Did your parents ever mistakenly assume you like something you don''t?

[Sabine]

And if so, did you correct them on it? And if so, when?

I''m always up front with my own parents about what I like/don''t like. But dh isn''t with his. So his parents often get us stuff (usually food) that we end up throwing out because neither of us like it, but he never tells them that, so they get us the same stuff each year. Examples would be that although dh LOVES reese''s peanut butter cups, they send him these chocolate and peanut butter candies from the gourmet candy store in town for Easter each year, and neither of us eat them.

It''s not stuff that is terribly expensive, but it''s still a waste. It''s been going on for years now though, so at this point, would you tell them you don''t really like what they''ve been sending you for years, or just let it go?

 

[jewelz617]

My mom always makes steak when I come over. I don''t know what gave her the impression I like steak, but I don''t at all! I never say anything.

My aunt always buys my daughter those baby headbands. They are scratchy and she always pulls them off the second they are on her head, but I just say thanks and let it go. No biggie!

 

[elrohwen]

My own family is very open about what we like and don't like. We're also fine returning stuff and my mom usually tapes the receipts to whatever she buys me or my dad. Haha. She often buys me clothes that I don't like, but she knows we have fairly different tastes and is ok with me returning them to get something else. She just doesn't want to get me gift certificates all the time so she at least tries to buy something she thinks I'll wear.

I think DH is much less likely to do this with his mom. She can take things personally and get her feelings hurt, so we tend to just tell her we love everything

 

[iheartscience]

Ha, no, I''m probably overly honest with them. But for some reason my mom thought my older brother liked those cookie cakes that are giant chocolate chip cookies. So for years she would get him those for his birthday and he never said anything! It was so funny!

 

[Amethyste]

When my parents were alive ( they died a while back while I was young ), for my birthday and such, they always gave me something
pink. I do not like pink that much, but I never said anything. Until one day, my dad got me a pink steering wheel cover, you know the furry ones? I put it on my car, to make him happy... But I was trying to find a way to take it off without him knowing or hurt his feeling. I went on a trip and parked my car at the airport. When I came back, my car was gone ( stolen ). So that kinda took care of the problem. hehe.

When I did my insurance claim - they asked me if something inside of my car was of value... YES! MY PINK FURRY STEERING WHEEL COVER! HEHE...

 

[yssie]

FI is very honest with his.. me, not so much. My mum especially often buys little things in styles, foods, tastes that I liked when I was younger, and I just don''t have the heart to tell her that her only little girl has changed without her there to see it - and that''s how she sees it, though she tries to hide that she''s hurt. Big-ticket items I''ll say what I think - I think my honesty-pricepoint is around 40-50$

 

[Cind11]

Not so much my parents, but my DH frequently thinks my daughters'' like such and such a food when they don''t at all. He will say "Jennifer likes XXX food so let''s have that for dinner". I will tell him "Jennifer doesn''t really care for that at all" and sure enough she doesn''t. It''s quite comical because they are 17 and 15 so you would think he would know their tastes a bit better.

 

[luv2sparkle]

My kids often buy me stuff I don''t like. So do DH parents. Actually, DH has bought me stuff I don''t like. That probably bugs me the most. I figure after almost 30 years, he should know what I like. Most other

family probably wouldn''t notice. I would just say thank you and then do what I want with it, if they wouldn''t be aware of it.

 

[Haven]

My parents know what I like.

My grandmother, however, sent me Godiva chocolates every year for Valentine''s day for as long as I can remember. I hate dark chocolate, and that''s what she often sent.
I never told her anything other than "Thank you very much for the delicious gift" in the thank you notes that I sent. It just didn''t seem like a big enough deal to tell her that I don''t like dark chocolate. Once I met DH it wasn''t a problem anymore--he loves dark chocolate, so he always ate my Valentine''s chocolate for me.

 

[zoebartlett]

I''m sure it''s happened, but I can''t think of anything right now. Every Christmas though, as my mom is handing us our gifts, she always tells us that whatever she has gotten us is returnable. So I guess she assumes the opposite -- that we won''t like what she gives us. I usually do end up exchanging clothes because she always gets my size wrong.

 

[ladypirate]

My parents are more likely to assume I don''t like something that I actually do--for years my mom insisted I hated tiramisu, which is one of my favorite desserts. Weird.

 

[missy]

I am very (maybe too) honest with my family about what I like and what I don''t like. My parents, sister and dh know my tastes very well.

In fact, I can think of an occasion where maybe I was too honest. My dh gave me a necklace from Saks that just wasn''t me. It was his wedding gift to me and he saw the minute he gave it to me that I didn''t like (hated) it. I did feel badly about that but I am unable to lie (not even a white lie) as it always always shows on my face.

I hate that about myself. I wish I could have more of a poker face as it would make life somewhat easier though I do prefer honesty as a general rule. But for certain situations it would save some hurt feelings. In any case, he insisted on exchanging it for another necklace which I still love to this day. So all''s well that ends well.

 

[PumpkinPie]

yes - both my parents do this - they often mix me up with my sister, or just don''t listen.
My husband knows me really well and doesn''t ever do this

 

[phoenixgirl]

It seemed like my parents were always a few years behind on my likes/hobbies as a kid . . . like I kept getting Star Trek paraphernalia when I had grown too old to play with that kind of thing (oh, great, a fake tricorder and a poster of Captain Picard . . . the other 8th graders will be really impressed). And my mom to this day believes I don''t like seafood or vegetables or salad, even though every time we''re together I correct her and tell her that I haven''t been a picky eater for years and that the only food I really don''t like is cucumbers.

The funny thing is that a couple of months ago, DH announced excitedly that he had ordered us a different kind of sushi than we normally get, and it was full of cucumber, ick. I was like, come on, you couldn''t remember the one thing I don''t like to eat?

 

[monarch64]

I''m another who is very honest with family and friends about what I like/dislike. However, no matter how many times I tell my father NOT to buy me Valentine''s Day candy, he always does. He loves to get me those giant heart-shaped boxes of v-day candies from the drugstore and a gigantic card to match.

It''s very sweet, and I really have no business asking him to stop doing something that obviously brings him great pleasure, so I bring the chocolates to work every year and just deal. Bless his heart.

 

[radiantquest]

I didnt even read. I may have to edit after, but the first thing that came to mind was um...YES! Quite often actually. I usually just say thank you and go on. I do tell my MIL because if I dont like it she will and she will just give me what she spent on it and keep it for herself. Everyone else I just keep and never use. It is sad, but DH is the worst. Unless it is jewelry he is always wrong about what I like. He tries and you can tell what he picked is good quality, just not my taste.