Home Does anyone else miss being pregnant?

[lizzyann]

Hi there, my son will be turning one at the end of this month and I am starting to feel the urge to have another baby. I really miss being pregnant. Two of my friends are currently pregnant and they are all excited and looking so cute! I miss that excitement, I really do. I guess that''s why they say "that pregnancy is catchy!" amongst groups of friends.

My hubby and I had some hurdles while TTC so our little mister was a blessing. Not to mention that about 5 months before my son was born, my brother passed away at the young age of 25. It was very sad. Knowing that I had my baby boy in my belly gave me the strength I needed to get thru everything. So my son gives our family such joy and hope for the future. My hubby and I planned to start trying again this fall/holiday season but I am getting antsy. Has anyone else gone thru this? And if so, did you move up TTC again?

 

[curlygirl]

I totally miss being pregnant. I had 2 extremely easy pregnancies and I even enjoyed labor and delivery!! Ideally, I wanted to start TTC when my first turned one but as fate would have it, I got pregnant when she was only 8 months so mine were literally back to back. Unfortunately, my baby days are over so I just stare wistfully at pregnant women now. I absolutely loved being pregnant and definitely miss feeling a baby inside me and all that goes along with it.

 

[AmberWaves]

My baby is almost 5 months, and I have missed being pregnant since she was a month old! Then again, I had a fantastic pregnancy with the only complication being an emergency c-section. I loved being pregnant, it was so much easier than being a mom! And the connection is unbeatable.

Of course, we tried for 12 cycles for her, so I''m hoping the next one isn''t as difficult to conceive. We''re going to try again in 2.5 years, which is FOREVER.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

nope.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I have a feeling I wont miss being pregnant and I KNOW DH wont miss be being pregnant. The last 16 weeks have put out relationship through the wringer and that''s just the emotional aspect of it. We haven''t even gotten to the heavy duty physical and sleep deprived stuff.

Kudos to you other ladies though, I admire you!

 

[qtiekiki]

My story is almost identical to curlygirl. My 2 pregnancies were also very easy (no m/s, slept fairly well and didn''t need to pee constantly), and so were L&Ds and recoveries. I miss feeling the kicks and movements, and I just think pregnant women are beautiful. My ideal was to have my kids be 2 years apart, so we should had TTC when DD is around 15 months. But we started not preventing early because it took so long to conceive DD, and we ended up pregnant after two cycles when DD was 9 months. My DS is 10 weeks old. A few of our cousins and friends are pregnant, and I am super excited, though not excited enough to be pregnant again. Not sure if there will be a third for us, but we''ll see.

 

[E B]

Not really. My pregnancy wasn't horrible, but I remember being tired all the time and toward the end, the swelling was awful. I loved feeling him kick, but I don't miss how scared I was for the first, oh, 20 weeks and later in pregnancy, when he wouldn't move for a few hours. I just wanted him on the outside.

I don't know how I'll manage through the fatigue (with #2) while chasing a toddler around. I know women do it all the time, but it's got to be hard.

 

[somethingshiny]

I am currently pregnant and I can say unequivocally, "I will not miss being pregnant." I didn''t miss it after I had our little boy, I won''t miss it after our little girl comes. I don''t have easy pregnancies and I really miss having my own body. I frustrate myself to no end when it comes to nutrition during pregnancy and DH frustrates me when it comes to my "safety." I frustrate DH with my hormones. I can still wallow in the miracle of it all, enjoy the kicks and rolls, etc. But, I much prefer the babe in my arms as opposed to my womb.

 

[qtiekiki]

Date: 4/12/2010 3:40:07 PM
Author: AmberWaves
My baby is almost 5 months, and I have missed being pregnant since she was a month old! Then again, I had a fantastic pregnancy with the only complication being an emergency c-section. I loved being pregnant, it was so much easier than being a mom! And the connection is unbeatable.


Of course, we tried for 12 cycles for her, so I''m hoping the next one isn''t as difficult to conceive. We''re going to try again in 2.5 years, which is FOREVER.

Took us a year of active TTC (and not preventing for 6 cycles before that) to conceive DD, but only took 2 cycles of not preventing to conceive DS. So I hope it''s also easier for you next time.

 

[meresal]

I'm pretty sure that DH and I are both going to miss me being pregnant. It has been fun, I enjoy the kicks and movements, and DH loves the whole thing.

This has me extremely worried.

I wouldn't have minded back to back children if we had waited a little longer for the first one *cough... like 2 years... cough*, but I am not ready to have 2 kiddos yet, and worry that DH is going to be ready much quicker than I am.

I guess we shall see... but I plan on going on BC as soon as I need to, in order to make sure it doesn't happen sooner than it should.

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

Yes! I loved being pregnant and I loved how DH and I became even closer during that time. It was really precious and I do miss it.
No plans to TTC, though.

Jen

ETA I also miss the newborn stage and I suspect in a few years I'll miss the toddler stage too.

 

[Mara]

oh hellllll no.

i am in awe of women who loved being pregnant, but i did not like it.

i had a quite uncomplicated pregnancy. i just didn't like feeling not like 'myself' and having so many things out of my control...oh and the constant heartburn and sciatic pain!

that said, i do sometimes miss feeling the baby kick or hiccup...the last trimester was probably the most fun for us with the imminent birth and activity.

and i have crazy new respect for the female body, the amazing miracles it can create pretty much almost all by itself...well i guess there needs to be two initially.

 

[Shoopy]

NO NO NO NO

The only thing I miss is meeting DD for the first time. That moment where you lock eyes is just

. I remember everyone else looking like a blur...it was just the two of us. So beautiful

. I''ll do that part over and over.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Date: 4/12/2010 4:13:03 PM
Author: meresal
I'm pretty sure that DH and I are both going to miss me being pregnant. It has been fun, I enjoy the kicks and movements, and DH loves the whole thing.


This has me extremely worried.

I wouldn't have minded back to back children if we had waited a little longer for the first one *cough... like 2 years... cough*, but I am not ready to have 2 kiddos yet, and worry that DH is going to be ready much quicker than I am.


I guess we shall see... but I plan on going on BC as soon as I need to, in order to make sure it doesn't happen sooner than it should.

Mere, just make sure he gets to experience the FULL JOY of being a parent to a newborn (late night feedings, diaper blow outs, house work, etc). My BIL wants SIL to have anotehr child (she's 40 BTW) but guess what? HE DOES NOTHING!!!!! He's never changed a poopy diaper in his life! I don't think he'd be in such a hurry if he had to pull his weight.

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

Date: 4/12/2010 4:20:29 PM
Author: fiery
NO NO NO NO

The only thing I miss is meeting DD for the first time. That moment where you lock eyes is just

. I remember everyone else looking like a blur...it was just the two of us. So beautiful

. I''ll do that part over and over.

I miss that bit tooooooo!

 

[meresal]

Date: 4/12/2010 4:22:29 PM
Author: Hudson_Hawk

Mere, just make sure he gets to experience the FULL JOY of being a parent to a newborn (late night feedings, diaper blow outs, house work, etc). My BIL wants SIL to have anotehr child (she's 40 BTW) but guess what? HE DOES NOTHING!!!!! He's never changed a poopy diaper in his life! I don't think he'd be in such a hurry if he had to pull his weight.

Hudson- Surprisingly, he is fully aware. He's read 3 "Daddy" books thruout my pregnancy! I'm just about 100% sure that he's more ready for this baby than I am. Ha. At our shower a few weeks ago, there was a 1y/o there with her parents, and he held her for over an hour straight. He can't wait, diaper changes and all.

And now that it is Baseball season, I'm pretty excited that there are going to be 2 new ears that haven't heard the same Astros' stats and stories over and over again...

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Hahahaha good point on the baseball thing! And it''s great that he''s so prepared.

 

[lizzyann]

Thanks everyone for posting. It''s so nice to hear your feelings on this. My pregnancy was pretty smooth. Not much morning sickness at all. I was able to leave my job when I was 6 months pregnant and have been a SAHM ever since so I was lucky to be able to stop and rest or put my feet up later in pregnancy. I did get swollen feet/ankles/hands towards the end tho. My L&D was 13 hours with three hours of pushing. It was tough but after it was done, it was done. I didn''t have to take any pain meds or anything after delivery which was nice. I think pregnant ladies are the CUTEST thing ever. I just miss that excitement! One of my best memories was when my water broke actually. My hubby and I were so excited with anticipation of my litte man! Then the contractions started......

Tacori, I busted out a laugh when I saw your post!

Hudson, I definitely hear you on the emotional roller coaster aspect. I found that eased up later in pregnancy. As worry went away, excitement started to build. This brought me and my hubby so close. However, there are some nights now where our tempers are short with each other but I just try to remember to put it behind me because it could be worse. We have our health, a beautiful baby, and each other. I try to put things in perspective.

 

[charbie]

Date: 4/12/2010 4:20:29 PM
Author: fiery

The only thing I miss is meeting DD for the first time. That moment where you lock eyes is just

. I remember everyone else looking like a blur...it was just the two of us. So beautiful

. I''ll do that part over and over.

damn pregnancy hormones. you just made be cry.

 

[Pandora II]

Hmmm, 26 weeks of morning sickness, 5 months of antenatal depression, severe back pain, legs that looked like they belonged to aliens and all topped off with a 54 hour labour, episiotomy, forceps, massive haemorrhage that nearly killed me, 5 blood transfusions and 2 days in ICU...

No thanks!

However, I do remember lying there in ICU a few hours afterwards, covered in tubes and electrodes and finally cradling Daisy in my arms and just being amazed at this little creature that was looking at me with these huge black eyes and had such incredibly soft hair... those moments were magical and made it all worthwhile.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 4/12/2010 4:35:39 PM
Author: lizzyann01

Tacori, I busted out a laugh when I saw your post!

I held back my REAL thoughts on the subject

I don''t miss being pregnant (how I felt or looked), I don''t miss my L&D (mine was rough) and I certainly hope if I ever have another child the recovery will be a lot easier than with DD. That was no fun. While I am at it I fully admit to NOT missing the first 6 months of her life. Guess I will never win mother of the year.

 

[MustangGal]

No, I don''t miss being pregnant. And I actually don''t miss any stage of life so far for my 14 month old. I''ve enjoyed it all as we''ve gone along, but I never look back and miss what was. Each new stage is fun and frustrating in it''s own right, and I cherish it and move on to the next stage.

Can you tell I don''t want to have a #2

?

 

[luvinlife]

Date: 4/12/2010 4:19:52 PM
Author: Mara
oh hellllll no.

i am in awe of women who loved being pregnant, but i did not like it.

i had a quite uncomplicated pregnancy. i just didn''t like feeling not like ''myself'' and having so many things out of my control...oh and the constant heartburn and sciatic pain!

that said, i do sometimes miss feeling the baby kick or hiccup...the last trimester was probably the most fun for us with the imminent birth and activity.

and i have crazy new respect for the female body, the amazing miracles it can create pretty much almost all by itself...well i guess there needs to be two initially.

Mara,
When I read you post got a visual of you saying "OH HELL NO"while snapping your fingers. I guess you have to be in my brain to see the full picture

 

[jewelz617]

NOPE!

Hot, miserable, sore and couldn't sleep. 30+ hours o' labor. No thanks!

ETA: DH does always say he was relieved at how *non* horrible and cranky I was during pregnancy, which was definitely good. Plus my skin, hair and nails never looked better.

I'm so sorry about your brother

 

[AmberWaves]

Date: 4/12/2010 4:12:33 PM
Author: qtiekiki

Date: 4/12/2010 3:40:07 PM

Author: AmberWaves

My baby is almost 5 months, and I have missed being pregnant since she was a month old! Then again, I had a fantastic pregnancy with the only complication being an emergency c-section. I loved being pregnant, it was so much easier than being a mom! And the connection is unbeatable.



Of course, we tried for 12 cycles for her, so I''m hoping the next one isn''t as difficult to conceive. We''re going to try again in 2.5 years, which is FOREVER.

Took us a year of active TTC (and not preventing for 6 cycles before that) to conceive DD, but only took 2 cycles of not preventing to conceive DS. So I hope it''s also easier for you next time.

Thanks for the encouragement! I really appreciate it (and hope it''s true!)

Also, my l&d wasn''t great, I was induced with a large (for me) baby, 24/25 hours of pitocin labor with two hours of useless pushing and a c-section. I''d do it all over again tomorrow.

 

[packrat]

I loved being pregnant. I could''ve done w/out the small children doing this

at the site of my hugeness and the people that would carry on a conversation w/me and then pretty soon were twitching at the mouth and then "bwahahaha i''m so sorry I don''t mean to laugh but.." Trapper was harder on my during the pregnancy than London, but he was easier being a 2nd c-section, I didn''t have to go thru labor like I did w/London and turn around to have surgery. If we could afford it and my body could handle it, I''d have another, or 2.

And ooooh the newborn stage..a patient had her little baby up at the office last week and it about broke my heart, the faces and noises he made. I went back to work really early w/Trapper and I could kick myself-I feel like I missed his newborn time and didn''t get to enjoy him.

 

[PumpkinPie]

I love all these threads - we will probably (if the idea gets easier to think about without hyperventilating) be TTC in about a year - I hope I have as great a pregnancy experience as some of you ladies

 

[waxing lyrical]

Yep. I'm 15 weeks postpartum and I have baby fever. My husband thinks I'm nuts. I love being pregnant and giving birth. I can't wait to do it again.

My third and fourth were back to back (pregnant with ds2 when I was 5 months pp) and I definitely felt it. I think it would be good for us to wait at least a year before we TTC again.

 

[Mara]

lol luvinlife...well you are spot on. that is EXACTLY how it was playing out in my head when i was typing it too!!

re missing stages...i tell my hub that i''d like to go back and ''view'' (as in a fly on the wall) the first few weeks of J''s life since i feel like it was kind of a blur. but i don''t need to relive it, hehe.

 

[snlee]

My son is 18 months old and I'm 3 months pregnant. We wanted our kids to be 2-3 years apart but when we started having baby fever sooner than I thought we would, we started trying when he was 1. When I'm not pregnant, yes I do miss it. At least there's a lot that I do miss even though my first pregnancy wasn't easy. I don't miss the first trimester - m/s, tiredness, gas, no thanks! I don't miss the third trimester either - I had PTL starting at 28 weeks and was on bedrest for 2 months. I only really enjoyed the 2nd trimester. I loved feeling the baby movements and the connection. It's just a very exciting time. My L&D and recovery wasn't easy but here I am about to do it again. 20+ hours of drug free labor and 4.5 hours of pushing. It's definitely the most amazing thing I've ever done. Meeting my son and spending the first days of his life was one of my favorite times. I was so in love with him. I can't wait to experience that again.