katrina_33
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As I get to the age where my friends, and close friends of my boyfriend''s are getting engaged right and left (so I have more of an "insiders" perspective) it seems like in almost every situation that I have insider info about, there was some pretty intense pressure exerted by the girlfriend, if not an outright deadline / ultimatum presented. In your experience, what percentage of your friends / aquaintances do you think got engaged under these circumstances, vs. a total surprise or the guy initiating the whole process?
I think people tend to gloss over this part when talking about it to all but their closest friends, so before I had close friends get engaged this kind of situation seemed terrible and desparate, whereas now it''s starting to seem almost like the norm.
It seems to go on a lot more than people let on. (Except for on pricescope where we''re all in the same boat and talk about it pretty openly.)
thoughts?!?!?
Mind you, these aren''t the circumstances under which I want to get engaged (which is why I have waited a solid year and counting past when I first got urges to start with the pressure!!!), but I''m wondering: if women never put pressure on, would any guy ever propose? Will my boyfriend wait until I do get really distraught over it because otherwise he won''t quite be motivated enough?
It seems like a vast majority of men will wait until the woman initiates the conversation and starts getting kind of antsy - basically, until they feel like they kind of "have to" to do it.
Am I just cynical, or is this really how it is for the majority of couples getting engaged today? Is this changing, or has it always been this way?
I think people tend to gloss over this part when talking about it to all but their closest friends, so before I had close friends get engaged this kind of situation seemed terrible and desparate, whereas now it''s starting to seem almost like the norm.
It seems to go on a lot more than people let on. (Except for on pricescope where we''re all in the same boat and talk about it pretty openly.)
thoughts?!?!?
Mind you, these aren''t the circumstances under which I want to get engaged (which is why I have waited a solid year and counting past when I first got urges to start with the pressure!!!), but I''m wondering: if women never put pressure on, would any guy ever propose? Will my boyfriend wait until I do get really distraught over it because otherwise he won''t quite be motivated enough?
It seems like a vast majority of men will wait until the woman initiates the conversation and starts getting kind of antsy - basically, until they feel like they kind of "have to" to do it.
Am I just cynical, or is this really how it is for the majority of couples getting engaged today? Is this changing, or has it always been this way?