Don''t know what to do

[Sparkles22]

Okay so I finally have the ring/rings of my dreams for my wedding set 100% happy with the way it looks. I am now debating if I should solder them together.

Here is what is going through my head

CON of soldering

I like knowing I have "2" rings
I like that sometimes they separate and have a gap, but I know they sit flush.
Sometimes they "jingle" when they go back together
The slight ring spin on the wedding band doesn''t bother me, if the diamonds don''t line up exactly, gives me a reason to look at my ring and line them up
They are sized just right at this point, and it was very hard to get the perfect size for me. If I solder them together I will have to resize them larger first, which I am very very nervous about.


PRO of soldering

The appraiser said that over the years the sides of the channel will wear down and have to be fixed, if they are soldered this won''t happen
Sometimes the diamonds on the wedding band wind up on the bottom where I might smack them on something.
I don''t wear the wedding band separate.

 

[coatimundi_org]

Hey Sparkles!

I''d leave them alone. I''d miss having the option to mix and match bands, but that''s just me, I''m a bandaholic!

I like it when they move and create elegant gaps.

Lovely set!!

 

[Sparkles22]

Date: 3/16/2008 6:57:58 PM
Author: coatimundi
Hey Sparkles!

I''d leave them alone. I''d miss having the option to mix and match bands, but that''s just me, I''m a bandaholic!

I like it when they move and create elegant gaps.

Lovely set!!

I do too! I just worry for durability reasons, is this a real concern?

 

[mrssalvo]

i think most sets will need a little touch up now and then over the years. wear your set how you prefer and worry about wear and tear when the time comes.

 

[mrssalvo]

Date: 3/16/2008 6:59:31 PM
Author: Sparkles22

Date: 3/16/2008 6:57:58 PM

Author: coatimundi

Hey Sparkles!


I''d leave them alone. I''d miss having the option to mix and match bands, but that''s just me, I''m a bandaholic!


I like it when they move and create elegant gaps.


Lovely set!!

I do too! I just worry for durability reasons, is this a real concern?

you''ve got metal against metal right? not nearly the same concern as the 3-sided pave sets out there. I seriously would not worry about it at all. my set will have a 3-sided pave e-ring next to a one-sided pave band. i like the look, sure the metal of the wedding band is going to suffer some wear and tear but it''s worth it to me.

 

[coatimundi_org]

Date: 3/16/2008 6:59:31 PM
Author: Sparkles22

Date: 3/16/2008 6:57:58 PM

Author: coatimundi

Hey Sparkles!


I'd leave them alone. I'd miss having the option to mix and match bands, but that's just me, I'm a bandaholic!


I like it when they move and create elegant gaps.


Lovely set!!

I do too! I just worry for durability reasons, is this a real concern?

Are you "hard" on your rings? I'm insanely careful, so this would not concern me, but I also don't wear the same band/bands daily. Maybe some other channel set owners can chime in.

eta: in general, I find channel sets to be the most comfortable and the "safest."

 

[Sparkles22]

Thank you so much! You''ve help to ease my worries. I really do like them separate, I just didn''t want to do something that would totally ruin them.

I appreciate the votes!

Thank you Coatimundi and MrsSalvo for you imput

 

[Sparkles22]

Date: 3/16/2008 7:08:14 PM
Author: mrssalvo

Date: 3/16/2008 6:59:31 PM
Author: Sparkles22

Date: 3/16/2008 6:57:58 PM

Author: coatimundi

Hey Sparkles!


I''d leave them alone. I''d miss having the option to mix and match bands, but that''s just me, I''m a bandaholic!


I like it when they move and create elegant gaps.


Lovely set!!

I do too! I just worry for durability reasons, is this a real concern?

you''ve got metal against metal right? not nearly the same concern as the 3-sided pave sets out there. I seriously would not worry about it at all. my set will have a 3-sided pave e-ring next to a one-sided pave band. i like the look, sure the metal of the wedding band is going to suffer some wear and tear but it''s worth it to me.

Yes they are 2 channel set bands. I can''t wait to see your new set also!

 

[Sparkles22]

Date: 3/16/2008 7:08:33 PM
Author: coatimundi

Date: 3/16/2008 6:59:31 PM
Author: Sparkles22

Date: 3/16/2008 6:57:58 PM

Author: coatimundi

Hey Sparkles!


I''d leave them alone. I''d miss having the option to mix and match bands, but that''s just me, I''m a bandaholic!


I like it when they move and create elegant gaps.


Lovely set!!

I do too! I just worry for durability reasons, is this a real concern?

Are you ''hard'' on your rings? I''m insanely careful, so this would not concern me, but I also don''t wear the same band/bands daily. Maybe some other channel set owners can chime in.

eta: in general, I find channel sets to be the most comfortable and the ''safest.''

Sometimes I am

. I don''t mean to be. And I do wear the same bands together everyday. Does this change your opinion?

 

[coatimundi_org]

Date: 3/16/2008 7:11:31 PM
Author: Sparkles22

Date: 3/16/2008 7:08:33 PM

Author: coatimundi

Date: 3/16/2008 6:59:31 PM

Author: Sparkles22

Date: 3/16/2008 6:57:58 PM


Author: coatimundi


Hey Sparkles!



I''d leave them alone. I''d miss having the option to mix and match bands, but that''s just me, I''m a bandaholic!



I like it when they move and create elegant gaps.



Lovely set!!

I do too! I just worry for durability reasons, is this a real concern?

Are you ''hard'' on your rings? I''m insanely careful, so this would not concern me, but I also don''t wear the same band/bands daily. Maybe some other channel set owners can chime in.


eta: in general, I find channel sets to be the most comfortable and the ''safest.''

Sometimes I am

. I don''t mean to be. And I do wear the same bands together everyday. Does this change your opinion?

Doesn''t change my opinion. I agree with Mrssalvo(can''t wait to see your set!). It''s not nearly like pave type rubbing.

I wouldn''t worry. Also, you can wear them separately for awhile, and if it still concerns you, you can always do it later!

 

[Haven]

I would NEVER solder my rings together, I prefer to have wearing options and I just think it''s a silly thing to do. I admit, I''ve never understood the reason behind soldering rings together.

I also wouldn''t worry about the wear and tear, it''s not going to be significant.

DON''T SOLDER! PLEASE! Then you''ll never be posting threads with a yummy third ring like Coati''s to add to the mix!

 

[Sparkles22]

Date: 3/16/2008 7:14:57 PM
Author: coatimundi


Doesn''t change my opinion. I agree with Mrssalvo(can''t wait to see your set!). It''s not nearly like pave type rubbing.

I wouldn''t worry. Also, you can wear them separately for awhile, and if it still concerns you, you can always do it later!

Okay thank you!!!!!! Guess I just needed someone to tell me it''s okay LOL! Glad for the support group here! I''ve been staring at my rings since she told me this on a daily basis trying to see if they were "wearing down". They are still shinny on the sides that touch too, so I don''t know exactly how much rubbing is going on. She did say it would take a while before they would wear down.

 

[coatimundi_org]

Date: 3/16/2008 7:17:12 PM
Author: Haven
I would NEVER solder my rings together, I prefer to have wearing options and I just think it''s a silly thing to do. I admit, I''ve never understood the reason behind soldering rings together.


I also wouldn''t worry about the wear and tear, it''s not going to be significant.


DON''T SOLDER! PLEASE! Then you''ll never be posting threads with a yummy third ring like Coati''s to add to the mix!

Agreed!
And thank you Haven!

 

[coatimundi_org]

Date: 3/16/2008 7:18:53 PM
Author: Sparkles22

Date: 3/16/2008 7:14:57 PM

Author: coatimundi



Doesn''t change my opinion. I agree with Mrssalvo(can''t wait to see your set!). It''s not nearly like pave type rubbing.


I wouldn''t worry. Also, you can wear them separately for awhile, and if it still concerns you, you can always do it later!

Okay thank you!!!!!! Guess I just needed someone to tell me it''s okay LOL! Glad for the support group here! I''ve been staring at my rings since she told me this on a daily basis trying to see if they were ''wearing down''. They are still shinny on the sides that touch too, so I don''t know exactly how much rubbing is going on. She did say it would take a while before they would wear down.

I imagine it would take years for the channel to wear down, but I''m certainly no expert. Enjoy you beauties!!

 

[Sparkles22]

Date: 3/16/2008 7:17:12 PM
Author: Haven
I would NEVER solder my rings together, I prefer to have wearing options and I just think it''s a silly thing to do. I admit, I''ve never understood the reason behind soldering rings together.

I also wouldn''t worry about the wear and tear, it''s not going to be significant.

DON''T SOLDER! PLEASE! Then you''ll never be posting threads with a yummy third ring like Coati''s to add to the mix!

I have to admit I have soldered in the past and when they were unsoldered they never quite looked as good as before they were (different rings than what I have now). One of the rings was also filed down so it would line up with the other one... it wound up being a mess.

I think Coati''s look beautiful too

, reminds me a little of Kate Beckinsdale (sp?) and I love her rings too

!

I don''t think I could ever get their beautiful looks, mine ering is channel set, not a solitare or pave which lends itself to so many beautiful "mates", but I wanted princess sides....

 

[coatimundi_org]

Date: 3/16/2008 7:23:50 PM
Author: Sparkles22

Date: 3/16/2008 7:17:12 PM

Author: Haven

I would NEVER solder my rings together, I prefer to have wearing options and I just think it's a silly thing to do. I admit, I've never understood the reason behind soldering rings together.


I also wouldn't worry about the wear and tear, it's not going to be significant.


DON'T SOLDER! PLEASE! Then you'll never be posting threads with a yummy third ring like Coati's to add to the mix!

I have to admit I have soldered in the past and when they were unsoldered they never quite looked as good as before they were (different rings than what I have now). One of the rings was also filed down so it would line up with the other one... it wound up being a mess.


I think Coati's look beautiful too

, reminds me a little of Kate Beckinsdale (sp?) and I love her rings too

!


I don't think I could ever get their beautiful looks, mine ering is channel set, not a solitare or pave which lends itself to so many beautiful 'mates', but I wanted princess sides....

Thank you Sparkles!

I have a princess cut channel band that I throw into the mix. I think you could definitely add another band of a different style for fun! But that's another thread

Just ignore the bandaholic

And again, I love your set--one of my favorite princess sets on PS!

 

[surfgirl]

I''m not really sure why your appraiser felt it was that important for you to solder your rings together since they''re both channel set, right? Makes little sense to me. Channel set against channel set or plain band isn''t going to really wear significantly, IMO.

What I AM hearing is basically that your rings dont fit you properly and probably need some touch up sizing to remedy the situation. There''s no reason why your rings should be making any "jingle" noises, even if they''re slightly loose. My ering is a bit loose in very cold weather but I certainly dont hear it jingling against my other band. And if you have a half eternity wband that spins around to the point where the stones are underneath your finger, then the ring doesn''t fit you properly as it shouldn''t be doing that. I wore a half band for many years and it never once ever spun around. I think you need to have your rings sized a tiny bit so they fit better...I wouldn''t solder them though...I think you''ll regret it if you do.

 

[rainydaze]

call me crazy.... i like the jingle!

 

[marcy]

I''ve had my first 2 wrings soldered together but am enjoying having my new set seperate. Both my rings spin around on me but I do not mind looking down at my rings and having to adjust them on my finger. As long as you enjoy having them seperate I wouldn''t worry about it.

 

[risingsun]

Keep them separate. I think they will look better that way and the wear and tear should be minimal. I wear a shared prong set and they were designed to avoid the dreaded diamond nibbling problem. I have them checked periodically and there is no problem. With the channel set, I would think you would be fine.

 

[ImpatientOne]

I don''t think I would worry at all with channel set. I had my first set (prong set) soldered together, and I had my recent upgrate set (shared prong) soldered together at the recommendation of my local jeweler. However, when I recently sent my new set back to Signed Pieces to have a different head put on it, the sales person asked me why I had soldered them together and assured me that there would be no problems with durability if they were unsoldered. He reminded me how much more flexibility I''d have if they weren''t soldered, so I went ahead and gave him the okay to do it.

 

[Sparkles22]

Date: 3/16/2008 7:32:58 PM
Author: surfgirl
I''m not really sure why your appraiser felt it was that important for you to solder your rings together since they''re both channel set, right? Makes little sense to me. Channel set against channel set or plain band isn''t going to really wear significantly, IMO.

What I AM hearing is basically that your rings dont fit you properly and probably need some touch up sizing to remedy the situation. There''s no reason why your rings should be making any ''jingle'' noises, even if they''re slightly loose. My ering is a bit loose in very cold weather but I certainly dont hear it jingling against my other band. And if you have a half eternity wband that spins around to the point where the stones are underneath your finger, then the ring doesn''t fit you properly as it shouldn''t be doing that. I wore a half band for many years and it never once ever spun around. I think you need to have your rings sized a tiny bit so they fit better...I wouldn''t solder them though...I think you''ll regret it if you do.

They jingle when they slide up my finger (to the knuckle when my hands are cold) and fall back down. The wedding ring isn''t constantly on the underside of my finger, but sometimes it idoes wind up there. They are sized as small as I can size them and still have them fit. I have to work a little to get them off, but I like them a little tight to get on (once they are on over the knuckle they are fine). Like I said I did have issues getting them to the right size.

 

[Sparkles22]

Date: 3/16/2008 7:58:11 PM
Author: rainydaze
call me crazy.... i like the jingle!

Me too it was one of the things that would be a CON if I sodered them.

 

[Sparkles22]

Date: 3/16/2008 8:02:55 PM
Author: marcyc
I''ve had my first 2 wrings soldered together but am enjoying having my new set seperate. Both my rings spin around on me but I do not mind looking down at my rings and having to adjust them on my finger. As long as you enjoy having them seperate I wouldn''t worry about it.

Gives me an excuse to look at them sparkle!

 

[Sparkles22]

Date: 3/16/2008 9:57:03 PM
Author: risingsun
Keep them separate. I think they will look better that way and the wear and tear should be minimal. I wear a shared prong set and they were designed to avoid the dreaded diamond nibbling problem. I have them checked periodically and there is no problem. With the channel set, I would think you would be fine.

Good to know! Thank you!

 

[Sparkles22]

Date: 3/16/2008 10:15:23 PM
Author: ImpatientOne
I don''t think I would worry at all with channel set. I had my first set (prong set) soldered together, and I had my recent upgrate set (shared prong) soldered together at the recommendation of my local jeweler. However, when I recently sent my new set back to Signed Pieces to have a different head put on it, the sales person asked me why I had soldered them together and assured me that there would be no problems with durability if they were unsoldered. He reminded me how much more flexibility I''d have if they weren''t soldered, so I went ahead and gave him the okay to do it.

That''s good to know because I know that Signed Pieces have a lot of flush fit sets. That makes me feel better! Thank you!

 

[Sparkles22]

Thank you everyone for your helpful replys/opinions and votes!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[marcy]

Date: 3/16/2008 10:33:37 PM
Author: Sparkles22

Date: 3/16/2008 8:02:55 PM
Author: marcyc
I''ve had my first 2 wrings soldered together but am enjoying having my new set seperate. Both my rings spin around on me but I do not mind looking down at my rings and having to adjust them on my finger. As long as you enjoy having them seperate I wouldn''t worry about it.

Gives me an excuse to look at them sparkle!

Great minds think alike, eh?

 

[Sparkles22]

Date: 3/16/2008 10:54:28 PM
Author: marcyc

Date: 3/16/2008 10:33:37 PM
Author: Sparkles22

Date: 3/16/2008 8:02:55 PM
Author: marcyc
I''ve had my first 2 wrings soldered together but am enjoying having my new set seperate. Both my rings spin around on me but I do not mind looking down at my rings and having to adjust them on my finger. As long as you enjoy having them seperate I wouldn''t worry about it.

Gives me an excuse to look at them sparkle!

Great minds think alike, eh?

Definately!

 

[lisa1.01fvs1]

Date: 3/16/2008 6:57:58 PM
Author: coatimundi
Hey Sparkles!

I''d leave them alone. I''d miss having the option to mix and match bands, but that''s just me, I''m a bandaholic!

Ditto!