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Brilliant_Rock
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Hi all,
I''m looking for some input... I have a confusing and strange (and seemingly undiagnosable) chronic pain condition. Some days I can manage a normal lifestyle, some days I can''t get off the couch (literally). I live with my boyfriend, who, luckily, is wonderful about it. He understands that I have limited energy on all days and that there are certain things that I can''t do around the house, as much as I''d like to. The problem is, when he does push, I feel terrible. Not blaming him terrible, but like I''m lazy.
So my question is, others in relationships where illness plays a role, how do you manage chores and the house? How do you keep guilt or resentment from building up? We talk about it a lot, but I guess I worry if I apologize too much or bring it up too much he''ll just get sick of the situation faster. I guess its a form of "what they don''t realize won''t hurt them
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I''m looking for some input... I have a confusing and strange (and seemingly undiagnosable) chronic pain condition. Some days I can manage a normal lifestyle, some days I can''t get off the couch (literally). I live with my boyfriend, who, luckily, is wonderful about it. He understands that I have limited energy on all days and that there are certain things that I can''t do around the house, as much as I''d like to. The problem is, when he does push, I feel terrible. Not blaming him terrible, but like I''m lazy.
So my question is, others in relationships where illness plays a role, how do you manage chores and the house? How do you keep guilt or resentment from building up? We talk about it a lot, but I guess I worry if I apologize too much or bring it up too much he''ll just get sick of the situation faster. I guess its a form of "what they don''t realize won''t hurt them