SparkleIllinois
Rough_Rock
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- Nov 29, 2006
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So some of you know my story, bf has switched timelines on me a couple of times, all of my friends are engaged, i was feeling pretty sorry for myself for a while but have been trying my best to just let things develop on their own.
Well this weekend we were at a party and one of my bf''s friends girlfriends was complaining about how her bf is being slow with the ring process and she is getting frustrated and doesn''t understand what is taking so long. I didn''t want to take part in the convo because lord knows I''ve been enough stress on my bf and i''m trying really hard to stop that lol. So I got up and went to the bathroom.
On my way BACK i could hear them talking from around the corner so I tried to wait until they were done. My boyfriend didn''t know I was there and I heard him tell her.(this is paraphrased especially since i almost started crying halfway through listening)
"Listen, you KNOW he wants to marry you. You KNOW he is going to get the ring. So my advice to you is.... LET HIM. Just let him do this one thing. It has been drilled in the heads of guys that weddings are YOUR day and they''re about you, and that is totally fine with us. But knowing that, let us have this one thing. Have you ever spent 2 months of YOUR salary on something that you''re going to give to someone ELSE? Its not that easy.Guys have to share all the other stuff with everyone else. When the bride comes down the aisle, he sees her for the first time and its special but everybody else is seeing her at the same time. When he proposes, its HIM that gets to be the one to look into your eyes. He''s going to be the one to see that look on your face when you see the ring. This is his one thing. Let him do it."
Needless to say although he wasn''t aware that I was listening, he has managed to ASSURE that I will shut up about the engagement for the rest of this year, lol.
Just thought I''d share!
Well this weekend we were at a party and one of my bf''s friends girlfriends was complaining about how her bf is being slow with the ring process and she is getting frustrated and doesn''t understand what is taking so long. I didn''t want to take part in the convo because lord knows I''ve been enough stress on my bf and i''m trying really hard to stop that lol. So I got up and went to the bathroom.
On my way BACK i could hear them talking from around the corner so I tried to wait until they were done. My boyfriend didn''t know I was there and I heard him tell her.(this is paraphrased especially since i almost started crying halfway through listening)
"Listen, you KNOW he wants to marry you. You KNOW he is going to get the ring. So my advice to you is.... LET HIM. Just let him do this one thing. It has been drilled in the heads of guys that weddings are YOUR day and they''re about you, and that is totally fine with us. But knowing that, let us have this one thing. Have you ever spent 2 months of YOUR salary on something that you''re going to give to someone ELSE? Its not that easy.Guys have to share all the other stuff with everyone else. When the bride comes down the aisle, he sees her for the first time and its special but everybody else is seeing her at the same time. When he proposes, its HIM that gets to be the one to look into your eyes. He''s going to be the one to see that look on your face when you see the ring. This is his one thing. Let him do it."
Needless to say although he wasn''t aware that I was listening, he has managed to ASSURE that I will shut up about the engagement for the rest of this year, lol.
Just thought I''d share!