Do you sometimes just not like a poster?!

[gemgirl]

I don't dislike anyone on Pricescope. I do however, tend to stay away from threads that are started by or are taken over by people with very strong personalities and opinions. That's the way I am in real life too. I don't have an in your face type personality and getting crushed like a little bug doesn't appeal to me. I guess that's why I've been here for a long time, but don't have the number of posts to prove it.

 

[onedrop]

apparently someone really dislikes me!!!

I find that hard to believe!

I don't "dislike" anyone on PS or on any other forum that I post on. However there are certain posters that tend to rub me the wrong way. Though I find that happens only after a string of off-kilter (IMO) posts.

 

[kenny]

apparently someone really dislikes me!!!

Nah, to put it bluntly, they're talking about ME ME ME.

 

[Imdanny]

Maybe I can turn this into a positive.

Carl Jung said something to the effect of, we can learn a great deal about ourselves from the people who annoy us the most.
I think that's one of the most clever things I've ever read.

I try to ponder my own buttons when others push them.
Over time I've managed to disconnect the wires going to some of my buttons, though I still have more to go.
(Also BTW I read the thread in question.)

One of my favorite quotations is by Lloyd Ogilive, and along the same lines: Tell me what ticks you off, and I'll tell you what makes you tick.

That said, certain posters sooooooooo annoy me. One person made me see red whenever they posted and it took me a while to figure out why. It was because they'd talk ABOUT people in their own threads, as opposed to talking TO them, i.e., "Well, she's obviously very spoiled to do X, Y, and Z." I kept wondering how people resisted the urge to go "I am RIGHT HERE." For that matter, I wondered how *I* resisted the urge to be completely inappropriate and bust in with it. Happily, they left the forum where they used to post, but for a while there ... aaaaaaargh!

I hate when people do that! Talking about someone in the 3rd person (I mean unless it's just to say something like, "I've known Kenny for years. He' the greatest!" is so rude.

 

[Imdanny]

Kenny, thanks for helping me turn this situation into a positive. I thought very seriously about what you said and I had a private conversation with that wonderful person I wrote about earlier. The two of you helped me a lot to kind of "get outside of my own head" and look at how I relate to people. I've actually decided after what that person told me in private to make amends with the person whose reply I reacted to so negatively. I trusted your advice and that wonderful person's perspective on the situation in making this decision. It's pretty much that simple because otherwise I would still be myself holding a grudge. Maybe my online relationships with a couple of people are ruined beyond repair. In the case of the new person I'm just going to ignore that person. Maybe he meant well but I know we're not going to click with each other. In other words what I'm trying to say is I've decided to kind of let things ride, to let things roll off my back, and to keep an open mind as much as possible. Thanks again.

 

[kenny]

Sure.
There are a couple people over there and that other place you know about that I have simply written off.
Doing that is really a last resort, but I reserve that right.
I'm not a complete pushover.
And some day perhaps I'll "write them back in".

 

[MonkeyPie]

apparently someone really dislikes me!!!

Nah, to put it bluntly, they're talking about ME ME ME.

I knew it, KENNY HATES ME. Woe!

 

[kenny]

apparently someone really dislikes me!!!

Nah, to put it bluntly, they're talking about ME ME ME.

I knew it, KENNY HATES ME. Woe!

I could never hate my Sweetie Pie, Monkey Dunkie Wunkie Pie. Smooch Smooch Smooch.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

apparently someone really dislikes me!!!

Nah, to put it bluntly, they're talking about ME ME ME.

No, I am being serious. Someone created a fake account to tell me so. That takes ENERGY. I must really, really irritate them.

 

[kenny]

Okay! Enough of this beating around the bush stuff.

I am blunt.
I am honest.
I am KENNY.

I'm going to name names.

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[Autumnovember]

apparently someone really dislikes me!!!

Nah, to put it bluntly, they're talking about ME ME ME.

No, I am being serious. Someone created a fake account to tell me so. That takes ENERGY. I must really, really irritate them.

Wow, that honestly makes me really sad that someone would do that. Like someone else said, their loss!

 

[Imdanny]

 

[Steel]

apparently someone really dislikes me!!!

Nah, to put it bluntly, they're talking about ME ME ME.

No, I am being serious. Someone created a fake account to tell me so. That takes ENERGY. I must really, really irritate them.

Wow, that honestly makes me really sad that someone would do that. Like someone else said, their loss!

I didn't know about that T. I am really sorry. You are a great poster and I'm sorry somebody was an a$$ to you.

 

[oddoneout]

Yes but I think it's a personality clash and the way they come across (since it's not face to face you sometimes have to guess their tone/meaning).

 

[Steel]

There are a couple posters who rub me the wrong way, but in threads I am not involved in but lurk on, so I am not sure if it is okay that I have an opinion. Like, I lurk the Pregnancy thread and the TTC thread. Those threads are highly interactive with people writing and commenting to all the Pregnant or TTC PSers--all but one, anyways. She only talks about herself and asks questions, but never responds to what is going on with everyone else. Drives. Me. Crazy. But, again, I am not active in those threads and those who are seem okay with her. And, she is not that active a PSer. That and the RT issue that has been discussed here before. I don't consider many of the posters on RT "PSers" since they are just here to get through the diamond purchase and then move on, but I would like to see some of them be more respectful of those who are actually helpful members of our community here.

Generally, if I skip a poster here, it is usually because of writing style and not personality. Huge text blocks or incoherence just take too much work for me and I am not willing to invest my time in deciphering it. (Perhaps that makes me the jerk).

The TTC & Prego & Mommy threads are 'hardcore' in a way. If you do not have time to be actively involved or do not understand all the lingo then it was be awkward to jump right in. Many just dip their toes in and ask a question or say hi. Personally, I'm not annoyed by it because I did it. I would often jump in and ask a specific question, thank posters for their reply and then go back to lurking.

 

[oranges]

apparently someone really dislikes me!!!

Nah, to put it bluntly, they're talking about ME ME ME.

No, I am being serious. Someone created a fake account to tell me so. That takes ENERGY. I must really, really irritate them.

Wow, that honestly makes me really sad that someone would do that. Like someone else said, their loss!

I didn't know about that T. I am really sorry. You are a great poster and I'm sorry somebody was an a$$ to you.

yowza! that's crazy. ditto to the other posters above-- i can't believe someone would do that

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Thanks everyone. Clearly I hit a nerve. Only took five years Good thing we now have the "foe" button. People can ignore me at will b/c I'm not going anywhere. The situation is completely out of my hula hoop.

 

[Dancing Fire]

apparently someone really dislikes me!!!

but will you still marry me?

 

[isaku5]

Yes, but only one in particular.

 

[Arkteia]

I do not dislike anyone. There may be some misunderstanding but it often happens on forums.
BTW forums are totally new to me. I did not even have a Facebook account before the PS.
When someone or something rubs me the wrong way I try to imagine the person behind the post. "Faces behind names" thread helped a lot. Also, I often have to remind myself that most PS-ers are much younger than I am and had totally different lives.

 

[Jennifer W]

Tacori, I'd take that as a serious compliment. Of all the millions of people on the internet, you're the one whose words were so important to someone that they were challenged enough to take a swipe at you. Went to a fair bit of effort, too!

Would you consider using your superpowers to fight crime?

Jen

 

[perry]

Yes, its true. There are a few posters that I disliked on certain forums. In the end I left those forums as the reasons I disliked those people are not tolerated on well regulated forums (endless personal attacks and other "over the top" behavior).

PS happens to be one of the forums that I have participated on for many years; even though I don't post much these days (I do lurk a lot).

I can't say that there is anyone here I dislike - even though I can be opinionated on certain subjects and have had a few "dust ups" over the years with others on issues that I cared deeply on (as other people also care deeply on the same issues - but have a different point of view). To me, that's all in the give and take of life - and I usually forget about it shortly thereafter.

One lesson I've learned on this forum is that there have been a few times where I felt people were judging me, or attacking me at the time. Yet, when I went back and read the thread months later - I could see that it was not so. Perhaps they misunderstood me - but once out of the situation it was more clear that it was not intended to be as personal as I originally interpreted it to be. That experience has made me lighten up on what other people say. I now figure that most of the time when I feel offended (or hurt) that it is probably not my understanding things at the moment because of the situation I am in. It takes two to miscommunicate.... and web messages leave out all verbal and tonal clues.

In general, the PS people are some of the most helpful and supportive people out there on a web forum. I think that is why I hang around as much as I do.

Have a great day,

Perry