Definition of a good spouse.

[Karl_K]

thinks your something special and makes you want to prove them right

washes the dishes lol

 

[loriken214]

Loves you in spite of having steroid "moon face."

Helps you out of bed when you hurt so bad that you can hardly move.

Pulls your panties up/down when your hands don''t work and you need to go potty.

Sings "You Are So Beautiful To Me" when you least expect it.

Takes the vow of "in sickness and in health" seriously and has never once complained about my illnesses and how they have changed me.

DH didn''t sign up for this, but has accepted everything that has come our way since we found each other again.

Lori

 

[Arkteia]

My answer is serious - sorry, I can not laugh at this.

My parents lived together for 41 year till my mother died in 1999. My father always loved her, was a devoted husband, a good provider. She got sick with leukemia, but she had a better version - she died in 4 years; she was really a fighter.
She did not want to go to the hospital, so my father, who was a doctor, took home bags with saline, solutions and chemo and gave her shots and infusions.
She developed hepatitis B and C from blood transfusions and could no longer take her chemo. Around that time, she developed some complication so that half of her colon had to be resected and she had colostomy.
Even with colostomy bags, it is hard to take care of the stoma. Plus, she was very sick at that time. My father took full care of her colostomy, cleaned the area, changed the bags...all these extremely unpleasant things. He cleaned her, he bathed her. She had no appetite; he cooked the best foods for her. He was standing on his knees, begging her to eat, but she would not.
He was totally alone because we were living in the US and I had my problems with illness, residency and my family.
She died two weeks before his 70th birthday. We had tickets to Moscow...apparently were several days late.
He insisted on keeping her on ventilator for two days so that I could kiss a warm cheek and not a cold corpse.
After she died, he told me he had never been unfaithful to her - and he was a handsome, very well-positioned man, so there were lots of opportunities.
He was totally broken and I had to leave my son who was more like a son to my father (he never had a boy) to stay with him for the summertime.
He never remarried although with so many widows around, there were ample opportunities.

He is not always easy to live with, and he is quite moody, but I think he was an ideal husband. I never saw anyone better.

Sorry, it is a sad story.

 

[snowflakeluvr]

What wonderful testimonies to love and to marriage! I am teary eyes and touched at your candor.

I did not have an ideal father, so...I do not have an ideal husband. I don''t know if there''s a correlation? Twenty three years on Easter Sunday with hubby but they have been draining, hard years. We made five gorgeous children, though, and they are my joy.

Kudos to you who have found and chosen the right mate! I love love and your precious stories.

 

[MissMina]

Is an Hororable man (That covers a lot)
We make each other laugh
Physically appealing
Can roll with the punches, make lemonade and go to plan B
In other words must be a positive person who doesn''t let rain spoil our parade
of life.

 

[platinumrock]

My husband goes by the "Happy wife, happy life" mantra.

So far, soo good.

 

[platinumrock]

Date: 3/30/2010 2:02:59 AM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 3/29/2010 8:10:22 PM
Author:Gypsy

What do you expect from your SO?

a big diamond.

LOL! That always helps.

 

[PumpkinPie]

Thank you loriken and crasru for speaking so openly and eloquently about the meaning of love. Your stories brought tears to my eyes - I hope my husband or I do not end up ill or disabled, but I know that if we did, the other would want to be the kind of person you''ve described

 

[Miscka]

LS - That made me tear up. What a loving husband and example for all you both are.

My paternal grandfather had Alzheimers for 8 years, and my grandmother nursed him and never complained. My other grandparents both have had serious bumps in the road (mental illness, addiction) and yet, 58 years married in October and they are still madly in love. So nice to know that kind of love endures.

 

[Steel]

I expect him to be faithful.

I love him for the many ways he shows me that he is a great partner but about all I ''expect'' from him is that he is faithful & honest.

 

[Gypsy]

So many great stories. Actually many of them are making me appreciate my step-dad more and more. He''s a great husband to my mom in many ways.

Perspective is always and interesting thing. Thanks for sharing so much to give us food for thought.

 

[AmberGretchen]

My best friend and the first person I want to call whenever something happens in my life...sad, happy, funny, whatever it is, I know he''ll always want to hear about it and he''ll always be there to share it with me.

 

[Steel]

Date: 3/31/2010 4:45:03 AM
Author: crasru
My answer is serious - sorry, I can not laugh at this.

My parents lived together for 41 year till my mother died in 1999. My father always loved her, was a devoted husband, a good provider. She got sick with leukemia, but she had a better version - she died in 4 years; she was really a fighter.
She did not want to go to the hospital, so my father, who was a doctor, took home bags with saline, solutions and chemo and gave her shots and infusions.
She developed hepatitis B and C from blood transfusions and could no longer take her chemo. Around that time, she developed some complication so that half of her colon had to be resected and she had colostomy.
Even with colostomy bags, it is hard to take care of the stoma. Plus, she was very sick at that time. My father took full care of her colostomy, cleaned the area, changed the bags...all these extremely unpleasant things. He cleaned her, he bathed her. She had no appetite; he cooked the best foods for her. He was standing on his knees, begging her to eat, but she would not.
He was totally alone because we were living in the US and I had my problems with illness, residency and my family.
She died two weeks before his 70th birthday. We had tickets to Moscow...apparently were several days late.
He insisted on keeping her on ventilator for two days so that I could kiss a warm cheek and not a cold corpse.
After she died, he told me he had never been unfaithful to her - and he was a handsome, very well-positioned man, so there were lots of opportunities.
He was totally broken and I had to leave my son who was more like a son to my father (he never had a boy) to stay with him for the summertime.
He never remarried although with so many widows around, there were ample opportunities.

He is not always easy to live with, and he is quite moody, but I think he was an ideal husband. I never saw anyone better.

Sorry, it is a sad story.

No. This is not a sad story. It is as beautiful, as love truly is.

I am sorry for your loss, crasru.