Begonia
Ideal_Rock
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I was reading Kenny's thread about banning too skinny models. It got me thinking about something that been rubbing me the wrong way since my teens, and I didn't want to threadjack.
For most of my life, my BMI has been below 18.5. Now that I am in my 40's, it is just 18.5 (from what I can tell by the chart).
People in my life (friends and mere acquaintances) have always felt it acceptable to comment on my weight. Sometimes it is just that, a comment that I am slender (I prefer slender over skinny as the reference is always "oh you're so skinny"). At other times, it crosses my line of acceptable. For instance: "Oh you're so skinny, do you eat?", "Oh you're so skinny, so you deny yourself XYZ?". Just for the record, I don't look dangerously thin, so I don't feel these comments come from a place of concern. Concern I can totally relate to and encourage.
What makes it alright to comment about my weight? I would never dream of discussing my one friends weight to her, which is, by my calculation around 225-240 lbs.
The irony is I do eat. I eat all day. Small meals of nutrient-dense food. I also exercise and avoid empty calories (not always successfully).
Just sayin'
and
Wonderin' if anyone else can relate to this?
For most of my life, my BMI has been below 18.5. Now that I am in my 40's, it is just 18.5 (from what I can tell by the chart).
People in my life (friends and mere acquaintances) have always felt it acceptable to comment on my weight. Sometimes it is just that, a comment that I am slender (I prefer slender over skinny as the reference is always "oh you're so skinny"). At other times, it crosses my line of acceptable. For instance: "Oh you're so skinny, do you eat?", "Oh you're so skinny, so you deny yourself XYZ?". Just for the record, I don't look dangerously thin, so I don't feel these comments come from a place of concern. Concern I can totally relate to and encourage.
What makes it alright to comment about my weight? I would never dream of discussing my one friends weight to her, which is, by my calculation around 225-240 lbs.
The irony is I do eat. I eat all day. Small meals of nutrient-dense food. I also exercise and avoid empty calories (not always successfully).
Just sayin'
and
Wonderin' if anyone else can relate to this?