Class n Sass
- Jan 14, 2007
I''m new to this forum and am not married but will probably be getting engaged sometime this year(by the end of the summer). I love my boyfriend to death but I worry how we will work out when it comes to money once we are married. I grew up as a single child that pretty much got whatever I wanted within reason. My parents were not wealthy people by any means but I always had nice things and still do. My boyfriend grew up as one of 5 children raised by a single parent and was not accustomed to getting what I did so his values are slightly different. We have similar long term financial goals and our short terms goals are pretty similar as well, but when it comes to material possessions we are different. He''s content with going shopping at Old Navy and I am more of a Nordstrom/Bloomingdales girl. Like many women I love shoes and have a huge collection in different colors, types, heels etc. I simply love shopping. For example he doesn''t understand why I need 4+ pairs of black sandals. I can slow down with my shopping when we are saving to buy our first home etc. but I''m not willing to compromise on the types of things I buy. These things are not important to him but they are to me. He loves the way I look and is always paying me compliments, but I know he is not comfortable with the price tags. We both want to marry one another in spite of these differences. I don''t want to be the type of wife that is hiding purchases. I go to work everyday just like he does and will contribute just as much as he does; therfore, I think I should still have my shopping freedom without getting looks and questions. I am not irresponsible. My bills are always paid on time(usually paid early), I contribut a significant amount of money to my jobs retirement savings plan and I still save on the side. I live at home and am taking full advantage of it while I can, because I know marriage is a sacrifice and somethings you may be forced to compromise on. Has anyone else gone through this? If so how did you handle it and what was the outcome? Click on this link for an article from the NY Times today. It talks about this.