do women feel odd dating a shorter man?

[JSM]

I''m also only 5''2" (ish), so like others it''s really hard to find men who are shorter than I am! Would I? Sure, the shortest guy I dated was 5''5", and the tallest 6''4". I didn''t choose my husband based on height (he''s 5''11").

 

[Lilac]

I''m 5''4" and DH is 5''10" - I think it''s a good height difference for us. I think he wishes he was a little taller, but I like it because when I wear heels he''s still about an inch or two taller than me. I do wish I was a little shorter though.

I personally always preferred guys who were taller than me, but I''ve seen some really cute couples where the girl is taller than the guy.

 

[Octavia]

Before I met my DH, I had never dated a guy under 6'' and the tallest of them was 6''5". I''m just shy of 5''3". There were one or two guys I brushed off in college because they were barely taller than me -- I just liked tall guys. But once I got older and somewhat less shallow than when I was in college, I met my now-husband, who is 5''5" and figured I''d give him a chance. It was odd at first, but now I love being able to look at him eye-to-eye

. I am taller than him when I wear tall heels, but he thinks it''s really sexy, hehe. Really, though, it doesn''t matter what our heights are, I just love him for everything he is and I''m glad he feels the same about me!

 

[somethingshiny]

I''ve never been particularly attracted to anyone under "normal" height. I''m attracted to the lumberjack build and usually that incorporates some broad muscle with an avg to tall height. I''m 5''6", DH is 5''11". That difference works for me.

I would be more comfortable dating a man my own height rather than someone a foot taller than me. I''d feel like a child next to a very tall man and that would be weird. And to meet my lumberjack preference, a man 6''6" would have to be seriously big all over, that would only add to the "child" feeling.

 

[Kaleigh]

I haven''t been in this position. I married my guy, he''s 6''2. In reflection , all the guys I dated were tall. Would I have dated someone shorter for sure!!! But it just happened that the guys I fell for were tall.. Not something I was seeking, it was the whole blend...

 

[JerseyGrl81]

Since I am only 5''2" it would bother me if I dated a man shorter than me. If I was a lot taller then no it would not bother me.

 

[Arcadian]

I never dated a man under 6'' until I met my husband. It wasn''t intentional, its just the way it went. In my family I''m the runt of the litter so I''ve always been around super tall people (they''re all over 6'' except my mom but she''s still taller than me)

My husband is 5''9"1/2 and even in my tallest heels I''m not his height.


I''m cool with being short.

-A

 

[pennquaker09]

This is a hilarious thread!

I''m right at 5''7" and guys shorter than that are rare. Like, I get all happy when there is a guy shorter than myself.

 

[Phoenix]

Another shortie here - 5''2", so guys shorter than that are basically too short, for anyone!!

DH is 6''4" and I didn''t like the fact that he was so much taller than me when we first met. He somehow won me over!!

 

[Erin]

I''m 5''8 and dated once a guy 5''6. He was a complete Tool so he ruined it for all men shorter than I from that point on.
I remember when I was having a hard time dating I was always upset with the shorter girls dating guys a full foot taller. I was like, hey, I get hit on by shorter guys all the time and I''m not interested. Where are all the tall guys? Oh - they''re dating the shorter girls. Where does that leave me?

I know, crazy, but it was driving me nuts during that period of my life.

 

[tlh]

I''m 5''3" - if my partner was shorter than me, yes, I''d be bothered by it. I''m not attracted to short guys. I always said I was trying to breed the short out. The tallest guy I ever dated was 6''11.5", the average height was 6''3"... my DH is the shortest, and I honestly think of him as SHORT at 5''11.5". With shoes on he clears 6''. But I think of him as short, because he is the shortest of all the men I''ve dated. But I like kissing him the best. Doesn''t hurt my neck. I don''t ALWAYS have to wear 3-4" heels.. and in fact never do anymore. I now think my DH is the perfect height, but I still call him a shrimp.

 

[AdiS]

Date: 1/11/2010 9:50:33 AM
Author: tlh
I'm 5'3' - if my partner was shorter than me, yes, I'd be bothered by it. I'm not attracted to short guys. I always said I was trying to breed the short out. The tallest guy I ever dated was 6'11.5', the average height was 6'3'... my DH is the shortest, and I honestly think of him as SHORT at 5'11.5'. With shoes on he clears 6'. But I think of him as short, because he is the shortest of all the men I've dated. But I like kissing him the best. Doesn't hurt my neck. I don't ALWAYS have to wear 3-4' heels.. and in fact never do anymore. I now think my DH is the perfect height, but I still call him a shrimp.

*snort* Not to his face, hopefully?

I swear tlh, your posts are killing me! lol

 

[ladypirate]

I agree with the other tall ladies that self-consciousness can be an issue. I dated someone who was right at my height or a little shorter and he weighed pretty much the same as me (maybe even a few pounds less). The height thing wasn''t such an issue, but being with someone smaller than me in general made me feel really huge and awkward. FI is 6''7" and outweighs me by more than a hundred pounds, though, so it''s no longer an issue. If anything I feel really petite now.

 

[upgrade]

I hate to sound so shallow, but the honest answer is yes. I'm 5' 5" (okay,k so I'm actually 5' 4 3/4" but we round up!) so he would have to be pretty short. I did have a bf once who was somewhere in the 5' 5 1/2"- 5' 6" range, so he was basically my height. I didn't love that, but it wasn't a deciding factor for me. He did, however, have the *worst* case of little man syndrome I've ever know so I think that did me in on short men. A confident, short man would be a different story.

My dh is 4 inches taller than me and I love that. I think it's the perfect height difference. I can wear heels without fear!

My BFF is 5' 11" (and stunningly gorgeous) and her dh is about 5' 6" and they're adorable together. She loves heels, and really, she's so much taller than him already that she's not going to fool anyone by wearing flats so she might as well go for it! He's very confident though, so their height difference is a non issue. And she reaches things from the high shelves for him!

 

[Aloros]

I''m 5''8" and my DH is 5''10". I''ve never dated anyone shorter than me, but I don''t think it would make much of a difference unless they were waaaay shorter than me. I''m taller than DH when I put on heels, but neither of us care. I''m really glad he doesn''t have a problem with it.

 

[MakingTheGrade]

I am short, so I rarely meet guys shorter than me..haha

But generally I don''t think I could date someone shorter than me, mostly because I can''t date a guy that I can take down in a fight (and I''m a black belt)

I also like knowing that my hubby can carry me up the stairs, which most guys my height probably can''t do since I''m pretty solidly built.

 

[neatfreak]

Honestly, yes I do. BUT that is only because the only short man I dated (and another one I went on a few dates with) were SOOOOOO self conscious about their height that it made *me* feel weird too. They also often puffed up their chests and had a bit of Napoleon syndrome too, so that wasn't flattering to them either.

If the guy were totally fine with it and had no Napoleon syndrome-I think I would have been totally fine with it.

But a guy has to be pretty short to not be taller than me because I am only 5'3".

 

[Smurfysmiles]

I''m 5''1" and once dated a guy who was an inch shorter than me, we didn''t date long (a week or two) because it turned out that he drooled all over the place when he kissed me. That probably ruled him out before the height thing lol

On the other hand, I have a cousin who is about 8-9 inches taller than her husband

They''ve been together 25 years

I''m 5''1" and DH is 5''6"

 

[tlh]

Date: 1/11/2010 11:08:41 AM
Author: AdiS

Date: 1/11/2010 9:50:33 AM
Author: tlh
I''m 5''3'' - if my partner was shorter than me, yes, I''d be bothered by it. I''m not attracted to short guys. I always said I was trying to breed the short out. The tallest guy I ever dated was 6''11.5'', the average height was 6''3''... my DH is the shortest, and I honestly think of him as SHORT at 5''11.5''. With shoes on he clears 6''. But I think of him as short, because he is the shortest of all the men I''ve dated. But I like kissing him the best. Doesn''t hurt my neck. I don''t ALWAYS have to wear 3-4'' heels.. and in fact never do anymore. I now think my DH is the perfect height, but I still call him a shrimp.

*snort* Not to his face, hopefully?

I swear tlh, your posts are killing me! lol

Of Course I call him that to his face... I wuoldn''t say anything behind his back that I wouldn''t say to his face... and since he''s so shrimpy... I AM in his face!

 

[swimmer]

Date: 1/9/2010 5:56:45 PM
Author: drk
I''m a little over 6'' tall. DH is about 1/2'' shorter than me, and weighed less than me when we first started dating (and again now that I''m pg). He''s pretty scrawny. I don''t know if I could handle a guy who was way shorter than me, but that would depend on personality and other qualities. I''d have been less likely to go on a date with someone way shorter, until I''d gotten to know them and become attracted to personality and sense of humour and physique. I''ve always been more attracted to men who had a couple inches on me, but sadly, they usually seemed to be attracted to women who were way shorter than them.


In the end, I''m very happy to be the same size as DH. I feel like any daughters we have won''t be doomed to be way over 6'' tall. If other people weren''t so short, pants were all offered in longer lengths, and shoes for women were sold regularly in larger sizes (I''m a size 11-12, and in general, shoes are only made up to a size 10), I wouldn''t be concerned. But things just aren''t quite made for women my size. DH is a good height for kissing, hugging (we can each rest our chins on each others'' shoulders, and it''s very comfy) etc. No neck strain for either of us.


I''ve always wished I were 5''10'' - that would be my ideal height.

Thank you so much! It is an ideal height as long as Jcrew keeps making long jeans.

DH is just a bit taller than me, but I had dated shorter guys before, I have no issues with that, but found that some men are not really into dating women who are taller and in better shape than they are. My ex is about 5''7.5 and we were fine with that, but he weighed more than me and I must say that there are some physical advantages to being with a guy who is shorter than you.

When an elderly female relative was dying a friend and I went to visit her. She wanted to know why I wasn''t seeing anyone (the person I was dating was not bring-home-able) so I told her it was hard to find a nice Jewish boy who is taller than me. She said something like, "it doesn''t matter how tall you are once you lie down!" Old age does give one perspective!

 

[Julianna]

I'm 5'9", he's 5'7 1/2". I often like to throw on a pair of 5 inch leopard heels and a walk around like I'm a supermodel (har). He's lean and handsome, muscular and self-assured. And heck, I like walking around with the best looking guy in the place. I guess neither he nor I are "average" height for our gender. I'm not a big fan of "average" anyway.

 

[Haven]

Date: 1/11/2010 3:23:54 PM
Author: swimmer

Date: 1/9/2010 5:56:45 PM
Author: drk
I''m a little over 6'' tall. DH is about 1/2'' shorter than me, and weighed less than me when we first started dating (and again now that I''m pg). He''s pretty scrawny. I don''t know if I could handle a guy who was way shorter than me, but that would depend on personality and other qualities. I''d have been less likely to go on a date with someone way shorter, until I''d gotten to know them and become attracted to personality and sense of humour and physique. I''ve always been more attracted to men who had a couple inches on me, but sadly, they usually seemed to be attracted to women who were way shorter than them.

In the end, I''m very happy to be the same size as DH. I feel like any daughters we have won''t be doomed to be way over 6'' tall. If other people weren''t so short, pants were all offered in longer lengths, and shoes for women were sold regularly in larger sizes (I''m a size 11-12, and in general, shoes are only made up to a size 10), I wouldn''t be concerned. But things just aren''t quite made for women my size. DH is a good height for kissing, hugging (we can each rest our chins on each others'' shoulders, and it''s very comfy) etc. No neck strain for either of us.

I''ve always wished I were 5''10'' - that would be my ideal height.

Thank you so much! It is an ideal height as long as Jcrew keeps making long jeans.

DH is just a bit taller than me, but I had dated shorter guys before, I have no issues with that, but found that some men are not really into dating women who are taller and in better shape than they are. My ex is about 5''7.5 and we were fine with that, but he weighed more than me and I must say that there are some physical advantages to being with a guy who is shorter than you.

When an elderly female relative was dying a friend and I went to visit her. She wanted to know why I wasn''t seeing anyone (the person I was dating was not bring-home-able) so I told her it was hard to find a nice Jewish boy who is taller than me. She said something like, ''it doesn''t matter how tall you are once you lie down!'' Old age does give one perspective!

That''s great! I used to tell my family members the same thing when I was single--it *is* hard to find a nice Jewish boy who is taller than me. In the end I didn''t, so I suppose it didn''t matter, anyway.

DH and I have always weighed the same, or within five pounds of each other. It never bothered me at all, and my husband is only attracted to taller women, so it certainly never bothered him. After reading the responses about shorter men who had hangups about being shorter, I could definitely never date a shorter guy if he was insecure about it. As long as he''s secure and confident, though, it''s fine with me.

 

[Julianna]

Date: 1/11/2010 6:49:18 PM
Author: Haven

That''s great! I used to tell my family members the same thing when I was single--it *is* hard to find a nice Jewish boy who is taller than me. In the end I didn''t, so I suppose it didn''t matter, anyway.

DH and I have always weighed the same, or within five pounds of each other. It never bothered me at all, and my husband is only attracted to taller women, so it certainly never bothered him. After reading the responses about shorter men who had hangups about being shorter, I could definitely never date a shorter guy if he was insecure about it. As long as he''s secure and confident, though, it''s fine with me.

AHA!

Dating a shorter man doesn''t bother me, but if I weighed quite a bit more than him...now THAT would horrify me. HEE! I don''t mind being within 5-10 pounds, that''ll happen when both are athletic and slender and he''s shorter.

This does exclude pregnancies, of course.

This just applies to everyday walking-around weight.

 

[poshpepper]

I have never dated a man shorter than me (would be pretty difficult since I am only 5''4)... I don''t think I would have had a problem with it, but probably only within a few inches. I think it would be harder for me to find a man shorter than me

My friend in HS was 5''11 and she made a big deal out of the height of men that she dated. Her one long-term BF in HS was about half an inch shorter than her, and I think it always bothered her.