date: 5/24/2008 8:22:20 PM
Author: tberube

Date: 5/22/2008 4:49:54 PM
Author: NewEnglandLady
It''s these kind of things that keep brides so stressed out!


I''ve mentioned before about how bizarre the dress experience is--you buy it, you wait 6 months for it which you spend doubting. When it does finally come in the seamstress is immediately nitpicking what needs to be fixed, and you only spend maybe a half of an hour in it total before your wedding day! BUT! The day you do put it on, you''re in a completely different place--you''re just so excited and you feel beautiful and you''re wearing a gorgeous gown that is perfectly tailored to you and you''re just trying ot take it all in. The excitement of the day is overwhelming and it radiates, even if you''re wearing a burlap bag. When you look back on your pictures, you won''t worry if it looks dated or was too cream or the strap wasn''t falling in the right place, all you remember is how happy you were.


When you posted your dress try on pics, the one you bought was my favorite on you. It looks so beautiful and classic...I think it''s perfect. I used to worry about whether my dress would look dated as well (I tried to avoid anything that would be too trendy), but in all honesty I couldn''t care less anymore. I loved that day, I will always love that day. I think when this is all over, you''ll feel the same. And you''ll love your gorgeous dress

NEL - I have always admired you for your sound advice and helpful descriptions of your own experiences. Now I understand that I''m not the only person who has had doubts about the dress after ordering it! I spent 7 months looking at other dresses going ''wow, maybe I should have gotten one with more satin, less detailing, more pouf, less whiteness...etc, etc. I still have doubts, but now my biggest worry is the ten pounds I''ve gained...from worrying!!! ACK!

Awww, T, you are such a sweetheart. You would make ANYTHING look stunning, you are gorgeous!!! I really love your dress, it''s so, so pretty and classic. Not to threadjack, but did you eventually get it in?? I saw your wedding necklace, too. It''s fantastic!