diamond arrived, new problem

[namsori]

since everyone was so helpful with my las post, thought id put my new dilema out there...

so my boyfriend ordered the oval diamond from his uncle and his uncle told him he would sent him the best one for the size he wanted and the money, which was 1 ct, for 3k. when it arrived my bf found out it was d color, which he was pleased with, and SI1, which he was not pleased with. he called me and told me that he could see the inclusions only with the loop thing, but not with the naked eye, so i said if he cant see anything to just get it because it still seems like such a good deal.
so later that day i saw it, and it really was beautiful, great color (d), great proportions (length-8.02, width-6.01, table-55%, depth-58%, cant remember everything exactly) but the inclusions were right on the surface of the table, and not right away but after looking at a for a few minutes i was totally able to see the inclusions with my naked eye. im not such an expert so i dont know if its so bad, but they did look like a lot of black tiny dots on one side of the oval.

now, the question is if i should say anything. im not even really sure if he would be able to return it but i dont want to ask, because then hes gonna think im not happy with it and i am, but i also want to make sure hes getting the best deal he can. i showed him that i was able to see the inclusions and then he agreed with me that he could too but then left it at that. so im pretty sure i should just leave it at that too and not say anything, i just need some reinforcement to encourage me to just let it go and tell me that i got a great deal. right?
thanks a lot everyone.

 

[Dee*Jay]

So now you''ve got a diamond that you''re not happy with for the same amount of money that you could buy one that you would potentially be happy with (I see a bunch of F SI1s that would be right around $3K with the PS discount--I am making an assumption that an F color would be OK for you). Sorry for the bluntness from the peanut gallery here, but if it were me that stone would have to go back.

Seriously, if you can *see* the inclusions in the stone right off the bat they will be *all* you can see going forward.

Do you HAVE to get something from this uncle? Can you take a little time and get educated on the four Cs and then buy a stone from a reputable PS vendor?

 

[Kaleigh]

What does the wise Mrssalvo say?? A deal is a deal only if you get what you want?? I don''t care who you buy from Uncle, etc... If you can see the inclusions spot on you won''t be happy with this stone in the long run. I''d stay on here, get educated and buy online. I bought a beautiful oval from GOG, and would tell you to check out WF as well. Good luck.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Ditto! Please return it while you can. If you aren''t happy with the inclusions now, it will always bother you.

 

[Sparkalicious]

Namsori,

I''m so sorry that you are not happy with your diamond.

If it is any comfort at all, I can completely relate to your situation and thoughts.

When I first started on the journey towards diamond enlightenment

my boyfriend and I were at a store looking at several different diamonds. I found one that I really liked. It was really pretty - F Si2. This was the first mention I ever heard of the term "eye clean". Just as you described, I thought "fantastic" - What do I care if there are inclusions if I can''t see them?? Yay, right?

... Nope ...

I tell you things changed as soon as I saw that sucker under a loupe and "found" the inclusions.

The chemical make up or electrical wiring or whatever completely altered in my brain and I became some kind of human diamond plotting device. When I looked at the diamond after that, the inclusions were all I could see. Granted it did help when I went outside and looked at it under normal lighting, it was beautiful still, however, it no longer "felt" good or I guess I had succumbed to "mind clean" syndrome. To me, it was no longer perfect and I knew, just knew that I could not make this diamond my own.

Still totally naive, uneducated about diamonds & hesitant of losing out on what I thought was a good deal, my bf and I decided to hold this diamond so it would be up for grabs for someone else. I debated about it for a long time and was leery of not buying it so I decided to go online and learn as much about diamonds as possible so that I could fortify myself with the knowledge I would need to make an effective decision.

After learning more about diamonds, it quckly became apparent that I was settling if I decided to go with this stone. Ultimately, it was not what I was looking for quality & price wise, and there were plenty of other, far superior diamonds out there to be had.

The moral of my rambling story is not to settle. Settling for a diamond that you are no longer enamoured with will only fester and possibly cause bad feelings down the road. It is still early enough to have a heart to heart with your bf and express the rationale behind your thoughts. I am sure that the intent behind the purchase of this diamond was to please you and your bf would likely not be satisfied with you being less than thrilled with it and will want to ensure that you both find something that you are in love with.

Give it a go

... Talk to him and assess your options together. You may be surprised at what you guys come up with!

This is just my 2 cents. I wish you "diamond delight" and the best of luck on your search! I''m positive you will find something that you cannot take your eyes off

of instead of something that you want to take a scrub brush to.

Let us know how it goes!