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JSRNM

JSRNM

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HI Everyone,
I am trying to decide between a diamond bezel pendent or diamond studs for our daughter''s 16th birthday. Which would you do? Also please add what you have bought for your daughters at what age.

So far my daughter has a sterling silver heart with a diamond chip from Tiffany''s, Christmas age 13. She will be receiving a silver Tiffany bow necklace necklace in two weeks for her birthday and also a silver Tiffany charm bracelet from her friend. We have another Tiffany silver necklace for Christmas. Her 16th is not for two more years but I feel diamond prices are better now then they will be then so I want to get it now and just put it in the vault.

Let me know what you vote for pendent or earrings.

Thanks.

(lets hope she never finds this board. LOL)
 
I''m bias because my mom gave me studs for my 16th b-day. They''re just under .50tcw. I''m now in my 30''s and had them reset last year from yellow gold into platinum. They''re not ideal cut, far from. But they''re white, bright and beautiful. I wear them all the time now.

Studs are classic. They can be worn with anything, on any occasion. You just can''t go wrong.
 
Elle, thank you.
What type of backs did they have? It is great that you did not loose them over all those years. Glad to hear you can still in enjoy them.
 
I''m not sure what they''re called.. threaded maybe? The weren''t smooth and I had to turn the posts to get them tight. When I had them re-set, I switched to friction. "I" think friction''s easier on the ears. But that''s just my experience.
 
I got my DD a 0.5ct diamond set in a platinum bezel as a pendant. (metal allergy) 21st birthday.
 
Elle, thanks, they sound like screw backs which might be good for our dd''s age.

swingirl- thanks
 
Sorry double post
 
I recieved a yg/amethyst ring and a wg cross for my First Communion, yg/cz earrings for my 16th. My diamond studs (.65 tcw) were for college graduation, which I still wear 5-6 days a week. That's 21 years now! They are in wg, with screw backs, which have never bothered me, other than initially getting used to having to "push" them in a little harder.

As for my daughters:
DD1 is 14. We gave her a yg/peridot cross for First Communion (8,) a Vera Wang (Kohl's) ss/peridot ring for middle school grad (13 1/2) and a ss/turquoise cross for Confirmation (14.) I wanted to get the conf. cross in wg, but couldn't find what I wanted, and the ss happened to be close, to that's what she got, and she wears it, so I'm happy. She also has a couple pairs of yg earrings given in recent years from the grands.
DD2 is 11. She has a yg cross from her baptism (baby,) a yg/opal for First Communion(8.) She's managed to lose her yg earrings, but luckily she can wear ss in her ears.

Editing to add: I nearly forgot that at 13, I inherited a (.35 ct.) diamond pendant in the classic setting, wg. I loved it, but was afraid to wear it. I think I first wore it at 18, for my prom. I didn't really wear it until after college, as it's a perfect match to my earrings. BUT, teens today are more into the bling than I was. Not that I didn't love it, but the idea of diamonds was too much for me then. Silly me! I think it's smart to start thinking about this now. Since my DD1 is the same age, maybe I should be, too!
 
Date: 10/25/2009 9:23:12 PM
Author:JSRNM
HI Everyone,
I am trying to decide between a diamond bezel pendent or diamond studs for our daughter''s 16th birthday. Which would you do? Also please add what you have bought for your daughters at what age.

So far my daughter has a sterling silver heart with a diamond chip from Tiffany''s, Christmas age 13. She will be receiving a silver Tiffany bow necklace necklace in two weeks for her birthday and also a silver Tiffany charm bracelet from her friend. We have another Tiffany silver necklace for Christmas. Her 16th is not for two more years but I feel diamond prices are better now then they will be then so I want to get it now and just put it in the vault.

Let me know what you vote for pendent or earrings.

Thanks.

(lets hope she never finds this board. LOL)
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Either would be lovely!
 
KaeKae - thank you. I realized last night that there are lots of things coming up. Middle school graduation-thinking a Topaz pendent and matching earrings. I have a topaz ring that I no longer like that I can use for the pendent and topaz studs- all blue. (it is our birth stone). Then there is 16, 18 and high school graduation. (not to mention college graduation but that is way too far off for me to think about). So 4 biggies in the next 4 years. So maybe I should get the studs and the pendent and then decide which one to give them to her for later.

I have 1.5 tcwt studs which are not very good quality. They are small for me. I thought about giving them to her but I think I would rather start her with better quality stones. Also, while they are small for me, I wonder if they are too big for her esp. at 16.

Lorelie- thanks you are probably right, can not go wrong with either.

Thanks for the hep
 
Wow, that is so special! What a lucky girl! Or should I say, little lady?

I would say diamond studs, depending on if you think she might lose them. Maybe you could get her the diamond pendant necklace with some inexpensive gemstone earrings as "training wheels" for the real thing later. She's getting so much Tiffany! She's going to love it!!!
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When I was 18, I received a diamond stud pendant from a relative but I would''ve preferred diamond studs. I just find the diamond studs slightly more versatile, and more discrete.
 
I''d go with the diamond studs. They go with everything and are noticeable all the time (as opposed to a diamond necklace, which may or may not show depending on what top she wears).
 
Bliss- thanks for the "training wheels" idea. I have some blue topaz studs which I will give her sometime this year. They will be good practice.
As for the TIffany items, we have Audrey Hepburn to thank for that. DD is a big Breakfast at Tiffany''s fan. I can not wait for her to read the book though as the movie is fun but the book is excellent. OK so I think Capote is one of the greatest writers of our time, but I diverge.

Gleam - thanks for sharing your experience

Allison -thanks. She has so many necklaces that maybe the earrings will be best.

Now I have to get her to put mine on so I can see what size. I am thinking 1ctw. What do you think? Are these too small? too big?

Thanks for all the help.
 
I think the most important questions for me would be-how careful is she with her jewelry? Has she lost any pieces? I bought my daughter pieces when she was
younger and she lost several of them. I just bought her last christmas some .25 each studs. She wanted small. She has lost a back, that I replaced but
so far so good. I would probably go with small studs rather than the larger ones. Give her something to work up too. Then if she wants larger for a 21st
or 25th birthday you could upgrade. It sounds like she has some beautiful pieces coming. I think she would appreciate them more as she gets older.
 
Not many votes for the pendant but I'll tell you my thinking. My daughter is a real fashionista. She changes earrings with every outfit and loves large hoops, long dangly things, and very sparkly bling and for the club. She also has long hair.

I figured with all the earring changes eventually one of the studs would be lost. That's why I picked a pendant over studs. For her 22nd birthday I got some diamond level backs which seem a little more secure than studs. But most people wear studs and don't loose them so I am probably nervous over nothing.

Your daughter is a lucky girl to receive such lovely jewelry!
 
Thank you all for the help so far. Keep them coming.

luv2sparkle-thanks. She is very good about her jewelry and luckily she has very rarely lost anything. When you mentioned smaller stones, I thought oh my we have .30 cwt diamond in white gold bezel that were my husbands. It has been so many years since he has worn them, I assume his wholes are closed. We could give her those for now, maybe even this year. And upgrade them when she is older.

swingirl- good point. I always wanted a diamond solitaire pendent and I thought she would enjoy one. Mother projecting on her daughter, better put money away for therapy too.
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I have a totally different question that I am not sure was asked. Has she ever showed any interest in having more than 1 hole in an ear? For me diamond studs are usually out of the question as a gift since what I wear are very small and only in my upper holes. I would personally rather a leverback drop or something like that instead of studs for earrings.

If it were me at 16 I would want the necklace instead of studs since they are such a personal preference. I might give her the earrings you were talking about as a test for her if she likes them. Then if she does maybe for graduation you can get her a lovely set.
 
cigwll- she asks for a second whole about once a week. LOL I keep saying no. If you do not mind me asking how old were you when you got your second whole? I used to wear my studs in my second whole but those wholes are long closed. I think the little .30cwt would be fine. I suffer from DSS when it comes to earrings (not so much with rings) so they seem so tiny to me but then my 1.5 cwt seem so small too.
 
I am always glad to share about my piercings/earrings. I did get my second hole when I was 15. It was a long drawn out battle with my mother. Unfortunately they did the holes too closely, so I felt the need to get the 3rd set to balance out when I was 17. I know this sounds like a lot but I have a total of 5 holes in each ear now (4th at 18 and 5th at 20). Since I hate cartilage piercings I stopped there. I currently wear 8 points tw in my 5th, 16 points tw in my 4th and 20 points in my third. I wear a small hoop in my 2nd and then I change out my front earrings very often! Right now I have some clear crytsals set in wg leverbacks. Just a classic look there.

If you think she will want the second holes, I might consider getting her about 1/2 ctw for the second holes for her 16th birthday and let her get her ears pierced then. That really might sound small but given what I have, I can tell you they will be a great size to be seen yet won''t over power anything she might wear in the first hole.

I remember the "fight" to get the second holes with my own mom like it was yesterday. And yeah I had a few more done after that, but to this day I do wear them all in a way that is neither gawdy nor tacky. Never got in my way of getting a job either. Those were all worries for my mom when she did discuss it with me.

And just so you know, the only studs I have lost were cheapy ones I wore while waiting to get the "real thing" for my ears. They are all just friction back and I sleep in them all the time. I only remove them to clean once a week or so.
 
I vote for the pendant, because I would prefer one larger stone that could eventually become a mate to another earring for good-sized studs as an adult vs. small studs she will outgrow as she gets older.

When I was 19 my parents gave me a diamond necklace - prong set in a bezel set on a chain (18k yg) w/ a .40 ct stone. I wore it a lot and got lots of compliments for many years.

My parents gave me matching (bezel set in YG) earrings (smaller than .40 per stone though) for Christmas a few years later and I rarely wore them as much because they seemed so small- I preferred to wear my necklace w/ gold hoops or large-ish pearl earrings I have.

I also inherited a ring w/ a 1 ct OEC- which I had reset into a halo set pendant a few years ago, so then the YG diamond necklace started gathering dust.
After having our daughter, I told my husband that I wanted diamond stud earrings and that I had one stone for him- and we took the YG necklace to the jeweler who did the WG halo pendant for us. Turns out it was an OEC in the necklace all along (which was odd, since it was in a modern style setting) so he sent it to NYC and we found the perfect match for it. Since my e-ring is not a solitaire, but has 3 stones on each side (like a clover almost) I decided I would like earrings w/ a similar design, and I fished another "childhood" piece out (16th b-day present from my gma) of the jewelry box- a ring w/ a ruby and 8 small but good quality diamonds in it. So now at age 33 my 19th b-day present and 16th b-day present are being up-cycled into earrings that I hopefully will be happy with for a long time!
 
Date: 10/25/2009 9:54:22 PM
Author: elle_chris
I''m not sure what they''re called.. threaded maybe? The weren''t smooth and I had to turn the posts to get them tight. When I had them re-set, I switched to friction. ''I'' think friction''s easier on the ears. But that''s just my experience.
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I have screw-back studs now and really want to reset them into friction backs. I hardly wear them since they take so long to put on, and they kind of pinch my ears.

JSRNM, I vote for the pendant. Harder to lose at that age (I wear mine all the time) than studs, and I like the idea of studs as an older gift (high school or college grad) since they''re just a classic piece for women to have, and for me, kind of signals transition to adulthood, you know?
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Wow everyone is so much help.
Here is my current idea. Give her DH little .30 tcw bezel studs for her birthday next week. (they are just sitting in a drawer- for years now). See what her reaction is and how she likes them. Start looking for a diamond for the pendent about 50-75 ct. While looking for the pendent see about larger studs. I want to trade in mine so that may be a starting point.

everyone''s helps is great. Also any suggestions are welcome-they can be completely different please do not feel limited to diamond studs or pendent. I realize there are many occasions coming up.

Just as a note my mom who passed away last spring left her e-ring and wedding band to my DD. It was my mother''s grandmother''s originally. I need to have it appraised. There are two MIne cut stones. It is very pretty and also needs to have the sizer taken out my mom was very small in the end of her life (physically not otherwise). I am keeping the rings in the vault as they make my dd nervous and she is too young to wear them.

Thanks again
 
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