I have suffered from a bad back since I was a little girl. I've been told that this is most likely caused by the way I stand and the way my leg muscles and feet muscles pull me forward). It was never really bad though until this January when the pain stopped being a slight stiffness and turned into what felt like very very strong heartburn in my spine and a stabbing sensation. I also lost sensation in some of my fingers. I went to the doctors and was told I probably had a slipped disc (not herniated thank god) and was given strong painkillers.
In the last month the pain has started again but since I am about the finish my degree and ridiculously busy I just took the painkillers and waited for the pain to stop.
Last week it started again in the evening. I was sitting on the sofa and told my BF that I was in a lot of pain. He asked me if I had taken painkillers (which I then did) but then pretty much ignored me as I took deep breaths and even after I started crying from the pain. After about 20 minutes of this I went to bed. I was incredibly upset that he didn't support me and try to help me and this only made the pain stronger.
Afterwards I confronted him and we had a long conversation where he admitted that he was trying to ignore me because he felt the pain was my fault because I have not taken steps to strengthen my back.
Now, I will admit that I 100% should be doing pilates and stretching every day. I am not disagreeing with his point that I could perhaps have prevented the pain (my excuse is that I am so so busy at the moment- I work about 18 hours a day). What I did very strongly disagree with is that there should ever be a situation where I am in pain and he does not help me or care for me. He disagreed (because he said he wasn't actually being cruel) and he spent his first night on the sofa of our 3 1/2 year relationship.
Am I right? I'm really looking for honest opinions because I'm aware that I am also to blame (and obviously for the sake of making sense I've skipped a few details so please ask away). I don't know how to feel about this...
In the last month the pain has started again but since I am about the finish my degree and ridiculously busy I just took the painkillers and waited for the pain to stop.
Last week it started again in the evening. I was sitting on the sofa and told my BF that I was in a lot of pain. He asked me if I had taken painkillers (which I then did) but then pretty much ignored me as I took deep breaths and even after I started crying from the pain. After about 20 minutes of this I went to bed. I was incredibly upset that he didn't support me and try to help me and this only made the pain stronger.
Afterwards I confronted him and we had a long conversation where he admitted that he was trying to ignore me because he felt the pain was my fault because I have not taken steps to strengthen my back.
Now, I will admit that I 100% should be doing pilates and stretching every day. I am not disagreeing with his point that I could perhaps have prevented the pain (my excuse is that I am so so busy at the moment- I work about 18 hours a day). What I did very strongly disagree with is that there should ever be a situation where I am in pain and he does not help me or care for me. He disagreed (because he said he wasn't actually being cruel) and he spent his first night on the sofa of our 3 1/2 year relationship.
Am I right? I'm really looking for honest opinions because I'm aware that I am also to blame (and obviously for the sake of making sense I've skipped a few details so please ask away). I don't know how to feel about this...