Diamond Reset?

[Cehrabehra]

There are elements of the ring I have that I truly love and I''ve thought about going the custom route again to try to fix some of the issues, but I just don''t know if I have it in me at this point. I can still envision exactly what I want, but I don''t think I''m a skilled enough communicator to risk it. Not any time soon anyway and I really don''t want to throw another five grand at an attempt right now.

So I''ve been thinking of resetting it for my 20th in 2 years when we get back from China... but I found a setting I really like so now I''m kinda itching to pull the trigger but I want to think this through with the ladies I trust in this dept.

What do you think?

a) should leave my ring as is, put it in a safety box for a couple years and reset it when I return (I''m not totally confident with taking the stone overseas)
b) should I go for it and have it set in this setting below which is not 100% perfect but really close and it''s not custom and it has the basic elements I want in a ring
c) does anyone have any other suggestions?

I just can NOT spend a lot of money on this right now. Lots of stuff going on IRL that should demand my fiscal attention during this travel time... but I do have the money to spend if I choose to.

If I cannot have the reality of my ''dream'' ring, I would like something exceedingly simple with very fluid curvy lines - an absolute minimum of obstruction on all 4 sides to let light in. Unless I get my stone recut, it is what it is and I need to embrace that. I

loved

my diamond before it was set but it just isn''t happy where it is. It needs more light to do its special kind of magic.

I have a bit of consumer guilt taking such a large stone to a country with so much poverty - it feels like I would be rubbing their noses in it and I don''t want to make anyone feel bad OR make them think it''s okay to try to take advantage of me because I have so much money (which is only true relative to their local economy). But at the same time, I got the diamond for ME and ME only - not to show off, and I miss the relationship I had with it before it was set.

Do you think this setting would be sturdy enough? I know there are risks with just 4 prongs... and this is a pretty thin ring. But I do like it a lot

I don''t like most 4 prong settings as they tend to cling to the diamond too much - I really loved kristy darling''s ring because it had so much ''air'' around it, but I would need thicker prongs to avoid the issues she had with it. Got any suggestions or do you think this one would work?

 

[AprilBaby]

If you are going to put it away for two years anyways, I would save up the money and get it reset in 2 years because something better might come along.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 10/30/2009 4:50:00 PM
Author: AprilBaby
If you are going to put it away for two years anyways, I would save up the money and get it reset in 2 years because something better might come along.

For clarification - if I reset it now I would wear it pretty much every day starting the moment I got it lol

 

[Circe]

I think your reasons for not wanting to wear a v. pricey ring in a developing nation (don''t know quite where you''re going, but it''s the impression I''m getting) are very sound. I''d put it in a safety deposit box while you''re traveling either way ... and I''d also take the time to figure out what would be *perfect* for the stone. Pop it out of its setting, set the existing ring with a beautiful (gorgeous, less recognizable as really expensive right off the bat) stone, wear the hell out of that and just give yourself TIME to scope out your feelings.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 10/30/2009 5:12:00 PM
Author: Circe
I think your reasons for not wanting to wear a v. pricey ring in a developing nation (don''t know quite where you''re going, but it''s the impression I''m getting) are very sound. I''d put it in a safety deposit box while you''re traveling either way ... and I''d also take the time to figure out what would be *perfect* for the stone. Pop it out of its setting, set the existing ring with a beautiful (gorgeous, less recognizable as really expensive right off the bat) stone, wear the hell out of that and just give yourself TIME to scope out your feelings.

I do plan to put an emerald in the existing ring... I''m moving to China. I''ve been there and where I''m going I don''t worry at all about being mugged or anything for it. They have some problems with pickpocketing, but good luck sneaking a ring off my fat fingers! It is really a social compassion issue, but if I bring it I could at least wear it around the house, my precious... ::pet::

 

[Kaleigh]

Part of me says got for it. It''s a lovely setting. Can''t go worng, but another part of me says, put the ring away and rethink this once you come back. Who knows what will fill your fancy by then.... ? Best of luck in deciding. Sorry I can''t be of more help.

 

[decodelighted]

Do it. Life is short. You want to enjoy the stone for the next two years rather than dream about how it *will* be in some future setting.

 

[Lynn B]

To me, Sara, it''s a no-brainer. Reset it and wear it with pride when you move.

I think that setting you posted above is absolutely GORGEOUS, and I think your stone would really shine in it.

It may not be your *DREAM OF ALL DREAMS* ring... but you aren''t even really sure you can effectively verbalize/communicate exactly what *that* is... so why cling to that, at least for now? It''s just an intangible vision at this point. You can revisit it in the future if you want to. BUT in the meantime, I think your stone in that setting would be beautiful and make you VERY happy. Also, there would be no surprises, and that (I would think) would feel very freeing and refreshing.

And who knows... you may just find that it turns into your dream ring afterall.

 

[decodelighted]

You also asked for other suggestions too ... so ...

Here is one

But honestly I think the Boston Jeff Leon would be amazing. Not sure how that is budget-wise. Or what the Pearlmans ring costs. If *I* was picking for you I'd give you a bit more height than your Pearlmans selection. ... a push-up bra if you will to vault that stone up towards the SKY. Not toppling, whack on stuff high ... but a bit of a lift, out of respect for the stone's unique charms yanno?

 

[junebug17]

Date: 10/30/2009 9:10:30 PM
Author: decodelighted
Do it. Life is short. You want to enjoy the stone for the next two years rather than dream about how it *will* be in some future setting.

I totally agree with this! I''m coming up on 50, and "life is short" is my new mantra!

 

[junebug17]

Date: 10/30/2009 9:53:30 PM
Author: Lynn B
To me, Sara, it''s a no-brainer. Reset it and wear it with pride when you move.

I think that setting you posted above is absolutely GORGEOUS, and I think your stone would really shine in it.

It may not be your *DREAM OF ALL DREAMS* ring... but you aren''t even really sure you can effectively verbalize/communicate exactly what *that* is... so why cling to that, at least for now? It''s just an intangible vision at this point. You can revisit it in the future if you want to. BUT in the meantime, I think your stone in that setting would be beautiful and make you VERY happy. Also, there would be no surprises, and that (I would think) would feel very freeing and refreshing.

And who knows... you may just find that it turns into your dream ring afterall.

I agree with this too!

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 10/30/2009 9:00:54 PM
Author: Kaleigh
Part of me says got for it. It''s a lovely setting. Can''t go worng, but another part of me says, put the ring away and rethink this once you come back. Who knows what will fill your fancy by then.... ? Best of luck in deciding. Sorry I can''t be of more help.

do you really like the setting? I like it more and more, in fact have been even thinking I may be able to live with it for a lifetime... if my diamond doesn''t like THAT setting then I''ll get the stone recut at some point and possibly still be able to use it.

And you''re right - who knows what my fancy will be in 2 years and maybe I''ll get another one lol but don''t tell my husband

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 10/30/2009 9:10:30 PM
Author: decodelighted
Do it. Life is short. You want to enjoy the stone for the next two years rather than dream about how it *will* be in some future setting.

Like a purple house?

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 10/30/2009 9:53:30 PM
Author: Lynn B
To me, Sara, it''s a no-brainer. Reset it and wear it with pride when you move.

I think that setting you posted above is absolutely GORGEOUS, and I think your stone would really shine in it.

It may not be your *DREAM OF ALL DREAMS* ring... but you aren''t even really sure you can effectively verbalize/communicate exactly what *that* is... so why cling to that, at least for now? It''s just an intangible vision at this point. You can revisit it in the future if you want to. BUT in the meantime, I think your stone in that setting would be beautiful and make you VERY happy. Also, there would be no surprises, and that (I would think) would feel very freeing and refreshing.

And who knows... you may just find that it turns into your dream ring afterall.

Lynn, do you think the stone will look TOO top heavy? That stone is a 1 carat (so about what, 6.7mm?) and my stone is 9.6 long. I''ve been talking to Bill (he is just the coolest guy ever) and he said it will work, technically. What do you think visually? I wish I could photoshop worth a damn lol

 

[E B]

I love the clean, flowing lines of that Sholdt. Thumbs up!

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 10/30/2009 10:11:39 PM
Author: decodelighted
You also asked for other suggestions too ... so ...

Here is one

But honestly I think the Boston Jeff Leon would be amazing. Not sure how that is budget-wise. Or what the Pearlmans ring costs. If *I* was picking for you I''d give you a bit more height than your Pearlmans selection. ... a push-up bra if you will to vault that stone up towards the SKY. Not toppling, whack on stuff high ... but a bit of a lift, out of respect for the stone''s unique charms yanno?

You know, I always liked that vatche setting like that one but I really want to avoid the metal support (or decorative) bars across the pavillion of the stone. There are two issues with the setting I have - the top down 3 band look I wanted isn''t there but I fluctuate on that back and forth... but the worse issue is that the sides of the trench the diamond sits in are just too high and those two big facets to either side just don''t get any light and while most diamonds return light from the top - this stone had the magical quality of pulling colors from the room and thrusting them up the top - now it just reflects a mirror/metal color and it''s really boring and no variety. So I want the stone as naked as possible. I am open to other settings, I haven''t found many that really leave the stone naked, but I thought this one did it really well.

On the boston jeff - I can''t work with mege lol no f*ing way.

I like your point about having the stone a bit higher - I wonder if there is any control to how high or low the stone can be set...

This setting also hinges on the missing side view... I have searched all over the internet and pricescope and someone here had the same ring with melee but she never showed the view from along the band. I hope it''s not a hidden eyesore. I''m not at ALL fond of that view on my ring. I think it''s... not pretty.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 10/30/2009 9:53:30 PM
Author: Lynn B
And who knows... you may just find that it turns into your dream ring afterall.

I don''t know if there is one dream ring anymore... I do have a vision in my head but there are so many different types of rings to love!

 

[decodelighted]

EXACTLY like a purple house. How did you know? Re: Boston Jeff ... ask BGD to spec out a *version* of that ring -- with whatever side profile you wish. Tweak just enough to make it "yours". And then reeeeeealllllaxxxxx. Or go with the one from Pearlmans. Whichever way seems to sing to you. The stone is meant to be worn & enjoyed & there''s a whole world of light for it to reflect, um, on the other side of the world. Don''t put it in time out for 2 yrs.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 10/31/2009 3:26:06 PM
Author: decodelighted
EXACTLY like a purple house. How did you know? Re: Boston Jeff ... ask BGD to spec out a *version* of that ring -- with whatever side profile you wish. Tweak just enough to make it ''yours''. And then reeeeeealllllaxxxxx. Or go with the one from Pearlmans. Whichever way seems to sing to you. The stone is meant to be worn & enjoyed & there''s a whole world of light for it to reflect, um, on the other side of the world. Don''t put it in time out for 2 yrs.

Yeah - I didn''t wear my ring in Ireland. I didn''t insure it there so I just kept it at home and would pet it occasionally. It was nice when I got home and could wear it all the time again, but it emphasized the problems.

BG does amazing work but I just don''t have anything custom in me right now - if I were to go custom I really would wait until I came back from China, I''m really short on time now.

I''m getting excited to wear my purple house on my finger...

 

[D&T]

I'm in the boat that says do it, coming from someone who has reset her upgrade diamond ring four times in one year. I would rather enjoy my diamond than keep it locked away.

even if it means that I *might* reset it again in two years. BTW- my last reset, is not custom at all, its a setting that I found on a site, and just bought through them (awaiting for it to be back with me next week- hopefully) I have had two custom, and two non custom now. Hope this is it

for me. Sara- enjoy your diamond - reset it with that sholdt - it doesn't seem like you are breaking the bank, so I say do it!

 

[swingirl]

I think you have so many things going on right now it''s hard to concentrate on the ring. Put it away and when you are ready to tackle the project you''ll have a clearer mind. No point in spending money on it and then feeling guilty wearing it. It is quite large even by US standards.

 

[Kaleigh]

Cehra,
I do really love this setting. One question, if you don''t reset it, and leave the ring behind, won''t you miss it?? 2 years is a long time, well to me anyways...

 

[geckodani]

Date: 10/31/2009 4:04:37 PM
Author: Kaleigh
Cehra,
I do really love this setting. One question, if you don''t reset it, and leave the ring behind, won''t you miss it?? 2 years is a long time, well to me anyways...

Exactly what I was thinking.

I think that setting is fantasticly elegant as well!

 

[chelsea3]

Cehrabehra: I really like the setting you picked out and really like the open sides. If you want to look at other settings that do not have the bar or seating ring under the girdle, check out the settings by Scott Kay. I also think that you should reset your diamond and enjoy it!

 

[Lynn B]

Date: 10/31/2009 2:49:42 PM
Author: Cehrabehra

Lynn, do you think the stone will look TOO top heavy? That stone is a 1 carat (so about what, 6.7mm?) and my stone is 9.6 long. I''ve been talking to Bill (he is just the coolest guy ever) and he said it will work, technically. What do you think visually? I wish I could photoshop worth a damn lol

Sara,

I think your stone would be even MORE gorgeous in that setting than the ~1 carater pictured. I truly do. I think it would look simply FABULOUS.

My new thinking regarding settings is "less is more". I am LOVING the simple, sleek, classic look of allowing one beautiful, fantastic diamond to "steal the show". I am currently resetting my stone into a simple bezel solitaire and am so excited I can barely stand it.

Find a setting you really, really like (*as is*) - like the one above - and go for it. I truly think it would be a shame and a waste to lock up your diamond for two long years.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 10/31/2009 7:43:27 PM
Author: Lynn B

Date: 10/31/2009 2:49:42 PM

Author: Cehrabehra


Lynn, do you think the stone will look TOO top heavy? That stone is a 1 carat (so about what, 6.7mm?) and my stone is 9.6 long. I''ve been talking to Bill (he is just the coolest guy ever) and he said it will work, technically. What do you think visually? I wish I could photoshop worth a damn lol

Sara,


I think your stone would be even MORE gorgeous in that setting than the ~1 carater pictured. I truly do. I think it would look simply FABULOUS.


My new thinking regarding settings is ''less is more''. I am LOVING the simple, sleek, classic look of allowing one beautiful, fantastic diamond to ''steal the show''. I am currently resetting my stone into a simple bezel solitaire and am so excited I can barely stand it.


Find a setting you really, really like (*as is*) - like the one above - and go for it. I truly think it would be a shame and a waste to lock up your diamond for two long years.

I am really excited about your ring - I have liked bezels for rounds since the 3 hearts days with the alien ring - and actually even before I saw that with that one very thin bezel ring by phillip schmidt. My stone would be soooo unhappy in one though - but the thought of how dang protected the diamond would be in there - it would be so liberating! My stone is pretty well protected right now as well. Less so in the setting above, but oh well! Life is short

 

[Lynn B]

Date: 10/31/2009 7:47:50 PM
Author: Cehrabehra


I am really excited about your ring - I have liked bezels for rounds since the 3 hearts days with the alien ring - and actually even before I saw that with that one very thin bezel ring by phillip schmidt. My stone would be soooo unhappy in one though - but the thought of how dang protected the diamond would be in there - it would be so liberating! My stone is pretty well protected right now as well. Less so in the setting above, but oh well! Life is short

Thank you for the words of encouragement on my reset! I am so happy to be working with BGD on this, but yes, you are right... custom is somewhat stressful and *uncertain* and I can understand why you don''t want to choose that route right now.

Oh... just to clarify something, though... I am not suggesting a bezel for your cushion. I am 100% behind the setting you posted first, and I think it would be simply beautiful with your lovely stone in it. I hope you go for it and wear it with happiness in China.

 

[Phoenix]

Date: 10/31/2009 5:07:14 PM
Author: geckodani

Date: 10/31/2009 4:04:37 PM
Author: Kaleigh
Cehra,
I do really love this setting. One question, if you don't reset it, and leave the ring behind, won't you miss it?? 2 years is a long time, well to me anyways...

Exactly what I was thinking.

I think that setting is fantasticly elegant as well!

I love that setting too. I'd say have it reset. Two years ARE a long time not to wear it.

Btw, was it Dalian that you lived in before you moved to Ireland? Are you going back there or somewhere else? I'm curious because you mentioned there's no safety issue with wearing your diamond in China. You may know that I'm currently in SH and am still trying to figure out whether it's safe to wear my diamonds here. Sorry for the t/jack.

 

[Cehrabehra]

Date: 11/1/2009 12:49:18 AM
Author: Phoenix

Date: 10/31/2009 5:07:14 PM

Author: geckodani

Date: 10/31/2009 4:04:37 PM

Author: Kaleigh

Cehra,

I do really love this setting. One question, if you don''t reset it, and leave the ring behind, won''t you miss it?? 2 years is a long time, well to me anyways...

Exactly what I was thinking.

I think that setting is fantasticly elegant as well!

I love that setting too. I''d say have it reset. Two years ARE a long time not to wear it.


Btw, was it Dalian that you lived in before you moved to Ireland? Are you going back there or somewhere else? I''m curious because you mentioned there''s no safety issue with wearing your diamond in China. You may know that I''m currently in SH and am still trying to figure out whether it''s safe to wear my diamonds here. Sorry for the t/jack.

I lived in the states prior to moving to ireland and I''m back in the states for just six months (leaving for china jan3). And yes, we''re moving to Dalian! I was told that there are petty thefts, pickpockets, ayis who will steal what is laying around but violent crime is very low like muggings, so if the ring is on my finger the odds of it being taken from me are very low, but if I leave it in a jewelry box or in my purse it isn''t as safe. If SH stands for shanghai I can''t speak for there, just Dalian which is a much smaller city, relatively. And no, I didn''t know you moved over there! how long are you there for? Are you enjoying it? And heck no problem about a t/jack lol I''ve never seen the big deal about it - GOOD conversations flow and shift and I''m cool with that

 

[Phoenix]

Date: 11/1/2009 1:27:23 AM
Author: Cehrabehra

Date: 11/1/2009 12:49:18 AM
Author: Phoenix

Date: 10/31/2009 5:07:14 PM

Author: geckodani

Date: 10/31/2009 4:04:37 PM

Author: Kaleigh

Cehra,

I do really love this setting. One question, if you don't reset it, and leave the ring behind, won't you miss it?? 2 years is a long time, well to me anyways...

Exactly what I was thinking.

I think that setting is fantasticly elegant as well!

I love that setting too. I'd say have it reset. Two years ARE a long time not to wear it.


Btw, was it Dalian that you lived in before you moved to Ireland? Are you going back there or somewhere else? I'm curious because you mentioned there's no safety issue with wearing your diamond in China. You may know that I'm currently in SH and am still trying to figure out whether it's safe to wear my diamonds here. Sorry for the t/jack.

I lived in the states prior to moving to ireland and I'm back in the states for just six months (leaving for china jan3). And yes, we're moving to Dalian! I was told that there are petty thefts, pickpockets, ayis who will steal what is laying around but violent crime is very low like muggings, so if the ring is on my finger the odds of it being taken from me are very low, but if I leave it in a jewelry box or in my purse it isn't as safe. If SH stands for shanghai I can't speak for there, just Dalian which is a much smaller city, relatively. And no, I didn't know you moved over there! how long are you there for? Are you enjoying it? And heck no problem about a t/jack lol I've never seen the big deal about it - GOOD conversations flow and shift and I'm cool with that

Ha ha, thank you, Sara. That's very cool of you.

Thanks for your reply. Yes, we moved to Shanghai less than five months ago (or rather I moved there five mnths ago, hubby had already moved up). It's fine, it's a HUGE culture shock (you'll see what I mean!

), but I try to find positive things, things that I like rather than focus on the negatives. I'm sloooooowwwly picking up Mandarin. Are you planning to learn Chinese whilst you're there?

It's great you lived in Ireland! That's my DH's dream, to live there for a while or at least to visit, since his ancestors came from Ireland.

Can't wait to see what you decide with the setting!