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pichuchy21

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So I am trying to plan for my really small wedding. I am getting July 3rd in St. Augustine at a B&B. I am going to have about 10 guests. The ceremony is going to be at the gazebo in the B&B and then we want to do dinner afterwards with our guests. My question is are my fiancee and I suppose to pay for everyone at dinner? Or how does that usually work?

Thanks for the input.
 
Date: 5/9/2008 9:05:28 AM
Author:pichuchy21
So I am trying to plan for my really small wedding. I am getting July 3rd in St. Augustine at a B&B. I am going to have about 10 guests. The ceremony is going to be at the gazebo in the B&B and then we want to do dinner afterwards with our guests. My question is are my fiancee and I suppose to pay for everyone at dinner? Or how does that usually work?

Thanks for the input.
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I would say yes, you should pay for dinner. It''s like a reception, just held at a restaurant.
 
Ok. Thanks for your reply.
 
I agree, you should be paying for everyone''s dinners. If you need help finding a venue for dinner let me know! St. Augustine is my second home :)
 
dragonfly411-have you ever stayed at the cedarhouse inn? That is where I will be having my wedding. I would love to have you help me with dinner ideas...I have never been to St. Augustine so really don''t know much. Thank You so much
 
Yes, you pay for the dinner, cake - the food and drink at the reception. But, you dont pay for their accommodations (I think you asked about that before, didn''t you?). I''m happy for you that you found a way to have a nice little wedding, good for you! What about your dress???
 
Surfgirl- I did ask this question before, but I dont think it was answered. Only the part about their stay accomedations was answered, but thank you. I just want to make sure we do this the right way. I really am trying to keep it under 10 guests only my closest friends will get an invite, but I wonder if I am being rude because for example one of my friends asked me if she can bring her boyfriend (who I''ve never met) and I told her I would have to think about it because its suppose to be a very private ceremony. I really only want to celebrate my big day with my dearest friends not their stranger of a boyfriend. Am I being mean? I feel like I am. I am driving to Jacksonville this weekend for the dress. I really want something simple. Hopefully I am able to find something.
 
You''re not being mean. Just tell people exactly what you just said, only people YOU have a close relationship with are being invited and it is a VERY small wedding. Period.
 
I haven''t stayed in the Cedarhouse, but I toured it and it is lovely! There are many great options for eating. Bear with me a bit and I''ll get some information for the different numbers and places :)
 
I agree that you have to foot the tab for dinner, but not accommodation, and I agree that you can definitely get away with telling your friend she can''t bring her bf, given there''s only 10 people invited.

Have fun!
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Okay
There is Amici Italian which is a bit more dressy than most of the restaurants there. The number is 904-461-0102 - I haven''t eaten a ton there, but they are good!

Opus 39 is in downtown St. Augustine. Their tasting menu changes regularly so you might call them to see what they might be able to work for you. 904-824-0402

Or there is 95 Cordova. I''ve never been here but they are listed under the directories for fine dining and are supposed to be very good. 904-810- 6810

While you are there, make sure to go to the ice cream and chocolatier RIGHT NEXT TO THE OLD CITY GATE. The city Gate entrance is in old downtown, across from the fort and next to the grave yard. They have THE BEST Toasted Coconut Ice Cream ever.

Other thoughts if you aren''t wanting to do a bigger or finer dining dinner would be the following :
Salt Water Cowboys - not quite fancy, not quite casual, very southern sea food cooking, right on the inter-coastal waterway, going back towards Crescent Beach. They don''t have call ahead though.
The Conch House - They''ve actually turned a bit nicer here lately, and they have great seafood!
OR there is an old pub style restaurant that is near the water. I''m not sure how to explain where it is other than to say if you come over the bridge coming from the light house and turn left it is the restaurant that sits on the fork of the road. I''ll get the name tonight I promise. Great food and at night they light up the terrace outside with the outside tables. Somewhat romantic.

Make sure to tour the oldest U.S. City whilst you are there pls just to make me happy?!
 
dragonfly411-I am going to St. Augustine tommorow with my fiancee and I going to mapquest these places and go see them. Thank You so much for your recomendations. I really just want this day to be memorable. I love coconut icecream so we will defenitely be checking out that spot. Thanks
 
Hmmmm, unless you are limiting guests bringing a date due to budget concerns I think that it is a bit mean to expect everyone to be dateless. If you can''t afford it, then that''s another matter.
 
well i''ve given this much thought and really I don''t think I am being mean. My friend that I am inviting that is married is bringing her husband and that is ok with me because I am friends with both of them. My friend who wants to bring her boyfriend I am not ok with because I don''t know him and personally don''t want to celebrate with a complete stranger. Plus its not like she is going to be alone out of the 10 people who are coming she knows 8 of them because we all went to elementary school together. Also I don''t have the funds to allow my guests to bring people. The inn allows me to have 10 guests at the ceremony. I''m really not to worried about it anymore if she can''t come without her boyfriend then I rather she not come. I know it sounds mean, but she knows my situation and if I allow her to do it I would have to allow all my other guests to do so as well
 
Date: 5/9/2008 12:31:00 PM
Author: surfgirl
You''re not being mean. Just tell people exactly what you just said, only people YOU have a close relationship with are being invited and it is a VERY small wedding. Period.
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Ditto! Everyone''s giving great advice! I am sure your wedding will be intimate and beautiful. :)
 

SarahLovesJS-Thank You. I really do hope it turns out beautiful. I agree everyone on here is so helpful.

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How was the trip to St. Aug?

The other recommendation that my mom had was Cap''s. I don''t know the details on it but she said it is right on the water somewhere... I''ve never been.

Good luck! Let me know what you guys end up with!
 
dragonfly411-The trip to St. Augustine was....a disaster! I really liked one inn and when we went to see it and person and possibly reserve the prices were way different than what it said online. So we decided that place wouldn''t work because it was so expensive. We stareted checking out other inns that had wedding packages and really didn''t find one that was as nice. I was a bit sad on Saturday after the trip, but I''m over it know and looking for a plan B. I am going to see the Historic Thomas Center here in Gainesville tommorow. I heard their garden weddings turn out really nice and it is well within our budget. Hubby and I were planning on having the ceremony there (hopefully) and then going out to dinner here in town with out guests. Gainesville doesn''t have many nice places for food being that its a college town and all, but we will figure something out. Thank you so much for your help on the restaurants.
 
I''m sorry your original location didn''t work out but I''m sure you''ll be able to find something else.

I think it''s wonderful that you''re having a small wedding with only your nearest and dearest present. Your wedding will surely be extremely meaningful and special.

Good luck with your planning!
 
Thanks Haven. My fiance and I reserved at the Thomas Center here in gainesville this morning. It is very nice there and it will not be putting a hole in our wallets. I am just unsure as to what spot I want to use. They have the turtle court which is one of their small gardens. They have a huge oak tree that you can get married under and the also have the fountain. We will be having a 6pm wedding. I really liked the small garden because it is more private compared to the other spots. Hopefully we will be making a decision by the end of the week.
 
Pichuchy - I didn''t know you were in Gainesville! I live here too! How funny!!!! My friends did their wedding at the Thomas Center in the Gardens .... I want to say in March two years ago? It was really pretty. The flowers were very nice and they did it right at sunset in front of the fountain. They did the reception inside, which varies from your plan a bit but it is definitely good venue. Did you check at the state park just south of St. Augustine on A1A? They have really pretty gardens as well if you still wanted to try over there. I''m sorry to hear that it didn''t work well going over there
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But there are some great areas in Gainesville that might work well! Kanapaha Gardens has a beautiful area in the front by the ponds with a Gazebo at the crest of a moderate hill that is beautiful, or the field by the butterfly garden where they have the bands play in the spring arts festival (maybe do the actual altar inside that gazebo building, just at the top of the stairs). The Thomas Center really is a beautiful choice as well. Dinner wise if you did it here in town, Mildred''s. I cannot stress it enough. Amazing food, they''d probably find a way to reserver a certain area for you for the evening, great wine selections as well! I''ve been there a few times and it is some of the best dining in town! Let me know how everything goes!
I''ve been trying to get in the area ideas for in the future for me (silly me considering he is still saving for the ring
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.) So I always keep those little romantic places I see in the back of my mind. We also looked at the park outside of Marjorie Keenan Rawlings'' house in Cross Creek. GORGEOUS open area with huge oak trees, and then you could do dinner at the Yearling, but that depends on what kind of wedding you would want, and if they could close the boat ramp during the ceremony, otherwise it''d be too loud.
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Dragonfly-Thats so neat that you are here in Gainesville too. I really liked the Thomas Center its really pretty. I didnt inquire about having the reception there maybe I should see what the prices are like. We had looked at Kanapaha at first, but they are closed on Thursday and that is the day we are planning on having the wedding. I will ook into Mildred''s as well. My fiancee really liked Harry''s. I know they are pretty casual, but the food is great. They have a pretty good fixed menu where you pick 4 different entrees. Now I am just in the process of getting quotes from different photographers. We only need an hour of coverage so hopefully we find someone who offers that.
 
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