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Brilliant_Rock
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I knew my time would come and boy, did it!!
I feel guilty posting her entire psycho email on here, so I will just give bits and pieces of it. I also vented plenty about it to my mom and friends this weekend, but I couldn''t NOT post something this significant on PS.
First off, we are one of many that did not include children on the invitations. We left it a grey area and when family and friends called asking if kids were invited, we had a couple of different things we said. For immediate family, we said "yes, absolutely". For friends we said "If possible, get a babysitter so that you can let loose and stay the entire time. If that''s not possible, we''d love for them to be there." I will admit that we''ve made a couple of little mistakes along the way here, so don''t bite my head off. I''ve already scolded myself on these things. We didn''t include anyone on the inner envelope except the head of household, ie: Mr. and Mrs. or Mr. _____ and guest. We didn''t include older children (teenagers) or children in college. This slipped my mind, actually. Of course we want these older kids to come and we''re making the calls to let family know this. There''s only 2 cases of this, so it''s not the end of the world.
We just decided not to include any children on the invitations, but I regret that now.
Putting that aside, MIL lost her mind and sent myself and FI an email. She started off with a buffer (a lame one, IMO) about how pretty our invitations were and how great my handwriting is. Then she starts on how no one has asked her opinion on anything to do with the wedding and she has not felt the need to speak up until now. (I have tried to include her on everything I can, but she lives 4 hours away.) She says people have been calling her asking about the children situation. She goes on to say how I may not have an understanding of family because I have no siblings. We are causing a rift in the family if we''re not inviting kids and if we just want to throw a "drunk party" then to let her know. She goes on to name specific kids (neices and nephews) that would love to see us get married. The parents of these particular kids, KNOW their kids are invited. She lists all these families and how each of them have already prepared to come and she made it sound like people were hurt and upset. She then complains about our couples shower that was thrown together last minute in Houston. She knew she couldn''t make it, yet she was upset that no one on her side was invited. Keep in mind, FI''s family lives 4 hours away and they had just traveled to our engagement party a couple of weeks before. We didn''t even want a shower. She starts to bring up my bachelorette party and how none of FI''s sisters are invited. It''s going to be a slumber party type deal with friends only! I''m not even inviting anyone on my side of the family. I really doubt his 40 year old sisters would want or be able to make this.
Basically, this is the deal. I realize that you should invite people even if you know they can''t make it. I did this with the wedding invitations. For everything else, I did not. FI seemed to blow that off as well. The point is, she has no idea what she''s talking about and she crossed the line. She continued so say things that are simply not true and made it sound like all these people were hurt. After his siblings heard about they email, they all called or emailed me to tell me that they did not complain about a thing. They explained to me that MIL is crazy and does this before every single wedding.
I was so upset and can''t remember ever feeling so angry. She made us out to be children haters, party animals, you name it. After I brought the email to FI''s attention, he did what he needed to and called her. I''ve never seen him talk to his mother like he did, but it was valid. She realized what she had done and apologized. He told her to reread her email, which she did and sent an apology email (all in CAPS)
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It stressed me out beyond belief...and I probably overreacted. I just don''t have anyone in my family that would do such a thing. FI says to understand the source..she''s older, lives away from everything, and is bored. She sits and brews over things, then types an email and sends it without reading it first. It''s not the first time she''s done this, but I hope it''s the last for me!
I feel guilty posting her entire psycho email on here, so I will just give bits and pieces of it. I also vented plenty about it to my mom and friends this weekend, but I couldn''t NOT post something this significant on PS.
First off, we are one of many that did not include children on the invitations. We left it a grey area and when family and friends called asking if kids were invited, we had a couple of different things we said. For immediate family, we said "yes, absolutely". For friends we said "If possible, get a babysitter so that you can let loose and stay the entire time. If that''s not possible, we''d love for them to be there." I will admit that we''ve made a couple of little mistakes along the way here, so don''t bite my head off. I''ve already scolded myself on these things. We didn''t include anyone on the inner envelope except the head of household, ie: Mr. and Mrs. or Mr. _____ and guest. We didn''t include older children (teenagers) or children in college. This slipped my mind, actually. Of course we want these older kids to come and we''re making the calls to let family know this. There''s only 2 cases of this, so it''s not the end of the world.
We just decided not to include any children on the invitations, but I regret that now.
Putting that aside, MIL lost her mind and sent myself and FI an email. She started off with a buffer (a lame one, IMO) about how pretty our invitations were and how great my handwriting is. Then she starts on how no one has asked her opinion on anything to do with the wedding and she has not felt the need to speak up until now. (I have tried to include her on everything I can, but she lives 4 hours away.) She says people have been calling her asking about the children situation. She goes on to say how I may not have an understanding of family because I have no siblings. We are causing a rift in the family if we''re not inviting kids and if we just want to throw a "drunk party" then to let her know. She goes on to name specific kids (neices and nephews) that would love to see us get married. The parents of these particular kids, KNOW their kids are invited. She lists all these families and how each of them have already prepared to come and she made it sound like people were hurt and upset. She then complains about our couples shower that was thrown together last minute in Houston. She knew she couldn''t make it, yet she was upset that no one on her side was invited. Keep in mind, FI''s family lives 4 hours away and they had just traveled to our engagement party a couple of weeks before. We didn''t even want a shower. She starts to bring up my bachelorette party and how none of FI''s sisters are invited. It''s going to be a slumber party type deal with friends only! I''m not even inviting anyone on my side of the family. I really doubt his 40 year old sisters would want or be able to make this.
Basically, this is the deal. I realize that you should invite people even if you know they can''t make it. I did this with the wedding invitations. For everything else, I did not. FI seemed to blow that off as well. The point is, she has no idea what she''s talking about and she crossed the line. She continued so say things that are simply not true and made it sound like all these people were hurt. After his siblings heard about they email, they all called or emailed me to tell me that they did not complain about a thing. They explained to me that MIL is crazy and does this before every single wedding.
I was so upset and can''t remember ever feeling so angry. She made us out to be children haters, party animals, you name it. After I brought the email to FI''s attention, he did what he needed to and called her. I''ve never seen him talk to his mother like he did, but it was valid. She realized what she had done and apologized. He told her to reread her email, which she did and sent an apology email (all in CAPS)
It stressed me out beyond belief...and I probably overreacted. I just don''t have anyone in my family that would do such a thing. FI says to understand the source..she''s older, lives away from everything, and is bored. She sits and brews over things, then types an email and sends it without reading it first. It''s not the first time she''s done this, but I hope it''s the last for me!
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