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So, you have your ering on your finger. An acquaintance comments on how beautiful your ring is. Do you tell them its a designer ring? And how do you go about telling them its a designer without sounding like a snob?

People have asked about my to-be ring and when I proudly tell them its gonna be a Tacori, they just kind of give me a black stare and it gets a little awkward. I don''t want to sit there and explain to them who the designer is because I don''t want them to get the impression that I feel that they are "dumb" when I don''t think so at all.

I have noticed that regular people that I have encountered that are not PSers, only think of Tiffany as designer rings and a few people know about Cartier. This kinda baffles me a bit... Even before I was a Pser, I knew about different designers. And I''m not talking about like 50 year old men baffling me. I''m saying my friends that are about my age, in their mid 20''s, that have an interest in fashion and jewelry.

So, main question is, I am proud of my ring and if someone asks, I would like to tell them its a Tacori. But how to come about telling them without sounding like a arrogant snob and also if I do tell them, how do I explain who Tacori is without sounding superficial?
I have tried "Well, they are a designer jewelry company. They have made jewelry for many celebrities..." and then I feel like I have become a snob... because how do you get your point across that they are a high-end designer company without sounding like a totally materialistic person? I''m just proud of my ring and designer, thats all.

Do any of you have this "problem?"

PS: close friends I don''t have a problem bragging to them
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that I got a tacori and explaining to them who they are. I''m talking about acquaintances... strangers maybe but I don''t feel the need to have to tell them that I have a tacori when I am never going to see them again.
 
No. Even if I had a "designer" ring, I wouldn't tell anyone unless they specifically asked for the brand name. Anytime someone "drops" any brand name into a conversation it sounds like they are bragging. And really, no one really cares unless they want that same ring, it's a jewelry obsessed person like us on PS, or it's a jeweler. If they want to know, they will ask.

I mean, how does this really sound?

R: What a nice day out today.
M: It is isn't it?
R: I like your outfit, and that's a nice bag.
M: Oh yeah, I just love this Coach purse I'm carrying today. It's just a beautiful design and so well made. Coach is great!

That actually kind of sounds like a shill, the more I read it over.

Anyway, if I were in a similar situation, my reaction would be "Uh. Ok." And my opinion would be that they were materialistic. Even though I'm jewelry obsessed, I wouldn't think more of a person for what brand their ring is.

Different strokes for different folks
 
I wouldn''t tell people, unless they asked. If they ask about your coming ring, just describe it. When you have it and you''re complimented, just smile and say "thanks!" I agree with FrekeChild that it''s virtually impossible to mention the designer (unasked) without it sounding like bragging. Plus, most non-jewellery freaks would have no clue what Tacori is (at least in the circles I move in
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If they ask where it''s from, then you can tell them and explain all about it.
 
In non PS land you will get the blank stare (I have a Ritani so yep, I know that look.)

Put it this way, if you said to me "Nice car" and I responded back with "Thanks! I love my limited edition all black interior taken from a 2001 Mojave Beige, and my next mods are going to be Sprint PP520s, an Audi TT shortshifter and a G60 flywheel." you would probably not really have a clue what on earth I''m talking about.

Like you, I don''t understand it when people haven''t heard of various jewelry designers, but then again, I love jewelery so of course, it would be my interest.

I tell who designed it when asked, but otherwise, the appropriate response I have found is to grin broadly and be genuinely happy with the compliments.
 
Date: 12/27/2009 3:02:48 AM
Author:YayTacori
So, you have your ering on your finger. An acquaintance comments on how beautiful your ring is. Do you tell them its a designer ring? And how do you go about telling them its a designer without sounding like a snob?


People have asked about my to-be ring and when I proudly tell them its gonna be a Tacori, they just kind of give me a black stare and it gets a little awkward. I don''t want to sit there and explain to them who the designer is because I don''t want them to get the impression that I feel that they are ''dumb'' when I don''t think so at all.


I have noticed that regular people that I have encountered that are not PSers, only think of Tiffany as designer rings and a few people know about Cartier. This kinda baffles me a bit... Even before I was a Pser, I knew about different designers. And I''m not talking about like 50 year old men baffling me. I''m saying my friends that are about my age, in their mid 20''s, that have an interest in fashion and jewelry.


So, main question is, I am proud of my ring and if someone asks, I would like to tell them its a Tacori. But how to come about telling them without sounding like a arrogant snob and also if I do tell them, how do I explain who Tacori is without sounding superficial?

I have tried ''Well, they are a designer jewelry company. They have made jewelry for many celebrities...'' and then I feel like I have become a snob... because how do you get your point across that they are a high-end designer company without sounding like a totally materialistic person? I''m just proud of my ring and designer, thats all.


Do any of you have this ''problem?''


PS: close friends I don''t have a problem bragging to them
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that I got a tacori and explaining to them who they are. I''m talking about acquaintances... strangers maybe but I don''t feel the need to have to tell them that I have a tacori when I am never going to see them again.
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You seem to already realize that volunteering the info that your ring is designer makes you come across as an arrogant snob or as superficial (see bolded). So I would take the hint and stop sharing that information with people who don''t ask. Having a Tacori shouldn''t be about impressing people with the fact that your ring is designer, no matter how proud you are of it. Just enjoy it quietly or with your close friends.
 
Date: 12/27/2009 3:28:30 AM
Author: reader
In non PS land you will get the blank stare (I have a Ritani so yep, I know that look.)

Put it this way, if you said to me ''Nice car'' and I responded back with ''Thanks! I love my limited edition all black interior taken from a 2001 Mojave Beige, and my next mods are going to be Sprint PP520s, an Audi TT shortshifter and a G60 flywheel.'' you would probably not really have a clue what on earth I''m talking about.

Like you, I don''t understand it when people haven''t heard of various jewelry designers, but then again, I love jewelery so of course, it would be my interest.

I tell who designed it when asked, but otherwise, the appropriate response I have found is to grin broadly and be genuinely happy with the compliments.
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haha reader your post cracked me up!

and I agree with everything that everyone said.

and im sure that this feelling also has to do with me not having the ring yet and just being excited about it. I''m not going to brng it up for no reason like what frekechild said haha

I''m just excited! and I was thinking there probably isnt a good way of telling people without sounding superficial but thought maybe some PSers had some tricks up their sleaves
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I think that is why forums like this exist, its a place to bask in the excitement.

Funny, I have had my ring three years, and a cow-orker (coworkers that behave like cows) just noticed it last night.

She sneered and said: "That can''t be a real diamond."

Sigh. Its too big to look real on me I guess :D
 
Date: 12/27/2009 4:03:29 AM
Author: reader
I think that is why forums like this exist, its a place to bask in the excitement.

Funny, I have had my ring three years, and a cow-orker (coworkers that behave like cows) just noticed it last night.

She sneered and said: ''That can''t be a real diamond.''

Sigh. Its too big to look real on me I guess :D
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How rude!! Though actually, you get that quite often in the UK (without the sneer or snark) - anything over 0.5ct is considered suspicious because people just aren''t used to seeing large diamonds. One reason why we''re going for a smaller size...

I agree that forums like this are the place to share and enjoy without coming across as bragging. Also, if you have friends who are interested in jewellery, they can be great to share the fun with. So don''t think you have to keep it ALL to yourself
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I lucked out and found my dream ring used, and since its a marquise, they always look bigger than they are.

So, what is typical in the UK? I love reading about rings in other places...
 
Oh my. I hope I don't sound like I'm bragging when I explain what mokume is!

Sometimes people comment on my wedding band like "oh, that's such a neat pattern!". And I tell them it's mokume, which is a technique developed to strengthen swords, which I think is cool because hubby and I like martial arts.

I hope I'm not coming across as bragging.
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I just think it's cool...

I don't really say anything about my ering though. I feel like dropping the name of a designer without being asked is like telling them the color, clarity and carat without being asked, which I would find a little weird if all I said was "Oh, it's a beautiful ring".
 
exactly! i just think its cool and exciting! but for people that are not interested in jewelry as much as us, it just ends up being snobby! haha oh well, good thing we have PS!
 
Date: 12/27/2009 4:39:07 AM
Author: MakingTheGrade
Oh my. I hope I don''t sound like I''m bragging when I explain what mokume is!


Sometimes people comment on my wedding band like ''oh, that''s such a neat pattern!''. And I tell them it''s mokume, which is a technique developed to strengthen swords, which I think is cool because hubby and I like martial arts.


I hope I''m not coming across as bragging.
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I just think it''s cool...


I don''t really say anything about my ering though. I feel like dropping the name of a designer without being asked is like telling them the color, clarity and carat without being asked, which I would find a little weird if all I said was ''Oh, it''s a beautiful ring''.
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I think describing what mokume is way different then going on and on about who designed your ring- outside of PS I honestly don''t think people give a poop.

So no, I don''t think it comes across like bragging with mokume
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Explaining what mokume is doesn''t sound like bragging but more like--- "These are very sweet apples." "Yes, Fuji apples are very sweet."
 
Date: 12/27/2009 4:17:54 AM
Author: reader
I lucked out and found my dream ring used, and since its a marquise, they always look bigger than they are.

So, what is typical in the UK? I love reading about rings in other places...
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Outside of central London, I rarely see over half a carat. Almost all my friends who have got engaged so far (mid-twenties, all doctors/similar professionals) had a approx 0.25ct RB solitaire in white gold or platinum - that seems to be the "standard" for younger people. Gemstone rings are more common. Many older people also have cluster rings. Engagement rings here are much more about the overall look of a ring and personal size preference, rather than what someone can "afford" - no-one would raise an eyebrow at a wealthy doctor/lawyer buying a 0.25ct for his fiance, for example. I remember a teacher at my school who wore what I realise now must have been a 1ct or 1.5ct diamond, and everyone assumed it was fake because it was just so unusual to see.

That said, on the Tube (subway) in London, I do see larger rings on professionals in their 30s ish, and it''s becoming more common now (US influence I think!)

Sorry to threadjack!

MakingTheGrade, don''t worry, I wouldn''t see that as bragging at all. If someone expresses interest in the design of a ring, there''s no problem in explaining about it if the person seems curious. And in your example, the design is a point of interest for anyone, rather than just being "designer".
 
From experience MOST people have no idea what Tacori is, means, does, etc...I only tell them if they specially ask who designed or what kind of ring it is. It has never bothered me that Tacori is a mostly unknown name (but they are becoming more known now that they have a home shopping network line). I love me ring b/c of the design not the name imprinted inside.
 
If someone compliments your outfit you wouldn''t tell them who makes every item, would you? (I''m hoping the answer to this is no.) The same thing goes for jewelry. There''s no good way to tell someone who makes anything when they don''t specifically ask. And I''m not sure why you would want to, really.

Does the fact that it''s Tacori make it better than any other ring? The workmanship is nice, I''m sure, but I bet other designers (like Leon Mege) have just as good, if not better workmanship. I''m assuming you got your ring because you loved it, not because it''s a certain brand. (Although with a name like YayTacori, who knows.) Aside from pointless bragging, everyone else is right-no one cares about your ring as much as you do. Same goes for weddings, kids, etc. That''s why PS is a good place to be if you''re into jewelry!
 
No, I don''t tell people. When someone compliments my ring I just say "Thank you."
 
If somebody volunteered what designer their ring was, and that they make rings for celebrities, I''d think they were bragging and cared less about the guy and more about bragging rights. There is no way to bring it up without sounding arrogant. Save the details like that for places like PS, and memorize the phrase, "Thanks! I love it!" That''s about all the information 99% of people care about.
 
Date: 12/27/2009 6:43:44 AM
Author: LilyKat





Date: 12/27/2009 4:17:54 AM
Author: reader
I lucked out and found my dream ring used, and since its a marquise, they always look bigger than they are.

So, what is typical in the UK? I love reading about rings in other places...
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Outside of central London, I rarely see over half a carat. Almost all my friends who have got engaged so far (mid-twenties, all doctors/similar professionals) had a approx 0.25ct RB solitaire in white gold or platinum - that seems to be the 'standard' for younger people. Gemstone rings are more common. Many older people also have cluster rings. Engagement rings here are much more about the overall look of a ring and personal size preference, rather than what someone can 'afford' - no-one would raise an eyebrow at a wealthy doctor/lawyer buying a 0.25ct for his fiance, for example. I remember a teacher at my school who wore what I realise now must have been a 1ct or 1.5ct diamond, and everyone assumed it was fake because it was just so unusual to see.

That said, on the Tube (subway) in London, I do see larger rings on professionals in their 30s ish, and it's becoming more common now (US influence I think!)

Sorry to threadjack!

MakingTheGrade, don't worry, I wouldn't see that as bragging at all. If someone expresses interest in the design of a ring, there's no problem in explaining about it if the person seems curious. And in your example, the design is a point of interest for anyone, rather than just being 'designer'.
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I totally agree LilyKat. I live in London and my ering is over 4 times the UK average size of 0.25ct. I get lots of compliaments on my ring (never anything nasty or negative) but I don't tell people that my setting was custom made unless they specifically ask where it's from.

I don't really care about brand names whether it's Tacori, Tiffani or Target so I don't expect other people to be impressed either - especially not here in the UK.
 
I''m not planning on telling anyone the brand. I didn''t buy my ring for a name, I bought it because it''s beautiful. I could care less if anyone is aware of who designed it. If they ask because they love the look of it, I''ll be happy to write down the info for them.
 
I think Freke hit the nail on the head here... Unless specifically asked, you shouldn''t feel it necessary to start talking about the designer of your ring. We here on pricescope are a rare breed, I don''t personally know ANYONE who shares my love for jewelry, I don''t even let people know that I belong to a jewelry/diamond forum because people just don''t really care about it like I do. Actually the only person I ever met who did was my jeweler, and even he hadn''t heard of some of the jewelry designers who are so popular on this forum, and he seemed to be pretty with it and up to date in terms of the world of jewels and designs. I get lots of compliments on my ring, but never have been asked where it''s from, and definitely never been asked who designed it, even by people who do love jewelry-and therefore I would never feel it necessary to share that information.
 
I think a simple "thank you" is all that is necessary.
 
A lot of people outside of PS don't even know names like Tacori and Ritani. So I doubt they would care. I also don't think many celebs wear Tacori e-rings. The big celeb ring designer is actually Neil Lane.

I agree with the others, just smile and say thanks. Now if someone says, "Ooh, is that a Tacori?!" then that's a different story.
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Just a couple of thoughts.
Yes PS is the place to share diamond/jewelry passion.
Tiffany and Steinway are household brand names, but only a few passionate people know of other equally fine, or even better, makes.

So I'd not mention it.
Not so much out of concern of being thought of as a snob.
Rather 99% of people frankly just don't care, so by "teaching" them you may come across as preachy.

That said, you may have a close friend who has an open mind and just enjoys learning about anything that is fine.
This is that exceptional person who does not see anyone as a snob.
They are self confident and at peace with themselves and see people as having different passions, and are not threatened by that.

I have a friend and when he became more comfortable with me he showed me his knife collection.
Some pieces are very fine and expensive.
As we shared some beers I got a two-hour lesson on the history and field of knives.
I had no idea, but now I appreciate something new.
He later told me I'm the first friend that he has shared his collection with.
He was afraid people would think he was weird or a snob for having such unusual expensive things.

I think when it comes to snobbery it takes two to tango and snobbery has its roots in insecurity on the part of both people.
 
My policy is not to tell anything about my ring unless someone asks. Rarely do I even get asked the carat size.

I don't like talking about designer ANYTHING because one woman's "designer" is another woman's "second-tier label." Also, sometimes people will interpret a simple fact ("My ring is from Cartier") as bragging. In other words, it's often a no-win situation!

I'm happy to show my ring to someone who asks, but unless they direct specific questions at me, I don't give away any information. Most people just aren't that interested.

There's really no need to say anything beyond what's asked. "It's Tacori," period. No explaining required. There's no reason to say "Tacori has made rings for celebrities," etc. From the sound of your post, you almost sound like you want people to know that your ring is "designer." Why would you feel the need to explain what Tacori is? Don't give it another thought. You have a lovely ring and that's what matters.
 
One friend has a very pretty ring and I commented on it and her response was who the designer is. I found it kind of odd especially since that brand is known for being overpriced (it wasn't a ring by Tiffany but another brand I do think is a bit of a rip off). Although the ring IS nice, I kind of look at it now like it was a waste of $. lol

ETA - in addition to the bragging aspect, I would think a person who comments on who the designer is is trying to compete. Like the gal I mentioned talked of the designer the day I happened to be wearing more diamonds than I normally do. Was it insecurity? (Not to say this is your issue - just what I wondered then with the other gal)
 
Just say "Tacori, you know the designer that is soooo exclusive they sell their designs on the QVC channel", ''cause we know you wouldn''t want to come across as an arrogant snob or anything
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Date: 12/27/2009 1:07:23 PM
Author: purrfectpear
Just say ''Tacori, you know the designer that is soooo exclusive they sell their designs on the QVC channel'', ''cause we know you wouldn''t want to come across as an arrogant snob or anything
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I don''t see why you would feel the need to share who designed your ring unless you are specifically asked. Unless you are trying to brag.

If someone compliments your ring, all you need to say is "Thank you".
 
No, don''t like giving up any ''personal'' info, thank you is enough
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Date: 12/27/2009 10:37:18 AM
Author: PinkAsscher678
I''m not planning on telling anyone the brand. I didn''t buy my ring for a name, I bought it because it''s beautiful. I could care less if anyone is aware of who designed it. If they ask because they love the look of it, I''ll be happy to write down the info for them.
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+1! When people comment on my Tacori, I just say ''Thanks!'' and end it with ''I love it'' or ''He did good ;)'' depending on who the comment was from.
 
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