Do you sleep with your SO?

[Linda W]

Date: 4/13/2009 8:45:20 PM
Author: Kaleigh

Date: 4/13/2009 8:34:52 PM

Author: Linda W

Always. I can''t sleep, unless DH is next to me.

That''s soooo nice.


Me too. JK, if he snores, he''s out. I am done with the no sleep thing.

But love him to pieces!!! Even more so when I get a full nights rest!!!!

Lisa, I have worn ear plugs for years and years. DH snores like a buzz saw. Believe me they work.

 

[natalina]

Date: 4/13/2009 8:07:12 PM
Author: Dancing Fire
strange Q...where''s elledizzy5?

DF- you are bad! Be nice!

 

[ckrickett]

we share a bed.... but we aren''t a cuddly couple we sleep on opposite ends and dare not touch. We got into this habit when we got our puppy, she likes to sleep right in the middle of us and if we touch her and wake her up there is NO going to sleep for any of us, so we got used to sleeping on the edges, even when she isn''t at our house. rofl.

 

[Lauren8211]

Yes, I sleep with my SO, and apparently everyone else''s SOs also.

Happy DF?

 

[Linda W]

Date: 4/13/2009 8:56:28 PM
Author: elledizzy5
Yes, I sleep with my SO, and apparently everyone else''s SOs also.

Happy DF?

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

 

[lliang_chi]

Date: 4/13/2009 8:56:28 PM

Author: elledizzy5

Yes, I sleep with my SO, and apparently everyone else''s SOs also.

Happy DF?

Hilarious!!!

Yes I sleep with my FI. It''s the dog that wakes me up in the morning. Then it''s hard for me to get back to sleep. FI does this "pancake flop" when he turns over that totally shakes the bed!!!

 

[choro72]

Date: 4/13/2009 4:45:48 PM
Author: Maisie
I won''t sleep with my husband if he has thrown up. I hate vomit and am always nervous of catching a bug. Other than that we never sleep apart.

Haha, you write as if this happens a lot.

 

[LostSapphire]

OK I''ll be the ''odd one out'' here....

After 20 years of fitful sleep for both of us (he is an insomniac, and I have had health issues that get in the way of any kind of restful sleep....). We decided to say it out loud that we needed separate beds. I think there was so much guilt between us that we were each disturbing each others'' sleep. It was such a relief to deal with it in a practical manner.

So we built sweet DH a huge man-cave/den/library. He is 6''3 something, so we bought him an extra-long bed. Fabulous bedding, lots of windows in the den, internet/tv for those nights he can''t sleep. He''s never been happier.

Me? Well, I am so frequently "post-op" requiring specific positions/comfort, etc., it''s good for me too.

And for those of you who wonder: Just because people ''sleep'' in separate beds or rooms doesn''t mean the sex stops.

It''s actually better because neither one of us is resenting the other for sleep disturbances.

LS

 

[Haven]

We do, but like ckrickett and her SO we don''t cuddle when we sleep. I can''t sleep if anything is touching me.

We only have a queen size bed, and you''d think with our pup and our three kitties it would be crowded, but it''s not! The pup sleeps smack dab in the middle of us, and all three cats sleep around my feet, yet I still feel like I have enough space.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 4/13/2009 8:56:28 PM
Author: elledizzy5
Yes, I sleep with my SO, and apparently everyone else''s SOs also.

Happy DF?

 

[AprilBaby]

I snore

so we start together and he ends up leaving after about an hour. We would sleep better if we had separate rooms.

 

[AGBF]

Date: 4/13/2009 9:50:21 PM
Author: Haven

We do, but like ckrickett and her SO we don''t cuddle when we sleep. I can''t sleep if anything is touching me.

OK...I am going to veer off the subject a little, but a couple of posters have already addressed this issue now. Maybe even a few! Some people sleep together, but don''t cuddle. I want to know why the men I have been serious with (two of them, one being my husband) have always wanted to cuddle in bed and hold me endlessly apres l''amour whereas I am the one who wanted to jump out of bed? How did I get stuck with the two men every other woman seems to have wanted, but who drive me crazy and makes me feel trapped? And why are these men keeping me prisoner? Let''s get some experts in here! Where is John Pollard? Ira? Garry? Wink? I need some male opinions. Guys?

AGBF

 

[oobiecoo]

We always sleep together. I had a friend who''s parents had separate bedrooms because her mom supposedly snored really loudly. I didn''t buy that reason in high school and I don''t buy it now just based on other weird things they do.

AGBF- Thats so funny that you get stuck with the men who want to suffocate you! I usually hate being cuddled or touched while I''m trying to sleep... I can''t breathe! Maybe one of the guys here can let you in on the secret to getting men to stay on their side!

 

[VegasAngel]

Yes we do but if I could get away with us sleeping in seperate beds, I would. He snores & I like my space.

 

[Diamond*Dana]

DH and I do sleep together.

 

[AdiS]

Date: 4/13/2009 8:34:52 PM
Author: Linda W
Always. I can''t sleep, unless DH is next to me.

Same here. When he''s out of town on a business trip or something (which doesn''t happen too often, thank God!) I just stay up all night. I''m now taking a full box of DVDs with me when I know he is travelling. Figured it''s better to watch some movies than toss and turn all night.

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 4/13/2009 11:12:52 PM
Author: AGBF

Date: 4/13/2009 9:50:21 PM
Author: Haven

We do, but like ckrickett and her SO we don''t cuddle when we sleep. I can''t sleep if anything is touching me.

OK...I am going to veer off the subject a little, but a couple of posters have already addressed this issue now. Maybe even a few! Some people sleep together, but don''t cuddle. I want to know why the men I have been serious with (two of them, one being my husband) have always wanted to cuddle in bed and hold me endlessly apres l''amour whereas I am the one who wanted to jump out of bed? How did I get stuck with the two men every other woman seems to have wanted, but who drive me crazy and makes me feel trapped? And why are these men keeping me prisoner? Let''s get some experts in here! Where is John Pollard? Ira? Garry? Wink? I need some male opinions. Guys?

AGBF

Um, yeah, I got a level five clinger as well.

He literally wraps himself around me and intertwines his legs with mine. It''s cute, but I get hot and claustophobic... which I finally confessed after too many nights of trying to supress an anxiety attack. Now, after a certain amount of time, he releases me, or he will ask if I am hot or claustophobic yet. We start in a snuggle, then we go to our sides and sleep. If someone wakes up in the night, we might snuggle some more. I enjoy spooning!

 

[CNOS128]

Date: 4/14/2009 5:39:44 AM
Author: trillionaire


Um, yeah, I got a level five clinger as well.

He literally wraps himself around me and intertwines his legs with mine. It''s cute, but I get hot and claustophobic...

Me too! On all counts. He''s like a freakin'' hot water bottle. I do like to spoon, but I hate it if anything touches my face when I''m trying to sleep, so I have to push his head away. Sometimes I do wish I could have the bed to myself for a night, but then when my fiance''s out of town, I can''t sleep at all.

 

[elrohwen]

I do, but I'm ready to kill him. He's started making noises in his sleep and having sleep apnea moments, usually between 3am and 6am. It wakes me up and then I kick him or wake him up to make him stop. Sometimes it works, but sometimes he starts again 5 min later. This morning was one of those mornings so I'm sleepy! Once he gets this problem taken care of we shouldn't have any issues with sleeping in the same bed.

ETA: It helps that we go to bed at the same time and get up at the same time (well, I get up 10min earlier and he gets up when I'm out of the shower). The rare night that he stays up later to watch a basketball game or something is really annoying because I wake up when he's getting ready to come to bed.

 

[tigian]

We get into bed together every night even if one is more tired than the other. I''m always sad when DH is out of town and I have to sleep alone. He always threatens to kick me out of the bed because I tend to steal the covers at night.

 

[PaulaW]

We sleep together although it was tough the first few months we were married. DH snores really loudly and I was using ear plugs even though I found them very uncomfortable. I eventually bought a humidifier that is really loud and the white noise drowns out DH''s snoring. Whatever works, right?

 

[dendon]

I am with Lost Sapphire on this one. My hubby snores so loud, we''ve been away and have had people knock on the hotel room wall. He has had one operation once but it hasn''t helped him. I keep telling him this is a medical condition but he won''t do anything about it. So we start off watching TV together in bed but he falls asleep and start snoring right away. Me and the cat make our way to the guest room and sleep soundly.

Since we both have full time jobs, it''s tough if one of us doesn''t get a full nights sleep and I''d rather us both sleep than me kicking him throughout the night or worrying when the earplugs fall out that I won''t get back to sleep. We recently went on a cruise, BOY THAT WAS FUN WITH SMALL CABIN!! I almost slept on the deck!

But don''t get me wrong, I''ve been with him for almost 20 years and love him to death!!

 

[geckodani]

DH and I sleep in the same bed. But I have a spare quilt next to the bed, because he steals the covers. ''

I am NOT a cuddly sleeper. Move the hell over and give me my space.

 

[Mara]

my hub is a total snorer... sometimes he is so quiet and other times it's like a freight train. how do people make such ODD LOUD noises in their sleep?? it's amazing the body does that. i am one of the quietest sleepers...you can hardly even hear me breathe. if i am sick or i need to get up for a big meeting or something i am way more cranky about requiring sleep...but it happens pretty rarely that we don't sleep together. our couch is almost more comfy than our guest room. when he is traveling, i sleep fitfully but more for security reasons.... because when he is in the house like on the couch or watching TV late, i sleep like a baby. i love silence in the room and i love the bed to myself (and portia), sometimes i will sleep diagonally. we have a king and i would hate a smaller bed. i need to have my space, don't cuddle me!

 

[Miscka]

We do. Falling asleep and waking up with him is my favorite thing in the world. We usually start off in some kind of cuddle, and cuddle back up in the morning but sleep fairly separate.

My mother snores worse than anything you have ever heard. I used to be able to hear her from my room a floor above hers! I am pretty sure even if he ever did start snoring I could deal.

 

[princesss]

We have sleepovers about once a week. We used to be really cuddly sleepers, but now we''re both the type to roll away. We snuggle, and then as we drift off, we roll away. The few nights we''ve spent on king beds have been FABULOUS! I couldn''t feel him move. Talk about a dream. But the first one to wake up starts snuggling, so it''s *like* sleeping cuddled up, but without the heat, feeling trapped, or your leg falling asleep. Fantastic.

 

[Kelli]

My DF is a big time cuddler, AND a big-time snorer! I go to bed with him every night. I like to cuddle to a point, but I get hot and claustrophobic too. When that happens, I usually just roll him over and cuddle on him for a while and he's happy. We used to get in big fights because I'd get really mad at him for the awful snoring, then I just started leaving the room. My first splurge on myself after moving into our house was a brand-new bed to keep in my VERY OWN room with no snoring and no dogs! I LOVE my fiance and my dogs to pieces, but I'm an extremely light sleeper and I'm not a happy camper when I don't get to sleep. And they ALL snore.

So all in all, I would much rather stay in OUR bedroom because I love being with him, but a few nights a week I end up in MY room, and I'm much happier alone and asleep than awake and miserable.

 

[phoenixgirl]

We''re pretty snuggly too. Most nights we start off snuggling, but DH has back problems so he usually turns away from me at some point, and then we snuggle again in the morning (usually after I get out of my bed for my 5 a.m. pee). DH really loves snuggling; I think he''s more of a physical touch person than I am. Like AGBF, I''m always being asked to stop (on my way to the bathroom or get a snack or something I''m intent on) and hug, and I''m always like, come on, can''t I throw this tissue away without having to stop for a hug? in my head, but I know that if my DH didn''t want to hug me all the time, that would be worse!

 

[MonkeyPie]

Date: 4/13/2009 8:56:28 PM
Author: elledizzy5
Yes, I sleep with my SO, and apparently everyone else's SOs also.

Happy DF?

Bwahaha, you are le awesome.

We do share a bed. The only times we didn't was when he had menengitis and when I had a stomach bug - but even then he kept coming to rub my back and I kept going to tuck him in and adjust his pillows. I am absolutely sad without him.

 

[LostSapphire]

Date: 4/14/2009 12:36:18 PM
Author: dendon
I am with Lost Sapphire on this one. My hubby snores so loud, we''ve been away and have had people knock on the hotel room wall. He has had one operation once but it hasn''t helped him. I keep telling him this is a medical condition but he won''t do anything about it. So we start off watching TV together in bed but he falls asleep and start snoring right away. Me and the cat make our way to the guest room and sleep soundly.

Since we both have full time jobs, it''s tough if one of us doesn''t get a full nights sleep and I''d rather us both sleep than me kicking him throughout the night or worrying when the earplugs fall out that I won''t get back to sleep. We recently went on a cruise, BOY THAT WAS FUN WITH SMALL CABIN!! I almost slept on the deck!

But don''t get me wrong, I''ve been with him for almost 20 years and love him to death!!

Dendon:

WHEW! Glad to know I''m not the ONLY one!

When we go on vac''n we always book a 2-bedroom condo or cabin...I think we''ve come to be so comfortable with separate rooms, that when we have to share we feel squished!

And me too, I''ve been with sweet DH now over 25 years and STILL love him to death! I just can''t handle the warmth of him in the bed when I''m sleeping. (warmth otherwise is good though!

)

LS