do you trust people too easily?

[Dancing Fire]

i do,cuz that's the way business was done when i was trading rare coins. but after reading P's missing ring thread...

lunch time!!

 

[Tuckins1]

Nope. It's probably the opposite. It's not that I think that everybody is out to get me or anything, but it does take time for people to really earn my complete trust. And if it's just people I meet on my daily comings and goings.... I pretty much just assume that if I turn my back or look away that even the nice little granny sitting next to me would snatch my purse. Too many crazy stories these days.

 

[yssie]

No.

But once I do trust them, I would do absolutely anything for them, and I know that strength of conviction is not always reciprocated.

 

[monarch64]

Absolutely not. I detectivized the hell out of my SO when we first met and began dating. He wasn't from the area and had only been here for a few years. I wasn't taking any chances that he wasn't who he said he was. My father thought I was nuts.

 

[radiantquest]

I think it has a lot to do with what you are exposed to. Most people that live in small towns or away from cities are more trusting than others. You said that you were trusting because of the coin business. I would think that a lot of the communications in that would come from knowing someone who knows someone. I may be wrong, but coin collectors and other groups like that are not the typical population. It is the typical population that bothers me.

I think that I can be too trusting. For the most part if someone says to me "Talk to this guy" I will 99% trust this person without meeting them. For instance I just had 3 stones cut from someone that is trust worthyand I had them sent directly to the guy that is making the ring for them. The gem cutter is the one that suggested him. They shipped from the cutter in the beginning of June and I hadnt heard anything. I thought that maybe I had been had duped. I had email contact with the guy, but anyone can be charming in an email. So, I emailed him the other day and he replied within 20 minutes and assured me that they are safe with him and that he would have sketches to me within the week. I told him that it was no rush and from the begining told him to take his time.

I was very afraid that I was going to be out the hundreds of dollars if if I couldnt get a hold of him, but it was all fine. I wouldnt sell or buy anything on craigslist. That information is all over the internet and we have seen it on the news that people can be harmed just trying to sell something.

 

[Steel]

I trust myself first and always follow my instincts.

Trust is earned not given. Only when a person never lets me down will I have trusted him or her. And that trust is given only on the last transaction; if you get me.

 

[Shoopy]

I always assume positive intent until I have evidence that proves otherwise.

 

[Steel]

I always assume positive intent until I have evidence that proves otherwise.

Fiery; you know, there are times I would really prefer to be more like you on this. It would be nice to be more trusting.

 

[packrat]

When it comes to my kids, no.

In general, yes. Small town mentality I guess. Things that would never dawn on me to do, (make up identities on the internet, lie, hunt somebody down I met on the internet, or even things to people I know IRL) I have a hard time wrapping my mind around the idea that people *do* do those things so it's best to be careful.

 

[Shoopy]

I always assume positive intent until I have evidence that proves otherwise.

Fiery; you know, there are times I would really prefer to be more like you on this. It would be nice to be more trusting.

Steal, a lot of that comes from my viewing my mom and aunt who are like night and day.

My mom is very trusting. She has had some negative experiences because of it, sure, but she also has some amazing friendships. My mom has been single for 15 years (dad passed 15yrs ago) and while she does have moments of feeling really lonely, she has a large network of friends who adore her and she's almost never alone. Sometimes when I go with her to a party, I'll have random people come up to me and tell me that my mother is so special to them and how much they love her (not that they had to tell me )

Now my aunt, OTOH, doesn't trust anyone. She thinks everyone is out to get her, everyone has a bad part of them, and you should never, ever let anyone in your life. And you know what, she's a pretty miserable person with zero friends. Obviously, she's the extreme but I see her attitude rubbing off on my Godson (her grandson) and I don't like it. She hasn't had to experience the negatives of trusting people too much but she also doesn't have much positive stories to share, KWIM?

 

[JSM]

Not at all. I like to call myself "guarded". DH is probably more accurate with "cynical." I do have more acquaintances than friends, but I do have some excellent friends and people who I care about (just a smaller circle than others).

He is from a rural small town, and I find that they (in general) are far more trusting than I could ever imagine. My MIL is extremely naive and it bothers me. I know she's been taken advantage of because of it, but she still gives others the benefit of the doubt. I WANT to assume the best of people, but I've been burned too many times. People don't know the 'real me' until I let my guard down - and that usually takes years.

 

[jaysonsmom]

I wouldn't say that I trust in people too easily, but I inherently believe that their intentions are genuine, and good. I wouldn't call myself gullible though. I guess I'm pretty sensibleand know what kind of information I can divulge to certain individuals, and who to hold back info from.

 

[sctsbride09]

No. The only person I trust 100% is myself. Experience taught me that very early in life, its a hard mind frame to change once your already in it.

 

[Dancing Fire]

I think it has a lot to do with what you are exposed to. Most people that live in small towns or away from cities are more trusting than others. You said that you were trusting because of the coin business. I would think that a lot of the communications in that would come from knowing someone who knows someone. I may be wrong, but coin collectors and other groups like that are not the typical population. It is the typical population that bothers me.

we had to or else we would'nt be able to do business. many times we buy/sell from each other w/o ever meeting IRL. maybe i was one of the few lucky guys who never got screwed.

 

[Amber St. Clare]

Well, I'm in my 50s , and the ONLY person I REALLY, REALLY trust is my husband. I trust my friends to a certain extent, I have no bio family and am not close to my husband's family.