EricaR
Ideal_Rock
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A recent thread got me thinking about this, and since there are a few questions I was thinking about I thought a poll would end up too complicated.
1. Does your SO have freinds of the opposite sex?
2. If so, how long as he/she been friends with them?
3. What are your feelings on the subject?
In my case, my boyfriend has friends that are women. During the first few months of the relationship it really bothered me, but as soon as I felt secure in the relationship it stopped bothering me. I had to come to the realization that any issues with that are about me, not him.
Over the years we’ve talked about it a bunch and really, it doesn’t bother me. He doesn’t look at them as romantic possibilities, just sees them as friends like he does any of the guys. And to be honest I think that if I did have a problem with it and/or forbade it in any way I don’t think I’d still be in my relationship. I wouldn’t want him to have any say in who I can and who I cannot be friends with and that really does go both directions.
Anyone else?
1. Does your SO have freinds of the opposite sex?
2. If so, how long as he/she been friends with them?
3. What are your feelings on the subject?
In my case, my boyfriend has friends that are women. During the first few months of the relationship it really bothered me, but as soon as I felt secure in the relationship it stopped bothering me. I had to come to the realization that any issues with that are about me, not him.
Over the years we’ve talked about it a bunch and really, it doesn’t bother me. He doesn’t look at them as romantic possibilities, just sees them as friends like he does any of the guys. And to be honest I think that if I did have a problem with it and/or forbade it in any way I don’t think I’d still be in my relationship. I wouldn’t want him to have any say in who I can and who I cannot be friends with and that really does go both directions.
Anyone else?