DD college visits and I am getting weepy

[soocool]

DD starts her high school senior year in 4 weeks. She has been visiting colleges since her junior year, but has been narrowing down her search as she completes a couple more college visits this summer. I did not go with her on her last one because I became very weepy during the previous visit. I guess the reality is beginning to settle in and I get tears in my eyes everytime I look at her.

For those who have children in college, how did you handle it? Did your kids go far away to college? How long before you adjusted?

And for those who recently completed college, was the transition from home to college living difficult? How long before you adjusted?

 

[PinkTower]

I will be in the same situation next year. My children are nearly nine years apart, and I always loved it because I always had a baby.

 

[Haven]

soocool--I wanted to pop in here and tell you a story about my mom and how she coped with her first born (me) going off to college.

During my junior and senior years of high school I would often come home to find my mom sitting on the living room sofa SOBBING. There would be college mailers at her feet, you know all those advertisements they send out to high school students? Seeing those were like instant tears for my mom.

I ended up going to college in state, and my mom cried the entire three hour drive to campus on move-in day, continued to cry during the entire move-in process (which lasted hours,) and according to my dad, she sobbed all the way back home.

SO, I'm only sharing this story so you don't feel so bad. I was an RA in a freshman dorm for two years, and we saw a lot of crying moms on move-in day. Dads, too. I think it's sweet.

 

[lyra]

My oldest daughter commutes to university, so that's fine. My youngest daughter did one semester away at college and then decided to switch schools so she would be closer to home. The difficulty for her was that she couldn't budget her money at all, which made us pretty angry. She got homesick and missed friends that went to schools closer to home. On the more positive side, she did become a bit more mature, learned to fend for herself, cook and clean and get around using transit. It was harder on her dad than me actually. I love to see my daughters becoming self-reliant, so that I know they will be able to fully care for themselves in the future. I think that's why I had less trouble.

 

[soocool]

soocool--I wanted to pop in here and tell you a story about my mom and how she coped with her first born (me) going off to college.

During my junior and senior years of high school I would often come home to find my mom sitting on the living room sofa SOBBING. There would be college mailers at her feet, you know all those advertisements they send out to high school students? Seeing those were like instant tears for my mom.

I ended up going to college in state, and my mom cried the entire three hour drive to campus on move-in day, continued to cry during the entire move-in process (which lasted hours,) and according to my dad, she sobbed all the way back home.

SO, I'm only sharing this story so you don't feel so bad. I was an RA in a freshman dorm for two years, and we saw a lot of crying moms on move-in day. Dads, too. I think it's sweet.

So Haven, are you telling me to buy lots of tissues? lol

Thanks for the story. At least now I don't feel so alone in this.

 

[soocool]

My oldest daughter commutes to university, so that's fine. My youngest daughter did one semester away at college and then decided to switch schools so she would be closer to home. The difficulty for her was that she couldn't budget her money at all, which made us pretty angry. She got homesick and missed friends that went to schools closer to home. On the more positive side, she did become a bit more mature, learned to fend for herself, cook and clean and get around using transit. It was harder on her dad than me actually. I love to see my daughters becoming self-reliant, so that I know they will be able to fully care for themselves in the future. I think that's why I had less trouble.

I guess you really don't know how it will go until they're gone. I am sure it would make me feel a lot better if she lived at home and commuted, unfortunately no schools close enough for what she wants.

 

[soocool]

I will be in the same situation next year. My children are nearly nine years apart, and I always loved it because I always had a baby.

Yes it is nice when you still have one at home. It'll keep you busy so you don't think of the other one as much.

 

[Kaleigh]

DD starts her high school senior year in 4 weeks. She has been visiting colleges since her junior year, but has been narrowing down her search as she completes a couple more college visits this summer. I did not go with her on her last one because I became very weepy during the previous visit. I guess the reality is beginning to settle in and I get tears in my eyes everytime I look at her.

For those who have children in college, how did you handle it? Did your kids go far away to college? How long before you adjusted?

And for those who recently completed college, was the transition from home to college living difficult? How long before you adjusted?

Hugs. I know how that is... DD went to school close by , her choice and just graduated.. DS is hours away, but manages to take the train home, which I love..

I didn't call them, let them call me... Before I knew it , they called me a lot, or IM'd.. Either way we were in close contact..


You'll be fine Momma!!! HUGS!!!