Drama Queening

[TravelingGal]

Kaleigh I edited.

 

[decodelighted]

It''s funny ... I think there''s been many more jibes at ME in this thread than anyone *else* specifically. No skin off my nose. *shrug*

I''m fine with this thread. It''s general ... not directed at or attacking anyone ... just offering an alternate perspective that *clearly* others identify with.

 

[Linda W]

Date: 8/23/2008 10:45:34 PM
Author: Skippy123

Date: 8/23/2008 8:46:40 PM

Author: Kaleigh

I agree. Some threads bring me to my knees. Like when someone loses their Mom. Now that''s a tragedy. Plain and simple. I do see lots of whining over stuff that seems so trivial. But then again, it''s not trivial to them, I get that.


I am patient, I am kind in my responses more often than not. But sometimes want to yell are you kidding me?? Seriously get real!!!

Ditto everything Lisa said and DF!

Double Ditto !!!!! everything Lisa and DF Said

 

[Haven]

This thread is amusing.

I find that reading people''s "outrageous online fits about non-issues" acts as a sort of therapy for me, especially when I''m dealing with big, fat, hairy issues, myself. It reminds me that Yes, one day, this too shall pass and I will have the luxury of whining about minor things because they will be the worst things happening in my life. And that''s a blessing that I look forward to having.

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The only time I was ever irritated by someone whining about a non-issue was when I was out to dinner with some dear friends about a month after one''s husband passed away after a long, horrible battle with cancer. One of our other friends was whining for about ten minutes about her husband and how he is so ANNOYING when he hangs around her when she''s trying to cook in the kitchen. "He''s always there" she kept saying. I had to stop her and say "Enough. You''re lucky he''s there at all. Drop it." That was just insensitive.

Harmless venting, however, just doesn''t bother me.

 

[Linda W]

Date: 8/24/2008 12:36:57 AM
Author: Haven
This thread is amusing.


I find that reading people''s ''outrageous online fits about non-issues'' acts as a sort of therapy for me, especially when I''m dealing with big, fat, hairy issues, myself. It reminds me that Yes, one day, this too shall pass and I will have the luxury of whining about minor things because they will be the worst things happening in my life. And that''s a blessing that I look forward to having.


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The only time I was ever irritated by someone whining about a non-issue was when I was out to dinner with some dear friends about a month after one''s husband passed away after a long, horrible battle with cancer. One of our other friends was whining for about ten minutes about her husband and how he is so ANNOYING when he hangs around her when she''s trying to cook in the kitchen. ''He''s always there'' she kept saying. I had to stop her and say ''Enough. You''re lucky he''s there at all. Drop it.'' That was just insensitive.


Harmless venting, however, just doesn''t bother me.

OMG Haven, I would have wanted to stuff a potato in her mouth. So glad you stopped her.


Linda

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 8/24/2008 12:36:57 AM
Author: Haven
I find that reading people''s ''outrageous online fits about non-issues'' acts as a sort of therapy for me

Oh geez. That''s so true *too*. Can''t have it both ways, huh? Sometimes amused, sometimes annoyed?? I guess ultimately it just speaks to where we each are in our own mood/life stage/cycle (ha!).

 

[Haven]

Date: 8/24/2008 12:46:09 AM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 8/24/2008 12:36:57 AM

Author: Haven

I find that reading people''s ''outrageous online fits about non-issues'' acts as a sort of therapy for me

Oh geez. That''s so true *too*. Can''t have it both ways, huh? Sometimes amused, sometimes annoyed?? I guess ultimately it just speaks to where we each are in our own mood/life stage/cycle (ha!).

And then there''s YOUR posts, Deco--I always click on them to get a glimpse of your cutey patootie Tallulah! (I like to read what you write too, of course, but that picture! Oh, it''s the best.)

This also reminds me of the issue I have with trashy daytime talk shows, you know, of the Maury Povich variety. They are so difficult to watch at times, but sometimes they also kind of make me feel good that that''s not MY life on the screen, you know? That''s horrible to say, isn''t it? But it''s true. And yes, I do watch daytime television occasionally during the summers when I''m not working. Okay. I admit it.

 

[Haven]

Date: 8/24/2008 12:44:53 AM
Author: Linda W

Date: 8/24/2008 12:36:57 AM

Author: Haven

This thread is amusing.

I find that reading people''s ''outrageous online fits about non-issues'' acts as a sort of therapy for me, especially when I''m dealing with big, fat, hairy issues, myself. It reminds me that Yes, one day, this too shall pass and I will have the luxury of whining about minor things because they will be the worst things happening in my life. And that''s a blessing that I look forward to having.

-------------------

The only time I was ever irritated by someone whining about a non-issue was when I was out to dinner with some dear friends about a month after one''s husband passed away after a long, horrible battle with cancer. One of our other friends was whining for about ten minutes about her husband and how he is so ANNOYING when he hangs around her when she''s trying to cook in the kitchen. ''He''s always there'' she kept saying. I had to stop her and say ''Enough. You''re lucky he''s there at all. Drop it.'' That was just insensitive.

Harmless venting, however, just doesn''t bother me.

OMG Haven, I would have wanted to stuff a potato in her mouth. So glad you stopped her.
Linda

Honest to goodness, Linda, you have no idea how difficult it was to keep my fists planted firmly in my lap. If ever I was going to slap someone in public, it would have been right then and there.

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 8/24/2008 12:53:08 AM
Author: Haven
a glimpse of your cutey patootie Tallulah ... that picture! Oh, it''s the best.

She is a fluffer-nutter! And I''ll let you in on a little secret -- more pix to come soon. DH got a fancy new digicam (Canon 790??) for his birthday. I''ve been trying to get time to do a fresh pet/bling photo shoot. Which one do I ultrasonic again? Wait - I don''t even *own* an Ultrasonic.

 

[Haven]

OOOOH Deco, I can''t wait! Diamonds and doggies--my two favorite things in the world!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 8/24/2008 1:01:01 AM
Author: decodelighted

Date: 8/24/2008 12:53:08 AM
Author: Haven
a glimpse of your cutey patootie Tallulah ... that picture! Oh, it''s the best.

She is a fluffer-nutter! And I''ll let you in on a little secret -- more pix to come soon. DH got a fancy new digicam (Canon 790??) for his birthday. I''ve been trying to get time to do a fresh pet/bling photo shoot. Which one do I ultrasonic again? Wait - I don''t even *own* an Ultrasonic.

oh reeeeeeeeeealy Deco? I thought you already had 26 digital cameras?

Lurve Tallulah...the only thing I will tolerate seeing besides her in your avatar is smoking santa!!!

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 8/24/2008 1:07:24 AM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 8/24/2008 1:01:01 AM
Author: decodelighted
DH got a fancy new digicam (Canon 790??) for his birthday.

oh reeeeeeeeeealy Deco? I thought you already had 26 digital cameras?

LOL! Busted! I''m gonna have to build a new wing onto my shack for our Cam storage needs. That darn technology keeps moving on & making our stuff out of date. And the one we used the most had been only working 50% of the time for about a year. I remember I started crushing on YOUR new camera pre-Amelia. So I held off the purchase for quite some time! But a few memory-card-failed-photo shoots wore even *me* down. Not that I was even consulted actually. He snuck out of the office & bought it the day of the last Police concert & kinda just showed up with it. I couldn''t really complain when we got great snaps & video of the back of fellow attendee James Gandolfini''s head.

Hoping the whole thing gives me some leverage on the pink gold dreams I''ve been having for MY birthday.

 

[miraclesrule]

Damn you Deco, now I feel like I should be over in my "Awful Proofs" thread apologizing.

(I seriously wish I could change the title of that thread)

I''d rather be a Drama Queen than a Drama Princess.

Oh, btw...I just topped off my wine glass so I can try to win a "woman against the machine war". I only feel old when it has to do with technology. Grrrrrrrrr There I go, whineing and wineing again...sheesh.

 

[decodelighted]

Aw Miraclesrule ... if I was able to HAVE wine right now ... this thread prooooolly wouldn''t even exist. As it happens I''m on pain meds for Swimmer''s Ear and am big ol'' swollen, feverish, whiny (but wine-free) mess myself.

Date: 8/24/2008 1:23:37 AM
Author: miraclesrule
I just topped off my wine glass so I can try to win a ''woman against the machine war''.

I hope that''s a videogame or something ... firearms & spirits don''t mix!!

 

[miraclesrule]

Date: 8/24/2008 1:32:39 AM
Author: decodelighted
Aw Miraclesrule ... if I was able to HAVE wine right now ... this thread prooooolly wouldn''t even exist. As it happens I''m on pain meds for Swimmer''s Ear and am big ol'' swollen, feverish, whiny (but wine-free) mess myself.

Date: 8/24/2008 1:23:37 AM
Author: miraclesrule
I just topped off my wine glass so I can try to win a ''woman against the machine war''.

I hope that''s a videogame or something ... firearms & spirits don''t mix!!

Ahahahaha, yeah, no...not firearms. Not unless I decide to toss a torch on the computer monitor or keyboard.

Boo on the swimmers ear. I''ve had 7 surgeries on my ears, so I can soooooooo feel your pain. Isn''t it ironic how sensitive that can be? But it is the worst pain ever!!

I hope you recover soon.

 

[Cleo]

Date: 8/23/2008 8:38:06 PM
Author: decodelighted

Why, was I being dramatic? Ranting unnecessarily? I APOLOGIZE!!! I hope I haven''t stirred up your emotions or taken up too much of your time with my CRAZY RANT!

I will be much more careful in the future when I decide to post about something that bothers me. And I''ll try to consider the GLASS HALF FULL before expecting everyone else''s tears of sympathy to fill my glass.

The glass is neither half full, nor half empty... it''s just twice as big as it needs to be. (And yes, I like to put my problems in perspective sometimes too... it helps). x x x

 

[violet02]

The drama queen posts are depressing in some ways. I hate temper tantrum why me, why can''t i get my way posts. I feel like I''m in high school again. I just try to avoid those. They need to vent and other people are happy to reply, just not me most times.

I''ve been meaning to start a whole thread on the concept of ''entitlement''! I have a friend like that.... seems to come up a lot around here too.

 

[Madam Bijoux]

People of all ages and life experiences post here. Someone who has not yet suffered a devastating loss or a major setback in life might vent about something that a person who has been through some tragedies or seriously rough times might think trivial. But it''s very real and very important to them because it might be the roughest thing they''ve gone through so far.

 

[movie zombie]

Date: 8/24/2008 7:51:41 AM
Author: violet02


I''ve been meaning to start a whole thread on the concept of ''entitlement''! I have a friend like that.... seems to come up a lot around here too.

violet02, this one would be very very interesting.........

re drama queen posts: while i tend to be in the monster camp with decoded and perhaps kaleigh as well, in some cases i think the poster is doing a reality check which i highly endorse.

what i don''t understand is the same questions on other topics being posted over and over again when a simple search on pricescope would reveal the answer to the repeated question....

just goes to show that we all have our own pet peeve!

movie zombie

 

[purrfectpear]

Date: 8/24/2008 8:16:10 AM
Author: Madam Bijoux
People of all ages and life experiences post here. Someone who has not yet suffered a devastating loss or a major setback in life might vent about something that a person who has been through some tragedies or seriously rough times might think trivial. But it''s very real and very important to them because it might be the roughest thing they''ve gone through so far.

You''re entirely correct. For the terminally shallow life must be fraught with one harrowing obstacle after another

 

[jas]

Honestly, no snark intended in the following, but I lost some sleep over this thread (which I know might surprise some of you):

What is acceptable to vent about? What level of "serious issue" does not raise people''s ire or cause longer-time posters to roll their virtual eyes?

I ask as someone who vents here sometimes, and now I feel rather foolish and, to be honest, somewhat belittled by some comments on this thread. Even if the comments don''t apply to me per se, I feel oddly embarrassed.

It''s almost like I need to qualify my ventings with personal history. Hi, I''m 35 years old, have survived cancer, nearly died in a car accident, have changed careers twice, won awards in two careers, have degrees from 2 of the best universities in the world, paid for a lot of my own wedding, established a great career, so please don''t flame me or send me to therapy for asking about xyz.

I do see a lot of threads on PS that remind me of when I was younger and life was much more...dramatic. Either I offer my opinion in a way that I think I would have listened to or I don''t write anything at all. A cry for help, and even a cry for attention, is still a cry. If I''m not in the mood to give someone attention, I don''t. If I think someone is over-the-top, I may or may not tell them that. And yes, sometimes I sugar-coat it, but still send the message, "Hey, ya know, get over yourself." Kindess and honesty are not always mutually exclusive. That''s how I was raised. I know that others here on PS think that is a chicken-sh*t approach, and that''s fine.

I hope I didn''t offend anyone. I''m just trying to give a little perspective here.

I am going to take a PS break for awhile. I''m way too worked up and lost too much sleep on this last night.

Sorry if I upset anyone. Not my intention.

See everyone on the flip side. I know this adds a some fuel to the fire and I will live with that.

 

[diamondfan]

I agree with you in terms of people who really have zero perspective on the big picture no matter is said to them. There are times when no matter comes to pass in a thread the OP is just not getting it. But, I do think for those lucky enough to have avoided major tragedy and pain to this point we do help with a reality check in many cases. I think, count yourself lucky if this is the worst thing you have to deal with, but yet I can understand in MOST cases that it is still an issue for that person. Does not mean we cannot say, yes it stinks, but get a grip. Most reasonable people think, you know, that is true...and here is how THIS can be dealt with...

 

[Linda W]

Date: 8/24/2008 10:24:50 AM
Author: jas
Honestly, no snark intended in the following, but I lost some sleep over this thread (which I know might surprise some of you):


What is acceptable to vent about? What level of ''serious issue'' does not raise people''s ire or cause longer-time posters to roll their virtual eyes?


I ask as someone who vents here sometimes, and now I feel rather foolish and, to be honest, somewhat belittled by some comments on this thread. Even if the comments don''t apply to me per se, I feel oddly embarrassed.


It''s almost like I need to qualify my ventings with personal history. Hi, I''m 35 years old, have survived cancer, nearly died in a car accident, have changed careers twice, won awards in two careers, have degrees from 2 of the best universities in the world, paid for a lot of my own wedding, established a great career, so please don''t flame me or send me to therapy for asking about xyz.



I do see a lot of threads on PS that remind me of when I was younger and life was much more...dramatic. Either I offer my opinion in a way that I think I would have listened to or I don''t write anything at all. A cry for help, and even a cry for attention, is still a cry. If I''m not in the mood to give someone attention, I don''t. If I think someone is over-the-top, I may or may not tell them that. And yes, sometimes I sugar-coat it, but still send the message, ''Hey, ya know, get over yourself.'' Kindess and honesty are not always mutually exclusive. That''s how I was raised. I know that others here on PS think that is a chicken-sh*t approach, and that''s fine.


I hope I didn''t offend anyone. I''m just trying to give a little perspective here.


I am going to take a PS break for awhile. I''m way too worked up and lost too much sleep on this last night.


Sorry if I upset anyone. Not my intention.


See everyone on the flip side. I know this adds a some fuel to the fire and I will live with that.

Jas, please don''t take a PS break. I love reading your posts!!!!!!!

You are also my hereo for being a cancer survivor because so am I.

Love, Linda

 

[Lorelei]

Ditto Linda - please stick around Jas!!!

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 8/24/2008 12:58:43 PM
Author: Lorelei
Ditto Linda - please stick around Jas!!!

Thritto! We big puffy heart you Jas!!!

 

[Ellen]

Date: 8/24/2008 10:24:50 AM
Author: jas
Honestly, no snark intended in the following, but I lost some sleep over this thread (which I know might surprise some of you):

What is acceptable to vent about? What level of ''serious issue'' does not raise people''s ire or cause longer-time posters to roll their virtual eyes?

I ask as someone who vents here sometimes, and now I feel rather foolish and, to be honest, somewhat belittled by some comments on this thread. Even if the comments don''t apply to me per se, I feel oddly embarrassed.

It''s almost like I need to qualify my ventings with personal history. Hi, I''m 35 years old, have survived cancer, nearly died in a car accident, have changed careers twice, won awards in two careers, have degrees from 2 of the best universities in the world, paid for a lot of my own wedding, established a great career, so please don''t flame me or send me to therapy for asking about xyz.

I do see a lot of threads on PS that remind me of when I was younger and life was much more...dramatic. Either I offer my opinion in a way that I think I would have listened to or I don''t write anything at all. A cry for help, and even a cry for attention, is still a cry. If I''m not in the mood to give someone attention, I don''t. If I think someone is over-the-top, I may or may not tell them that. And yes, sometimes I sugar-coat it, but still send the message, ''Hey, ya know, get over yourself.'' Kindess and honesty are not always mutually exclusive. That''s how I was raised. I know that others here on PS think that is a chicken-sh*t approach, and that''s fine.

I hope I didn''t offend anyone. I''m just trying to give a little perspective here.

I am going to take a PS break for awhile. I''m way too worked up and lost too much sleep on this last night.

Sorry if I upset anyone. Not my intention.

See everyone on the flip side. I know this adds a some fuel to the fire and I will live with that.

jas, I wouldn''t call it that at all. I''d call it classy.

And if a short break is needed, that''s fine. But we expect you back within a few days, and if you don''t show up, we will hunt you down woman. Face it, you can''t hide, you''re too big.

 

[Miranda]

Date: 8/24/2008 10:24:50 AM
Author: jas
Honestly, no snark intended in the following, but I lost some sleep over this thread (which I know might surprise some of you):

What is acceptable to vent about? What level of ''serious issue'' does not raise people''s ire or cause longer-time posters to roll their virtual eyes?

I ask as someone who vents here sometimes, and now I feel rather foolish and, to be honest, somewhat belittled by some comments on this thread. Even if the comments don''t apply to me per se, I feel oddly embarrassed.

It''s almost like I need to qualify my ventings with personal history. Hi, I''m 35 years old, have survived cancer, nearly died in a car accident, have changed careers twice, won awards in two careers, have degrees from 2 of the best universities in the world, paid for a lot of my own wedding, established a great career, so please don''t flame me or send me to therapy for asking about xyz.

I do see a lot of threads on PS that remind me of when I was younger and life was much more...dramatic. Either I offer my opinion in a way that I think I would have listened to or I don''t write anything at all. A cry for help, and even a cry for attention, is still a cry. If I''m not in the mood to give someone attention, I don''t. If I think someone is over-the-top, I may or may not tell them that. And yes, sometimes I sugar-coat it, but still send the message, ''Hey, ya know, get over yourself.'' Kindess and honesty are not always mutually exclusive. That''s how I was raised. I know that others here on PS think that is a chicken-sh*t approach, and that''s fine.

I hope I didn''t offend anyone. I''m just trying to give a little perspective here.

I am going to take a PS break for awhile. I''m way too worked up and lost too much sleep on this last night.

Sorry if I upset anyone. Not my intention.

See everyone on the flip side. I know this adds a some fuel to the fire and I will live with that.

NO NO NO NO!!! Don''t do it jas! I love reading everything you write! Your presence would be missed greatly! You add such an interesting and thought provoking perspective to all angles.

I have to agree with what you said here. PS is not a place where I would talk about major issues going on in my life...And believe me, I''ve had two years chock FULL of major issues. If I''m judged as a person who has no right to vent so be it.

And Deco, I do have a bit of advice for you. Believe me, I mean this fondly because I really like you. Why don''t you stay away from the high drama threads for a while and see how you feel. Maybe your faith in humanity will be restored.

I''m just honestly concerned that you would start an entire thread devoted to judging how and why people should post and who is entitled to feel dramatic. Maybe it''s to momma in me coming out, but, really, it makes me worry about ya.

 

[diamondfan]

Jas, add me to the list please! Stay, not trying to tell you what to do but I would miss you!

 

[Dreamer_D]

I have a feeling that this thread will cause many wonderful PS posters, like Jas, to feel bad about their threads, but the real Drama Queen targets will not identify themselves as targets and will not actually feel bad at all.

 

[CJ2008]

Jas - it's really bothering me that you're going to leave because of this thread as much as it bothers me that you lost sleep over it. This is a community, and we're all different, so please don't be embarrassed by things you may have said in the past. I don't know many of your posts, but from the few I've read, I love to hear what you have to say. Plus, I like your doggie, and would miss seeing his picture!

At first when I read this thread, I was like "why would someone start a thread were some might feel like you're talking negatively about them?" But when I put that aside, I did think Deco made some good points, like "I want to feel "okay" about a person again. And not that they are a loopcicle!" I could see that, because we all form ideas of what people are like on here - so if they go out of their norm, it leaves you wondering. I also could also see how it would be interesting to have someone come back after a rant/vent and say "you guys were right - I made a big deal out of this for nothing, and this is what I learned." I think Deco's right that the "push" to do that is much less than the desire to vent.

But the whole issue doesn't bother me anyway...I tend to do exactly what Jas does:

I do see a lot of threads on PS that remind me of when I was younger and life was much more...dramatic. Either I offer my opinion in a way that I think I would have listened to or I don't write anything at all. A cry for help, and even a cry for attention, is still a cry. If I'm not in the mood to give someone attention, I don't. If I think someone is over-the-top, I may or may not tell them that. And yes, sometimes I sugar-coat it, but still send the message, "Hey, ya know, get over yourself." Kindess and honesty are not always mutually exclusive. That's how I was raised. I know that others here on PS think that is a chicken-sh*t approach, and that's fine.

We tend to gravitate to/like people who are more like ourselves. I appreciate all answers to my posts, and find the perspective of others invaluable (even when they say things harsher than I might). I don't get offended and the fact that I have time to chew over what the person has said has given me the chance to really appreciate the advice beyond how it was given - if this was "real life" I may choose not to have these people as friends, but I realize I am posting on a public forum and everyone communicates differently.